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Posted by rskontos on November 5, 2008, at 13:38:31
Just wanting to make sure you are ok?
rsk
Posted by muffled on November 5, 2008, at 13:53:43
In reply to Hey Witti, you ok?, posted by rskontos on November 5, 2008, at 13:38:31
me too I was wondering...
(((witti)))
Posted by Nadezda on November 5, 2008, at 16:24:38
In reply to Hey Witti, you ok?, posted by rskontos on November 5, 2008, at 13:38:31
Yes, I've been wondering and concerned, too.
Nadezda
Posted by Wittgensteinz on November 6, 2008, at 11:46:50
In reply to Re: Hey Witti, you ok?, posted by Nadezda on November 5, 2008, at 16:24:38
Thank you, it has really touched me that someone was thinking about me. I'm sorry I've not posted an update but I will. This week my mother is visiting, so right now I'm holding everything in - so right this moment I feel zilch and as far as she's concerned I'm the picture of health and ladiladida...
I'll post more soon... things haven't exactly been repaired between T and I but let's just say things are moving on and the intensity of the rupture/crisis has lessened, which is good. I'm not sure I will get the repair I'd like but I think I will survive. It's almost like there is too much going on at the moment, too fast and not enough time to process through all of it. I was in a great deal of pain last week, psychologically I mean, but this week I can feel nothing - I suppose a survival mood if you like - auto-pilot.
This weekend I'll have more time and privacy to write some things. I'd like to say, although I only read your post very quickly Rskontos, but I know that feeling exactly about going back to studies (ok I'm at a different lifestage to you) but that fear of failing and the 'is it worth the risk/effort?' - I swing between having the confidence/energy and total disillusion. I also have a strong conviction that my T is mistaken about my capabilities, that I have him fooled.
Anyway, I need to go now - take care everyone. I'm thinking of you too.
Witti
Posted by twinleaf on November 6, 2008, at 16:36:41
In reply to Thank you » Nadezda, posted by Wittgensteinz on November 6, 2008, at 11:46:50
Hi Witti...I''m glad you posted, even in the middle of a mother visit and your intense repair struggles with your T. I'm a lot like you- no matter how painful things were in my inner life, i always seemed to be able to present a cheerful, accomodating, and even humorous self to my parents. I always used to hate myself for doing that, feeling that it was so false, and that I was ignoring the huge problems in our relationship. But now that I've lost both of them, my efforts to connect, and not overwhelm them with the clear problems we had don't seem nearly as bad as they once did.
As much as we might want to, none of us have the option of making a joyful, rewarding relationship with our parents= they do have to do their half, if things are going to work. Mostly, they have, sadly, not grown or changed enough (or had therapy enough) to be able to do this. We might think, "surely they must now realize what is needed for us to be happy with one another", but, most often, they really don't know.
It's impossible to read your posts here, over time, without finding out how intelligent you are .That's not going to change!
I do think that it can sometimes be a problem when therapists begin to realize that they are less gifted and intelligent than
their patients are. I hope that your therapist will keep focussed on the emotional and traumatic origins of your difficulties, and will let you spread your wings, when you are ready, in whatever direction you choose.Take care. It's always great when you post.
Twinleaf
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