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Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 15, 2008, at 9:03:12
I brought in a little key lime (silk) cake, and put candles which spelled out his name and Ph.D. on the top; it had pieces of white chocolate on it. He blew the candles out and said: 'Is it okay if the wish is about you?" I think I know what he meant (that he wants me to find love, etc)....gaackkk...
I brought in a silver star to sit on his credenza, and silver star confetti.
What amazed me, is that he spent 3 hours at the University getting the Ph.D. and Celebrating with colleagues, and came directly to see me; I was the first person (outside his family) that he shared it with.
Still in love with him after 5 (excruciatingly painful) years.......I threw the stars all over him; he threw them back at me.....there's a lot more to the story, but I won't post it here.....
Love, Sassy
Posted by healing928 on October 15, 2008, at 12:42:18
In reply to My T Just Received His Ph.D....We Celebrated, posted by sassyfrancesca on October 15, 2008, at 9:03:12
I don't mean to sound insensitive because we know i have had issues with my t, but why on earth do you continue to do this to yourself?
Very few t's will lose their license in order to be with a client and he is married! Mean who cheat on their wives and then go with the person they are cheating on eventially cheat on that person too!
Life is way tooo short!
Posted by JouezMoi on October 15, 2008, at 15:19:58
In reply to Re: My T Just Received His Ph.D....We Celebrated, posted by healing928 on October 15, 2008, at 12:42:18
Why? Because sometimes it is just fine to be happy in a fantasy than to be unhappy in reality. Come to think of it, what is real anyway. People do this in real life all the time, so what is really wrong with indulging in the happiness of a fantasy. There may be times of frustration, but in the 'real world' that is normal too. So a 'safe' T dream that makes one happy is OK. And when one is ready to move on, one will. In the meantime ...... be happy.
Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 15, 2008, at 15:29:46
In reply to Re: My T Just Received His Ph.D....We Celebrated, posted by JouezMoi on October 15, 2008, at 15:19:58
Thankyou, sweetie...JouezMoi!!
You get it.
Hopefully, someday (after 36 years of abuse; now divorced), I will meet another man, fall in love and be able to leave my t.
He was the 1st man to ever stand up for me, when my church voted me out of membership; we've been through a lot together.
There seems to not be a lot of happiness in the world today..I love someone who isn't available...I cannot....not....love him.
Thanks, JouezMoi.....for understanding
Hugs, Sassy
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Posted by Geegee on October 15, 2008, at 17:15:12
In reply to Re: My T Just Received His Ph.D....We Celebrated » JouezMoi, posted by sassyfrancesca on October 15, 2008, at 15:29:46
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> I will meet another man, fall in love and be able to leave my t.These aren't mutually exclusive conditions, though I can understand if they feel as if they are.
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Posted by lucie lu on October 15, 2008, at 17:29:08
In reply to Re: My T Just Received His Ph.D....We Celebrated » JouezMoi, posted by sassyfrancesca on October 15, 2008, at 15:29:46
> He was the 1st man to ever stand up for me, when my church voted me out of membership; we've been through a lot together.I think that sharing any hardship or trauma is a very bonding experience. I think there have even been studies about that, i.e. the more intense the experience, the stronger the bond. After decades of an abusive marriage, the experience with your church, and I don't know what else, you are bound to bond strongly to someone who knows about all that and supported you unconditionally throughout. Gratitude is also bonding, I think. So it's not too surprising that you feel so attached to him. I hope that you can find someone to replace him, Sassy, you so deserve happiness.
Lucie
Posted by sassyfrancesca on October 16, 2008, at 7:20:22
In reply to Re: My T Just Received His Ph.D....We Celebrated » sassyfrancesca, posted by lucie lu on October 15, 2008, at 17:29:08
(((LucieLu))): Thank you sweetie! You are very kind.
Love, Sassy
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