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Posted by rskontos on February 15, 2008, at 7:00:33
In reply to Flashbacks and Healing - long, posted by Daisym on February 15, 2008, at 2:25:15
Daisym,
I know exactly what you mean about shutting down the flashbacks but it is so much better you didn't and had him with you. I Have a recurring flashback that I shut down. It is always the same yet at the same time elements are added. It is coming faster and with increase frequency. I stopped it from coming for a week at night with xanax like i said in my other thread it now comes in the shower or other places during the day. I too am terrified yet I am numb. I wish, oh I wish I had your courage.
You were so amazing to allow your T to do this. He is an amazing t and to help you reach this point is inspiring to me and I am sure others. I know at some point my flashback which I also know is only the beginning, might just overwhelm me. My t and I discussed this, I just hope I have your courage and fortitude. You both are super heroes with special powers.
And thank you for sharing this. And this is when loving a therapist to me is ok. He deserves an award of some kind. What insight and thoughtful. He is special.
rsk
Posted by Fallsfall on February 15, 2008, at 8:23:30
In reply to Flashbacks and Healing - long, posted by Daisym on February 15, 2008, at 2:25:15
(((((((Daisy)))))))
How wonderfully brave of you to tell him to stop. I'm so proud of you.
I'm glad you could let him share your flashback, and I'm so glad that he can be with you in it.
Please be gentle with yourself. If you get lonely, you can call me.
Love,
Falls
Posted by Annierose on February 15, 2008, at 11:49:19
In reply to Flashbacks and Healing - long, posted by Daisym on February 15, 2008, at 2:25:15
It is such a blessing that you found him and he gets it right. He gets it. He gets you. And although it was hard to share that flashback with him, you did, and he knew just what to say to help you through.
You will get to the other side. Trust him in that he knows the way.
Posted by zazenducke on February 15, 2008, at 13:55:29
In reply to Flashbacks and Healing - long, posted by Daisym on February 15, 2008, at 2:25:15
but I don't think that perv oughtta be allowed in your bedroom.
likes to watch does he?
that's truly disgusting but I know you are both consenting adults
Little daisy stop seducing daddies!!!!!
Posted by zazenducke on February 15, 2008, at 14:10:59
In reply to Sounds like you both found it gratifying » Daisym, posted by zazenducke on February 15, 2008, at 13:55:29
ice cream for everyone!
Posted by star008 on February 15, 2008, at 15:11:43
In reply to Sounds like you both found it gratifying » Daisym, posted by zazenducke on February 15, 2008, at 13:55:29
your response was insensitive beyond belief.. how could you make a joke about something so terrible..inner kids can be controlled.. no need for something like this.
Posted by Poet on February 15, 2008, at 15:44:37
In reply to Flashbacks and Healing - long, posted by Daisym on February 15, 2008, at 2:25:15
Hi Daisy,
Thank you so much for sharing this. I keep telling my T the only place I feel safe (argh that word) is in a room by myself with the door locked and I have the only key. Lock your bedroom door, hold that stuffed animal and picture your T in the rocking chair. You have a fantastic T (and he has a fantastic client.)
I am still not ready to talk about CSI, but you and others who are able to are an inspiration.
Poet
Posted by Racer on February 15, 2008, at 16:44:45
In reply to Flashbacks and Healing - long, posted by Daisym on February 15, 2008, at 2:25:15
Daisy,
Some of the posts in this thread may have hit trigger points for you, and may have hurt a great deal. I just wanted to wish you the best resilience, and my hope that you are not in pain from the posts in question. I wish you the strength to heal, and also send my warmest affections to you.
Peace.
Posted by rskontos on February 15, 2008, at 17:15:23
In reply to Re: Sounds like you both found it gratifying » zazenducke, posted by star008 on February 15, 2008, at 15:11:43
I agree with Racer, Daisym please don't be hurt by some of this.. rsk
Posted by rskontos on February 15, 2008, at 17:17:20
In reply to Sending best wishes for resilience to you » Daisym, posted by Racer on February 15, 2008, at 16:44:45
Posted by sunnydays on February 15, 2008, at 17:23:14
In reply to Flashbacks and Healing - long, posted by Daisym on February 15, 2008, at 2:25:15
You were so brave to tell your T this and to let him be there with you. He can help you with the hurt, and it sounds like he was able to keep you safe to some degree, and to soothe you. Little girls deserve to feel calm and safe and comforted and soothed, not to feel scared and hurt. I'm glad your T could give you a little of that. Keep going. You are such an inspiration to me. (((((Daisy)))))
sunnydays
Posted by annierose on February 15, 2008, at 18:09:23
In reply to Sounds like you both found it gratifying » Daisym, posted by zazenducke on February 15, 2008, at 13:55:29
Your post was beyond @&#!@*!
I notified Dr. Bob.
I was hurt reading your post. It shocked me that another babbler could be insensitive to the sensitive nature of Daisy's post.
Posted by Deputy Dinah on February 15, 2008, at 18:36:36
In reply to ooooops not my fault inner kid got out, posted by zazenducke on February 15, 2008, at 14:10:59
A block has been given on another board, and the poster has been reminded to follow the civility guidelines of this site.
However, I also have to remind anyone else that Dr. Bob asks that the civility guidelines be followed in all circumstances. It's fine to be supportive of other posters, but please be careful to do so within the civility guidelines. Which would include posting anything that could lead others to feel accused.
If you believe a post is in violation of civility guidelines, please notify administration. There are times when there is no deputy at hand, and it might take a little while for Administration to respond.
