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Posted by muffled on January 14, 2008, at 11:06:20
So for me this word has been HUGE.
Acceptance:I am accepting that I got mental issues, but that it is OK. I function mostly OK when I am not stressed.
I am accepting that as a child I got hurt, and the inside kids are gonna act up w/triggers, but if I am kind to them, they settle faster.
I accept the truth that my bad feelings DO eventually pass, and there ARE things I can do, that are lifegiving, to help them pass better, or make them more tolerable.
I am accepting(fearfully!) that my T DOES in fact care about me.
I am accepting that I am NOT a disgusting person inside.
I do NOT contaminate others. That is a wrong message I have in my head.
I am accepting that that ikid is just a kid and she coped as best she could. SHE WAS JUST A KID.
I am accepting that I am human and do make mistakes.
I am starting to think maybe God not gonna crush me like a bug. Though I still pissed at him, thats a work in progress still....
I am accepting that I been in a bad place for quite awhile and my life is rather in dissarray. But I am working on getting things in order.
I am accepting that sometimes I will fall on my face, but that I can get back up and keep going. I have my knowledge to help me. Others want to help me(ouch...)
So I AM learning.
Acceptance.
I didn't know it was such a big deal to just accept.
That it'd make me feel better.
For now anyways. I reckon I'll take what I can get.
I expect I'll get triggered and screw up, but the big thing to remember for me, is that I just goto get back up and keep going.
I hope this lasts awhile.
I kinda get scared when things go good. Cuz sometimes things can be all good and then thats when the hurt comes :-(
But I spose thats old stuff too :-(
And I goto learn bout emotions too. How to let them be.
I wanna help others. I wanna get well so I can help others.
M
Posted by Dinah on January 14, 2008, at 11:10:33
In reply to ACCEPTANCE, posted by muffled on January 14, 2008, at 11:06:20
I think acceptance is what's changed for me. On all the levels you spoke of.
It's not perfect yet. But I think I've made steps in that direction.
I'm glad you're feeling better, Muffled.
Posted by Poet on January 14, 2008, at 15:20:44
In reply to ACCEPTANCE, posted by muffled on January 14, 2008, at 11:06:20
Hi Muffled,
I think you are learning and leaning to accept things is hard, but you are doing it. And doing a good job of it.
Poet
Posted by Phoenix1 on January 14, 2008, at 20:01:05
In reply to ACCEPTANCE, posted by muffled on January 14, 2008, at 11:06:20
> So for me this word has been HUGE.
> Acceptance:
>
> I am accepting that I got mental issues, but that it is OK. I function mostly OK when I am not stressed.
> I am accepting that as a child I got hurt, and the inside kids are gonna act up w/triggers, but if I am kind to them, they settle faster.
> I accept the truth that my bad feelings DO eventually pass, and there ARE things I can do, that are lifegiving, to help them pass better, or make them more tolerable.
> I am accepting(fearfully!) that my T DOES in fact care about me.
> I am accepting that I am NOT a disgusting person inside.
> I do NOT contaminate others. That is a wrong message I have in my head.
> I am accepting that that ikid is just a kid and she coped as best she could. SHE WAS JUST A KID.
> I am accepting that I am human and do make mistakes.
> I am starting to think maybe God not gonna crush me like a bug. Though I still pissed at him, thats a work in progress still....
> I am accepting that I been in a bad place for quite awhile and my life is rather in dissarray. But I am working on getting things in order.
> I am accepting that sometimes I will fall on my face, but that I can get back up and keep going. I have my knowledge to help me. Others want to help me(ouch...)
> So I AM learning.
> Acceptance.
> I didn't know it was such a big deal to just accept.
> That it'd make me feel better.
> For now anyways. I reckon I'll take what I can get.
> I expect I'll get triggered and screw up, but the big thing to remember for me, is that I just goto get back up and keep going.
> I hope this lasts awhile.
