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Posted by RealMe on February 6, 2008, at 10:14:32
I have been a stranger for some time, around two or three months I guess, but I am back. I probably won't post a lot, but I will try to be responsive. Thanks to all that have been of help in the past too.
RealMe
Posted by Phillipa on February 6, 2008, at 12:41:59
In reply to RE: Used to be here more and back now, posted by RealMe on February 6, 2008, at 10:14:32
Glad to see you back. Sorry about the therapist. Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on February 6, 2008, at 13:19:46
In reply to RE: Used to be here more and back now, posted by RealMe on February 6, 2008, at 10:14:32
Posted by RealMe on February 6, 2008, at 14:32:11
In reply to RE: Used to be here more and back now » RealMe, posted by Phillipa on February 6, 2008, at 12:41:59
Thanks Phillipa. He wants to talk about things on Friday; says too powerful to discuss via email. My mind is pretty much made up though to just end things.
RealME
Posted by Phillipa on February 6, 2008, at 18:48:08
In reply to RE: Used to be here more and back now » Phillipa, posted by RealMe on February 6, 2008, at 14:32:11
Bad memory didn't you one time say this therapist was better or as good as meds? Hate to see you lose that but it's a lot of money. Phillipa
Posted by RealMe on February 7, 2008, at 23:58:59
In reply to RE: Used to be here more and back now » RealMe, posted by Phillipa on February 6, 2008, at 18:48:08
Yes he is very good but way expensive. I will say what he says tomorrow. Twice per week has been expensive, and I know three times per week would be better as he says, but gee I don't have that kind of money, and it makes me wonder if continuing is worth it, given what he has said.
Realme
Posted by RealMe on February 8, 2008, at 21:25:17
In reply to RE: Used to be here more and back now » Phillipa, posted by RealMe on February 7, 2008, at 23:58:59
I saw my T today, and we are still talking. He will see me once per week or continue with twice per week if I prefer, and I brought up about a payment plan which he says he has never done but would like to hear what I have to say. I feel I am being set up. twice per week I am bleeding out. my emotions are all raw right now. I was a mess after today and couldn't even do my paper work at work. So I do not know what to think.
Right now I am feeling very lonely and alone. I was recently banned for life from a group. Dr. Bob doesn't even do that. I was nasty to someone who in return acted in my mind in a very sadistic manner. That is how it felt, very punished, but more than just punished--like when I was a kid and I had things I loved taken from me never again to be seen. This has nothing to do with babble, but I don't understand someone doing this if they feel they were treated that way themself once upon a time. So anyway I will have to do more with IRL friends which is better anyway I think.
The other night I started going to a lecture series on Far East Religions. Very interesting so far.
RealMe
Posted by Happyflower on February 8, 2008, at 23:14:07
In reply to RE: Used to be here - saw therapist, posted by RealMe on February 8, 2008, at 21:25:17
> Right now I am feeling very lonely and alone. I was recently banned for life from a group. Dr. Bob doesn't even do that. I was nasty to someone who in return acted in my mind in a very sadistic manner.
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****Well I think we all know you are talking about me and my group, unless you got blocked from another group just this week. hmmm, want to explain the nasty? Do we have your permission to post messages from you that have been written to 2 members over the last month, and have Babble be the judge? Is it sadistic to block unprovoked verbal abuse? Dr. Bob does block posters, and the blocks get a lot longer as each incident happens. Plus their were warnings before this, without any blocks.This has nothing to do with babble, but I don't understand someone doing this if they feel they were treated that way themself once upon a time.
***Yes, I was abused a lot, and I have learned to stand up and refuse to allow that to happen again. I have talked this incident over with my T, he believes I did what is best. He says it is best not to be friends when someone says that I am like my abusive mom, and then doesn't believe your abuses after you took the guts to disclose them, when all they wanted was some support because therapy was really rough this week, and that is what the group was for and to do it on their birthday. Does that sound like a good friend? And what provoked this? How many times has this happened in the last 2 months?
He said it is best to set boundaries and to protect myself and I did the right thing. I am not sure why this is being brought up here anyway, it has nothing to do with Babble, but since you asked, here is my responses. If we applied Dr. Bob civil rules to what you said were "nasty" comments and applied his formula, to the amount of times, how long do you think you would be blocked on this site? As far as being blocked for a lifetime, I never told you that.
Posted by Happyflower on February 8, 2008, at 23:46:50
In reply to RE: Used to be here - saw therapist, posted by RealMe on February 8, 2008, at 21:25:17
I wanted to add that I wish you the best in life and on your therapy path.
