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Posted by Happyflower on April 3, 2008, at 13:17:46
He was just glad to see me feeling better, I was kinda getting gitty or he said chipper.
I got on his butt today! haha! I said I know somebody you know, who is my friend who is also a T, and I think you were her therapist but she didnt' tell me I figured it out by what she did say. I said I KNOW you know her (she says she knows you through conferences) and you can't tell me how because of the rules. haha! The look on his face was priceless. But I told him how much of an inspiration she was to me. But I could tell she wasn't telling me all the ways she knew him, she forgot the things she told me over a year ago, and I just put 2 and 2 together. But I won't tell her I know, don't want her to feel uncomfortable.
Then he brought out his EMDR vibrator thingies and I almost wanted to say what is this a duel vibrator, you get one and I get one! lol
I couldn't help it, I feel like a nut today. I am a nut and I feel like one too. lolI am also getting inducted in a couple of weeks to Psi Chi, whoo hoo! Now I can get one of those geeky car stickers! lol Maybe I will get a t-shirt too. lol
Posted by Happyflower on April 3, 2008, at 13:35:24
In reply to Yup! My T agreed and said I was crazy! LOL, posted by Happyflower on April 3, 2008, at 13:17:46
He also said when he brought out the EMDR vibrator thingies that this will only hurt a little bit. I laughed, and said I know about the Milgram experiment and he can't fool me! lol
After I got on him today, I asked him if he liked me better depressed, I didn't have the energy to get on him. He laughed, it was funny. Yup, me crazy!
Posted by Poet on April 3, 2008, at 13:57:41
In reply to Yup! My T agreed and said I was crazy! LOL, posted by Happyflower on April 3, 2008, at 13:17:46
Hi Happyflower,
My T has called me silly, but never crazy, I'm rather jealous. It sounds like it was a fun session and I'm jealous of that, too. Glad to see you back on the boards.
Poet
Posted by sunnydays on April 3, 2008, at 14:29:38
In reply to Yup! My T agreed and said I was crazy! LOL, posted by Happyflower on April 3, 2008, at 13:17:46
I'm glad it was a good session for you. It's really great when we have those magic, everything-clicks moments. I wonder though if you might be defending from something in those moments and using the humor to hide deeper feelings. It reminds me very much of your descriptions of interactions with your former T (forgive me if I am way off base, but your written descriptions seem similar is all), and I wonder if the use of humor is a way for you to deflect some of the pain and 'work' of therapy for a little while. I'm NOT saying you're not working, I am SURE you are, I am just saying that if this use of humor is a pattern for you, it might be something worth exploring. And I'm just not sure why it is so fun to make one's therapist uncomfortable about confidentiality rules, but I totally trust that those are my issues showing through because I tend to go out of my way to make sure I would never offend my T, and I think we're just different in that respect.
Anyway, I'm very glad you had a good session.
sunnydays
Posted by seldomseen on April 3, 2008, at 15:06:49
In reply to Yup! My T agreed and said I was crazy! LOL, posted by Happyflower on April 3, 2008, at 13:17:46
Hey Crazy happyflower! :) :) :) :)
I'm so glad you are feeling good today!!!
BTW what is ego strength??
Seldom.
Posted by Phillipa on April 3, 2008, at 17:19:00
In reply to Re: Yup! My T agreed and said I was crazy! LOL, posted by seldomseen on April 3, 2008, at 15:06:49
Happyflower glad to see you had a great time in theraphy today you deserve it. And so glad your're not depressed anymore. Love Phillipa
Posted by Happyflower on April 3, 2008, at 21:11:17
In reply to Re: Yup! My T agreed and said I was crazy! LOL » Happyflower, posted by Poet on April 3, 2008, at 13:57:41
Thanks Poet,
Yes it was a more lighthearted session than what has been happening over the last month. I didn't even cry and that is a miracle for me lately. I started to feel goofy and more like myself and it felt good, so I just let loose.