> I kinda get scared when things go good. Cuz sometimes things can be all good and then thats when the hurt comes :-(
> But I spose thats old stuff too :-(
> And I goto learn bout emotions too. How to let them be.
> I wanna help others. I wanna get well so I can help others.
> Mmuffled, you're right, acceptance is a big part of moving forwards. I commend you for reaching this point. I like this thread. It makes me want to cry though.
1.)I accept that not everything bad in life is my fault.
2.)I accept that i had no control over the bad things that happened to me in my childhood, and that I handled them as best as a young person could.
3.)I accept that there is a lot that I can't control in life and need to let go of.
4.)I accept that sometimes I need help from others and that I can't solve all my problems by myself. (That's the hardest)Wow, there are so many more that I need to figure out. Those are the big ones right now. For some reason this really struck an emotional chord... Feeling choked up, which I haven't for a while.
Phoenix1
Posted by annierose on January 14, 2008, at 22:10:39
In reply to ACCEPTANCE, posted by muffled on January 14, 2008, at 11:06:20
I think acceptance is critical on so many levels. Not only accepting of who we are but of others. I try (and often not successful) to remember people are trying their best at any given moment. (I'm not talking about abusive people).
The more we can accept all of ourselves, the more love we can generate towards ourselves and others.
Posted by star008 on January 14, 2008, at 23:39:33
In reply to ACCEPTANCE, posted by muffled on January 14, 2008, at 11:06:20
muffled,,
yipeeee!!! I wish you could hold these things in your head when things get confusing..It is all true.. You are a good person.. You don't contaminate anyone. Yes, your ikids are just kids and they aren't to blame.. You have really changed in the last month or so and I am happy for you..
Acceptance is hard.. I accept it and then i still get mad..I accept that this is the way things are and that I have to clean up alot of messes that I didn't make, that I might take antidepressants my entire life and it might make me years to work this stuff out. doesn't mean it doesn't bother me sometimes but it is easier to just know that this is the way it is..
Your post was great , well written and summed everything up in a few paragraphs!!
great post muffled!!!
Posted by 10derHeart on January 15, 2008, at 1:09:08
In reply to Re: ACCEPTANCE yahoooo muffled, posted by star008 on January 14, 2008, at 23:39:33
Posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 13:00:52
In reply to Re: ACCEPTANCE, posted by Dinah on January 14, 2008, at 11:10:33
Posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 13:01:48
In reply to Re: ACCEPTANCE » muffled, posted by Poet on January 14, 2008, at 15:20:44
Posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 13:02:42
In reply to Re: ACCEPTANCE » muffled, posted by Phoenix1 on January 14, 2008, at 20:01:05
Posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 13:03:24
In reply to Re: ACCEPTANCE » muffled, posted by annierose on January 14, 2008, at 22:10:39
Posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 13:06:18
In reply to Re: ACCEPTANCE yahoooo muffled, posted by star008 on January 14, 2008, at 23:39:33
> yipeeee!!! I wish you could hold these things in your head when things get confusing..* you SO get me :-)
>It is all true.. You are a good person.. You don't contaminate anyone. Yes, your ikids are just kids and they aren't to blame.. You have really changed in the last month or so and I am happy for you..
* and you have helped. Thx!
> Acceptance is hard.. I accept it and then i still get mad..I accept that this is the way things are and that I have to clean up alot of messes that I didn't make, that I might take antidepressants my entire life and it might make me years to work this stuff out. doesn't mean it doesn't bother me sometimes but it is easier to just know that this is the way it is..
* its does help to be accepting. and your right, its not a magic cure, but its sure better than the fighting and constant denial and controversy.
> Your post was great , well written and summed everything up in a few paragraphs!!*thx star
:-)
M
Posted by muffled on January 16, 2008, at 13:06:46
In reply to I TOTALLY agree with star!! :-) (nm) » star008, posted by 10derHeart on January 15, 2008, at 1:09:08
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