Posted by Happyflower on February 9, 2008, at 0:03:04
In reply to RE: Used to be here - saw therapist » RealMe, posted by Happyflower on February 8, 2008, at 23:14:07
Plus it was mentioned that anyone can be your friend who wants to, and nobody will think bad for them for that. It is up to each member to decided for themselves, they all are on Babble, so you can contact them if you want.
In fact over the last 3 months, I feel I have been a very good friend to you, supported you a lot, gave you chances to say you were sorry, people forgave you and gave you a second chance, in fact all of us have encouraged it. If you look in your heart, you know that this is true, we were good friends to you. All we wanted was the same in return. Being a T, you know how venerable we are because of our pasts, do you think what you said was in anyway helpful or supportive? I am glad I have a strong enough ego to know who I am and not take those comments personal, but it could have been devastating to someone who was less strong.
We have been nothing but good friends to you, until this last insident among many. I think we all understand your pain and anger, you have every right to be angry of all the things that has happened in your life, but you are still responsible for what you do in life and to others. I am being very honest and open here, and will probably get blocked for that honesty. But I just ask you to look within yourself and ask yourself if you are being true to yourself and do you really feel good about what you are posting here. Can you look in the mirror at yourself and feel good about what you are saying?
Posted by RealMe on February 9, 2008, at 1:12:52
In reply to RE: Used to be here - saw therapist » RealMe, posted by Happyflower on February 8, 2008, at 23:14:07
Now I am really feeling hurt. You assume it has to do with you??? and I am feeling attacked now.
I emailed you about something else, but I guess you did not get it.
RealMe
Posted by RealMe on February 9, 2008, at 1:16:28
In reply to RE: Used to be here - saw therapist, posted by Happyflower on February 9, 2008, at 0:03:04
Why are you saying these things to me when I am in so much pain? I was not referring to you but about a friend from church, and now you tell all of his group things about me from your group. I am in tears now as I am feeling even more hurt. Why are you saying these things to me.
RealMe
Posted by RealMe on February 9, 2008, at 1:42:21
In reply to RE: Used to be here - saw therapist » RealMe, posted by Happyflower on February 8, 2008, at 23:14:07
I was good to you when you got blocked on this site and babblemailed you almost every day. YOu had been banned for 4 weeks. I tried to be nice then. I have my issues for sure, but no you do not have permission to post messages from somewhere else that have nothing to do with dr. bob's babble sites.
Posted by Deputy Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 9:06:00
In reply to RE: Used to be here - saw therapist » RealMe, posted by Happyflower on February 8, 2008, at 23:14:07
> If we applied Dr. Bob civil rules to what you said were "nasty" comments and applied his formula, to the amount of times, how long do you think you would be blocked on this site?
Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down. You've been warned about this before, so I'm going to block you from posting for one week, and ask that Dr. Bob review this.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Follow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
Dr. Bob is always free to override deputy decisions. His email is on the bottom of each page. Please feel free to email him if you believe this decision was made in error.
Dinah, acting as deputy to Dr. Bob
Posted by Deputy Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 9:32:40
In reply to RE: Used to be here - saw therapist » Happyflower, posted by RealMe on February 9, 2008, at 1:12:52
> and I am feeling attacked now.
If you feel that a post is in violation of civility guidelines, please notify the administrators, and let Administration handle it. Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down.
You've been warned about this before, so I'm going to have to block you from posting for one week, and ask Dr. Bob to review this.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Follow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
Dr. Bob is always free to override deputy decisions. His email is on the bottom of each page. Please feel free to email him if you believe this decision was made in error.
Dinah, acting as deputy to Dr. Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 10, 2008, at 23:09:39
In reply to Blocked » RealMe, posted by Deputy Dinah on February 9, 2008, at 9:32:40
> I'm going to have to block you from posting for one week, and ask Dr. Bob to review this.
According to the formula:
Happyflower:
duration of previous block: 4 weeks
period of time since previous block: 8 weeks
severity: 2 (default) - 1 (provoked) + 1 (uncivil toward particular individual) = 2
block length = 6.63 rounded = 7 weeksRealMe:
duration of previous block: 1 week
period of time since previous block: 12 weeks
severity: 2 (default) - 1 (provoked) + 1 (uncivil toward particular individual) = 2
block length = 1.71 rounded = 2 weeksBob
Posted by Jamal Spelling on February 11, 2008, at 2:16:44
In reply to Re: review, posted by Dr. Bob on February 10, 2008, at 23:09:39
Every time a poster gets blocked, a small part of Jamal dies.
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