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Posted by Happyflower on April 7, 2008, at 11:01:09
My personality is one that keeps trying to improve my situation if it needs it whether mental health or other stuff. I have motivation to heal myself, that come from inside of me like a survivor or something. I can get depressed, but eventually I will do what I need to do, talk to my doctor or whatever.
Maybe it is because I am a mother and my kids deserve to have a good mom. Maybe it is because people depend on me so I can't stay in a funk for a long time and eventually go over the top.I just don't think I would let myself get that bad, I am too much of a survior for that. I guess part of me knows I can survive whatever and nothing even childhood doesn't last forever. I don't know exactly what I am saying or why, but it seems like there is something inside of me that keeps me going. Maybe it is why I survived what i did in childhood without as much harm as one would expect.
My T thinks there is something special inside that made me survive my mom while still being somewhat functional. But for me, there isn't any other choice. In some way I feel we are in charge of our life and it is up to us to change and heal if we want to bad enough, but we have to want to change and that is scary sometimes.
Posted by sassyfrancesca on April 7, 2008, at 12:13:24
In reply to I wonder if I will ever want to stop trying?, posted by Happyflower on April 7, 2008, at 11:01:09
Hi, sweetie! I understand; I am the same way. I suggest reading: The Transcendent Child by Lillian Rubin; amazing book.....it describes US.
Love, Sassy
P.S. Just got back from the convention in Hawaii; my t was there alone; there we both were....both alone.......he told me he was looking for me, and would have danced with me.....arrrghhhh
crazy-twin
Posted by B2chica on April 7, 2008, at 13:21:00
In reply to I wonder if I will ever want to stop trying?, posted by Happyflower on April 7, 2008, at 11:01:09
Posted by sunnydays on April 7, 2008, at 15:22:37
In reply to I wonder if I will ever want to stop trying?, posted by Happyflower on April 7, 2008, at 11:01:09
Depression is not a choice, though, not true biological depression. There are coping strategies and stuff, but ultimately if it comes down to biology, it's not a choice. I have complete empathy for people suffering through no fault of their own because of bad biology, because sometimes that's me too. I think I am probably too hard on myself to ever get in a place where I would seriously want to give up, but I understand completely why people do. It's because life is HARD sometimes, and when you add bad biology into the mix, it can feel even harder.
I just wouldn't want anyone to get the impression from your post that depression is a choice or that they should necessarily be able to just will themselves out of it - I've tried, and sometimes it just doesn't work.
sunnydays
Posted by Happyflower on April 7, 2008, at 15:55:18
In reply to Re: I wonder if I will ever want to stop trying? » Happyflower, posted by sunnydays on April 7, 2008, at 15:22:37
I don't think anyone who knows me would think I am saying the depression is a choice, but getting help for it is. There is something inside of me that keeps going, trying to get better, a inner drive that has probably saved my life when I was going through torture and stuff. That all I was thinking I have a overwhelming drive to survive whatever comes my way.
Posted by Happyflower on April 7, 2008, at 15:57:21
In reply to Re: I wonder if I will ever want to stop trying?, posted by sassyfrancesca on April 7, 2008, at 12:13:24
Hey twin,
I have been wondering how things went. Any weddings yet? lol I will have to check out that book!Sorry I have been out of touch, I have been in such a funk the last few months. Thanks for responding!
Posted by Phillipa on April 7, 2008, at 21:08:18
In reply to Re: I wonder if I will ever want to stop trying? » Happyflower, posted by sunnydays on April 7, 2008, at 15:22:37
Sunnydays isn't amazing how many people feel that way? Some are very lucky and find a pill that works right away but it's so important to figure out what may have triggered depression or sadness. Love Phillipa
Posted by Phillipa on April 7, 2008, at 21:11:45
In reply to I wonder if I will ever want to stop trying?, posted by Happyflower on April 7, 2008, at 11:01:09
Happyflower agree with your thread. I've been called a survior too. Keep on plugging away. Working at issues and seeing your doc or maybe taking time for just you. Glad to see you better. Love Phillipa
Posted by Dr. Bob on April 11, 2008, at 3:19:41
In reply to Re: I wonder if I will ever want to stop trying? » Happyflower, posted by Phillipa on April 7, 2008, at 21:11:45
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