I really do understand that it's not always easy to follow these guidelines. Especially when administrative action is not evident, or takes time. However, it's the best way for those trying to be supportive to avoid receiving PBC's themselves. And as frustrating as this can be on occasion, Dr. Bob has these rules to foster a civil environment overall on Babble, and they will be enforced.
Dinah, acting as deputy to Dr. Bob
Posted by Dinah on February 15, 2008, at 19:13:54
In reply to Flashbacks and Healing - long, posted by Daisym on February 15, 2008, at 2:25:15
Posted by DAisym on February 15, 2008, at 20:00:00
In reply to Please follow civility guidelines, posted by Deputy Dinah on February 15, 2008, at 18:36:36
I knew when I decided to post about this session that it was a risk. I knew it had the potential to draw criticism or be the target of ridicule. And while I feel hurt about what was written, I also feel surrounded by friends and support. Thank you to those who emailed or called to warn me before reading. But as I said to all of you, if I had chosen to not post because I was afraid of a hurtful response, it would really change the nature of this board and how I participate here. We have to share our experiences in order to help each other. Not everyone is helped by all the experiences shared, but not sharing helps no one.
I learned a little while ago that there are certain posters or certain threads I shouldn't read. They upset me. So I just don't read them. I have control over this and I refuse to give away this control, especially to anyone who might be trying to hurt me or ridicule me on purpose. I keep myself safe, as much as possible, on Babble. Because Babble is a source of reflection and support that I choose for myself. If it becomes too upsetting, there are other sites to go to.
So, at least for now, I want to keep posting about my experience. I want to write the details sometimes, even if it gets annoying long. If I choose to hold back, it won't be because of a fearful place, but because I'm not ready to share it yet.
Today was the first day in a long time that I've felt pretty good. I felt stronger, more in charge and way less depressed. So that tells me that what we did yesterday was a good thing to do - for me.
Please don't get yourself blocked or pbc'd over this. It isn't worth it. I'm OK, really. Let's keep this board what it has always been - the quieter, more reflective part of Babble.
Hugs,
Daisy
Posted by Dinah on February 15, 2008, at 20:15:27
In reply to Taking Risks, posted by DAisym on February 15, 2008, at 20:00:00
Daisy I so admire you. You are so brave about taking risks, not only in therapy but also here on board. You really do help so many people that way, and I can only hope to emulate the example of openness, honesty, and courage you set.
I think I've been being more cautious in what I post lately, and I think you're entirely right about the effects of that. If we want to cherish and nurture what we have here, part of protecting that is not changing what this board has been and can be.
Posted by antigua3 on February 15, 2008, at 20:47:24
In reply to Taking Risks, posted by DAisym on February 15, 2008, at 20:00:00
You're right. Taking risks is necessary, and you are strong enough to weather any storm such as this that might come up. I am so incredibly proud of you.
I like to think of babble as a reflective place too, a place to let some things out that I never would otherwise. But every word is a risk sometimes, because it opens me up to criticism. What I wrote above is the first thing I've actually written since my pdoc told me that part of my last letter to him (months ago) was bull***. Well, he'll never get another letter from me again, and I did shut down my writing, but I do that at times to protect myself.
You are the greatest!
antigua
Posted by star008 on February 16, 2008, at 7:49:22
In reply to Taking Risks, posted by DAisym on February 15, 2008, at 20:00:00
daisym,,
the posters response was absolutely sickening. Sometimes people use others posts to draw attention to them selves...it was terrible and i am sorry that you had to even see it..But the rest of us were there with you.. YOu had courage to post and to share your story with us and grateful that there are people like you who will take a chance.. please don't give up on sharing.. the majority of us are good caring people and will not violate you..
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 16, 2008, at 14:37:14
In reply to Re: Taking Risks » DAisym, posted by star008 on February 16, 2008, at 7:49:22
> the posters response was absolutely sickening.
Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down. Two wrongs don't make a right.
But please don't take this personally, either, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're a bad person.
I encourage anyone who has questions about this or about posting policies in general, or is interested in alternative ways of expressing themselves, to see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by Daisym on February 17, 2008, at 1:57:23
In reply to Re: blocked for week » star008, posted by Dr. Bob on February 16, 2008, at 14:37:14
I'm sorry Star. I feel sad and wish this hadn't happened. I feel crummy when someone gets blocked because they are actually doing something nice - like defending a friend.
Take care.
Posted by TherapyGirl on February 17, 2008, at 10:11:00
In reply to Re: blocked for week, posted by Daisym on February 17, 2008, at 1:57:23
I agree with Daisy and I'm sorry, too. We'll be waiting for you when you get back.
Posted by muffled on February 17, 2008, at 15:31:34
In reply to Re: blocked for week -- STAR, posted by TherapyGirl on February 17, 2008, at 10:11:00
Posted by rskontos on February 17, 2008, at 16:53:32
In reply to Re: blocked for week -- STAR, posted by TherapyGirl on February 17, 2008, at 10:11:00
I agree with Daisy, and Therapy Girl and Muffled.
I am sad now.:(rsk
Posted by frida on February 18, 2008, at 9:40:00
In reply to Flashbacks and Healing - long, posted by Daisym on February 15, 2008, at 2:25:15
dear Daisy,
what you shared brought tears to my eyes and moved me so deeply.
How amazing to share this with your T and have him with you during this moment.
it feels like...going back but with someone who protects you...having what we didn't have back then. Someone to be there for us.Thank you so much for sharing this.
It encourages me to try and share a little more with my own T.
love,
Frida
Posted by Dinah on February 18, 2008, at 20:48:14
In reply to Re: Taking Risks » DAisym, posted by Dinah on February 15, 2008, at 20:15:27
I really do appreciate your courage, Daisy.
But I don't think I share it any longer.
I'm tired.
This is the end of the thread.
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