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Posted by bql on August 23, 2008, at 2:37:13
Hi. I have a problem with my age. I pretty much know where it comes from - my parents. They always criticized me in relation to it. But i want to know how to solve it. The problem is that i always think about my age when i do some bigger things in my life or interact with people. Its like I stereotype others but mostly myself all the time. When theres a concert of a band I like i think about the age of audience that will be there and wil it fit me or not. The same with partys clubs etc. When I get a new contact even if i dont know his or hers age at the beginning and i like the person I can even freak out later when I find it out that he or she turns out to be much younger (older people than I am I dont find so disgraceful to myself). Last time I remember was with a 17 years old girl who I thought was 19 or 20. When I was 16 I wanted to try out alternative clothing but I thought that I am to old for that allready so I did nothing. Now that I am 21 I still want to try it out but now I think that I should have tried it out when I was 16 and now I am to old. Actually there are many things that I want to do which relate to the youth but I consider myself too old for them. I have started to think about when I should become a parent also. And so on there are numerous examples. I hope you get the idea.
Posted by Dinah on August 23, 2008, at 9:47:18
In reply to Self esteem and my age, posted by bql on August 23, 2008, at 2:37:13
You're never too old to try different experiences! Of course, if you have a job or go to school you have to abide by the rules they might have regarding dress.
Age does matter a bit more in the early years, I suppose. A few years makes a lot of difference when it comes to development. As long as you remember to make sure a girl is not a minor, you're safe in terms of the law. And certainly people differ immensely in terms of maturity. But the brain continues developing into the twenties. I don't know, other than to say I noticed a big difference in myself.
As far as having children, my opinion is that the time to have them is when you feel emotionally and physically ready for a difficult lifetime commitment. I waited until I was in my thirties and never regretted it. I was nowhere near ready to be a parent until I was at least thirty.
Just my two cents, based on my own experience.
Posted by sassyfrancesca on August 25, 2008, at 10:41:06
In reply to Self esteem and my age, posted by bql on August 23, 2008, at 2:37:13
I am 61 years old. Age is irrelevant. I went back to school last year and won a scholarship. I am the moderator of an abused survivors' group. I have been published with the Ph.D's.....I've written my memoir, and have some amazing endorsements from some amazing famous people...I have a poetry website with almost 15,000 hits.
I am a dancer, singer, writer, poetess. I joined the army right out of high school, and have let nothing stop me since. I got a divorce after 31 years of abuse.
"If it is to be, it is up to me."
Again, age is irrelevant...unless you want to have a baby...age doesn't mean much. Grandma Moses began painting at age (I think) 80 something.
Do what you want; there are no restrictions, except the one(s) you put on yourself!
P.S. My genetics and attitude allow people to think I am in my 40's.......I still feel 18.
Sassy
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