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Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 7, 2008, at 18:36:09
Sometimes I just want to disappear from the world because nobody cares about me and MY feelings. I hate cliques. I hate exclusion. I hate this world that has no place for me in it. I hate deception. I hate veiled insults. ;(
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 7, 2008, at 18:43:52
In reply to Feeling really bad, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 7, 2008, at 18:36:09
Most of all I hate myself.
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 7, 2008, at 18:48:28
In reply to Feeling really bad, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 7, 2008, at 18:36:09
I hate being told to shut up and to go away. This is NOT a safe place, I NEED to leave here. I give up being here.
Posted by TherapyGirl on December 7, 2008, at 19:22:06
In reply to Re: Feeling really bad, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 7, 2008, at 18:48:28
I have no idea what happened, SoSlided, but I'm sorry you're hurt. I don't want you to shut up OR go away.
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 7, 2008, at 19:38:40
In reply to Re: Feeling really bad » SlugSlimersSoSlided, posted by TherapyGirl on December 7, 2008, at 19:22:06
I am really HURT. Nobody really cares about me, I am always the bad person that people sees , nobody sees the hurt that is done to me. I am always the guilty one, I am the one punished. I am the bad one, only because I cry out in pain. I am the bullied kid on the playground, who is the only one who gets punished.
There is no safe place in my life for me, even babble is unsafe for me.
Posted by TherapyGirl on December 7, 2008, at 19:41:27
In reply to Re: Feeling really bad, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 7, 2008, at 19:38:40
I care and I don't think you're a bad person. I've been in that place, though, and I hate that you're there now. What I've had to try to do (sometimes unsuccessfully) is create my safe place inside myself. It doesn't always work, but it's better than if I didn't have it.
I hope Babbleland will be safe for you again soon. I'm sorry.
Posted by Deputy Racer on December 7, 2008, at 19:42:32
In reply to Re: Feeling really bad, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 7, 2008, at 18:48:28
> I hate being told to shut up and to go away. This is NOT a safe place, I NEED to leave here. I give up being here.
You've already been asked not to post anything which could lead others to feel accused or put down. This post seems to be a continuation of that behavior. I'm going to block you from posting for two weeks.
I'm sorry to block you, and I do hope you understand that the decision is based on your behavior, and does not mean that you are not welcome here. It only means that certain behavior is not welcome here, for the safety of everyone.
If you have any questions regarding the posting policies on this site, please read the FAQ, located at http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil Follow ups to this action should be directed to the Administration board and should themselves be civil.
Dr Bob has ultimate authority over all administrative issues on this site, and may choose at any time to revise or reverse any action taken by a deputy.
Deputy Racer
Posted by twinleaf on December 7, 2008, at 22:15:19
In reply to Blocked for 2 weeks » SlugSlimersSoSlided, posted by Deputy Racer on December 7, 2008, at 19:42:32
There are several things in this sequence of posts which are unclear to me. I'm not sure whether SSSS had named a particular poster or posters in some other thread, but I did not feel that any poster was being criticized or put down in this particular thread. Rather, she seemed to be in mounting distress over feelings from her past. She has shared with us that this is also taking place during her therapy hours, and that overall it is a very difficult time for her.
In view of this, I'm sorry to see that she got blocked. I think a block can feel very rejecting and judgmental when someone is so vulnerable. I would have much preferred to see her given unconditional support. If it was really necessary to ask her to modify any of her posts, I think it could have been done very carefully and gently- not even with a PBC, but with a respectful reminder.
Posted by muffled on December 8, 2008, at 0:09:00
In reply to this seemed like a cry for help..., posted by twinleaf on December 7, 2008, at 22:15:19
I think twinleaf, and I don't presume to assume.
But when I used to escalate, I WANTED them to block me.
I often would have to be VERY clear in order to get a block.
I think this poster was very clear in a thread above, if you missed that.
Mostly I hate blocks, but sometimes they are a gift.
A chance to break away and get out of babbleland for a bit.
Thats the case for me in the past.
I hope she knows and understands that many care for her here.
She has gone and come back a few times before.
She is always welcomed back.
She is alot of fun.
I hope she is able to connect with her T, who seems very good.
I can't speak to her directly, but I wish her well.
M
Posted by obsidian on December 8, 2008, at 0:13:48
In reply to Feeling really bad, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 7, 2008, at 18:36:09
hey SSSS,
I'm not sure what you mean by veiled insults.
What is clear to me is that you feel incredibly hurt, and that is what concerns me the most.
It seems to me that you are having such a rough time right now, and also that you really don't feel safe here right now.
I wish we could speak more clearly about what you think those insults are.
I do not think badly of you. I think you're doing the best you can with everything that therapy and life brings with it.
Please be gentle with yourself. Do not judge yourself harshly. You are a good person, and you deserve good things.
-sid
Posted by BayLeaf on December 8, 2008, at 6:23:51
In reply to Re: this seemed like a cry for help... » twinleaf, posted by muffled on December 8, 2008, at 0:09:00
In CBT there is a cognitive error called "Jumping to conclusions or mind-reading imagining what people think without any evidence".
It has to do with assuming people think the way we do. I don't think you two think the same way. Not that one thinks better than the other - you two just think differently. And that's OK.
Bay
Posted by Deputy Racer on December 8, 2008, at 8:38:48
In reply to this seemed like a cry for help..., posted by twinleaf on December 7, 2008, at 22:15:19
Hello, I've redirected a number of posts on this thread to the Administrative board, and here's a link to them:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20081003/msgs/867435.html
Any further follow ups regarding the administrative aspects of this thread should be posted on the Administrative board. Any further posts expressing your support of SSSS should remain here.
Thank you.
Deputy Racer
Posted by antigua3 on December 8, 2008, at 9:39:38
In reply to Feeling really bad, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 7, 2008, at 18:36:09
People here certainly do care about you and your opinions. I know I do, that's for sure. But people disagree w/one another, and that never means the person is wrong; it's just that we all hold different opinions and we need to respect that.
These feelings seem to be a re-occurring pattern for you, and I hope you bring this up w/your T as it seems to come up again and again.
Wishing you the best,
antigua
Posted by muffled on December 8, 2008, at 9:43:07
In reply to Re: this seemed like a cry for help... » muffled, posted by BayLeaf on December 8, 2008, at 6:23:51
I posted on admin.
I hope SSSS is OK.
M
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