He wanted me to stabilize on my Prozac or a least give me a break from the debilitating depression I was feeling. He has a sense of humor and I think it is great. Sometimes laughter is the best therapy.
Posted by Happyflower on April 3, 2008, at 21:26:18
In reply to Re: Yup! My T agreed and said I was crazy! LOL » Happyflower, posted by sunnydays on April 3, 2008, at 14:29:38
Hi Sunnydays,
The humor is just who I am and when I am feeling good I really am very light hearted free spirited.
We talk about resistance quit a bit because since I am an overachiever like him I am always critiquing myself after therapy and how well I do or not. We both know when I resist because I will change the subject many times to divert. But the humor part is just the real me.Believe me normally I am in tears and shaking so hard because I am going through some traumatic stuff. This therapy is a lot different than my last. I am totally myself with him, I don't even wear makeup and I think I have worn the same 3 outfits for the last 6 mo. lol
I wasn't laughing about his comfortableness with confidentiality, I was laughing because he thinks it is incredible on how much I can read people and know when they are lying. And my memory is very good at what people say etc. It used to be used for my survival but now He said this insite will be very valuable when I am a T. He wasn't uncomfortable at all, he was amazed if anything, he was laughing the whole time. He said, I can see I am not going to convince you otherwise. lol
I guess with my T, he treats me more like an equal, he is also a mentor to me in being a good T. He is mostly my T first, but yet he also brings a part into therapy with me he doesn't normally do with other clients. He tells me this, we talk a lot about tranference and all that good stuff.
But the humor is just who I am, I am a nut, truly but I am told my spirit is a lot of fun to be around.
Posted by Happyflower on April 3, 2008, at 21:29:55
In reply to Re: Yup! My T agreed and said I was crazy! LOL, posted by seldomseen on April 3, 2008, at 15:06:49
Hi Seldom!
I think the Prozac is kicking in, I felt good all day which is something that I haven't felt in almost 2 months.
Are you asking about Ego Strength for real or as a joke? I can tell you a little about it, it is something we went over today, it involves EMDR with it.Nice to talk to you again! Hope all is well with you.
Posted by Happyflower on April 3, 2008, at 21:31:40
In reply to Re: Yup! My T agreed and said I was crazy! LOL, posted by Phillipa on April 3, 2008, at 17:19:00
Thanks PHillipa,
I think I am doing better each day so far. Tomorrow will be a full week at this dose. I am feeling more like myself and that is such a relief because I think I was forgetting really who I used to be.
Take care!
Posted by Happyflower on April 3, 2008, at 21:32:34
In reply to Re: Yup! My T agreed and said I was crazy! LOL, posted by Happyflower on April 3, 2008, at 21:29:55
Posted by seldomseen on April 4, 2008, at 6:11:41
In reply to Re: Yup! My T agreed and said I was crazy! LOL, posted by Happyflower on April 3, 2008, at 21:29:55
I don't want to hijack your thread, but I was asking about ego strength for real. I don't know what it is exactly. I guess I just assumed it was the degree of personal efficacy a person feels, but I'm not sure.
Seldom
Posted by Happyflower on April 4, 2008, at 6:28:52
In reply to Re: Yup! My T agreed and said I was crazy! LOL » Happyflower, posted by seldomseen on April 4, 2008, at 6:11:41
Hi Seldom,
Don't worry you are not hijacking anything in my view. lol
Maybe we should start a thread on this , I think Dinah is interested in talking about this kind of therapy.
For me I need to work on being okay with me without outside enforcements. Too much of my ego is being placed on the view of others and I strive to do "perfect" so I can receive that attention of doing well, so I can feel good about myself. My T wants to work on strengthening my ego without those outside sources, so I won't need them to feel good about myself.
We only touched on this lightly on what he is going to do, so I don't have much to add right now. My T was an overachiever too, so he understands the beast in me, he has even done this kind of work on himself. So I hope it works.
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