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Posted by B2chica on December 14, 2007, at 12:27:47
can i have another hug. you people are nice.
i like to come here. i might come here more. i like you. i'm littleone again. i need to talk with no one listen out here. girl here at work upstairs. i want to go there but big me says no. so i can't. but i feel tingly and want hug.
big me dedicated song to me the other day when i was really sad. it's No One my Alicia Keys and she lets me listen to it as much as i want to.
my friend camie says that i was smart when i was little and that my getting hurt was why i got stupid. but my mom said that if i did bad stuff with boys i'd was bad and i would get dumb and i think she was right. i was stupid from then on. its ok though cuz big me is smart now. she can do things i can't.
i need hugs...lots of them, i want to be held. is it ok to ask for those? mom says i'm a bad girl and i shouldn't touch people. but i figure people touch me so if im bad anyway why not be bad with stuff i like too. i don't like that my mom watches me go to the bathroom all the time. i haven't told anyone that. i hope it wont make people hate me. i'm gross anyway. she says i should not talk about stuff like that to other people only her. can i tell you that. i want to tell my friend camie that but i'm kinda scared to. i want to be out all the time now. its hard to stay away.
will someone write back to me?
last year i had a pen pal in some other country...that was neat.
write me back.
Posted by rskontos on December 14, 2007, at 13:10:19
In reply to hi again, posted by B2chica on December 14, 2007, at 12:27:47
hi littleone, you are not bad and it is not bad to touch people your mom was wrong. you are smart now and when you were little. I would give you a hug. If big me says you cant no then no it is but I can send you a hug maybe not as good but it is still good. Here it is ((((((((littleone)))))))))))). I am glad you are out and it is nice to talk to you. I have alittleone too but she doesnt come out and talk little you do much. I would let her talk to you if she wants to maybe one day she will. She would like to play with you I am sure and that is because you are not gross you are sweet and kind and special and a really special girl. I am a mom too and we are not always right so even though your mom said those things well it was not right because I don't hate you I like you. I think it would be fun to play. I have two really sweet dogs, they are little they are around 5 lbs and love to give puppy kisses if you were here they would give you puppy kisses. They love little ones and like to run and play outside. Do you like to run and play outside. I am glad big me dedicated a song to you that is nice. I am sorry you were sad. Sometimes I am sad too. Next I am sad I will listen to your song and see if I feel better. I bet I will especially knowing you like it too.
I want you to remember that big me can take care of you. And it is good you are getting out and talking. I will talk to you any time you want. Big me, B2C knows how to babblemail me if you want. Or just post I am usually around.
What is your favorite thing to do? I like to read and play with my dogs. I have horses to and I like to visit them. Sometimes I watch tv. What do you like to do?
write me back too. ok.....later sweetie......((((((((((littleone)))))))
rsk
Posted by B2chica on December 14, 2007, at 13:26:01
In reply to Re: hi again, posted by rskontos on December 14, 2007, at 13:10:19
I LIKE YOUR HUGS
you are NICE thank you..
well, if you let your little one out to play i will try to come out. i wish we could play in real life. big me says no. but i want out and i want to play with others. maybe if i pretend to be big, then big me will let me.
smile, i like puppy kisses. my grandpa has a doggy that jumps all over me, grampa gets mad at him when he jumps on me but i dont mind cus he likes me. i like to run in the dirt at his farm. i miss the farm, maybe i can go play there soon.
we can go to the my favorite hidden pond at the farm, its nice and cool in the summer.no i really wasn't smart. well i was at first.
i was smart in school teachers told me but then bad stuff happened and then i got put in behind classes. camie asked me if i understood that it was because of the bad stuff. but i think it was just cus i got stupid. i didn't tell her what my mom said.i glad you like the song, we can listen to it together tonight at 5:00 and we can think that we both listening to it at the same time ok? and we'll be ok for the weekend.
i love you
Posted by rskontos on December 14, 2007, at 13:44:11
In reply to Re: hi again, posted by B2chica on December 14, 2007, at 13:26:01
I love you too,
You were not bad sweetie, bad stuff happened not that you were bad, remember that. You were smart and you ARE STILL SMART. Just because bad stuff happened it doesn't mean you got dumb it just happened and it wasn't your fault. It was the person who hurt you fault. NOT YOURS. You are a good sweet beautiful littleone.
you are smart and good and special you remember that littleone.I had a farm but not now. I loved it. I liked to walk in the fields with my babies, my little dogs. I would love to go to the hidden pond and play in the nice cool water and I could bring my puppies and they could run and play with you and give you puppy kisses.
I will listen to the song at 5:00 and smile knowing you are listening too. Maybe my littleone will be there too. She might feel better and come out sometime. I think she is getting courage to come out knowing you have the courage too.
You little one are brave too. I am proud of you too because you are listening to bigme. Listen to her she cares for you too.
Take care, I have to go get my son. I will be back and I will check to see if you are around. Take care.
Here are puppykisses for you XXXXXXXlittleoneXXXXXXXXXXXX
and more hugs ((((((((((((littleone))))))))) cant have enough.....
love you, rsk
Posted by B2chica on December 14, 2007, at 14:13:57
In reply to Re: hi again » B2chica, posted by rskontos on December 14, 2007, at 13:44:11
you make me smile really big.
i love puppy kisses! but now my face is wet! that's ok, a breeze will dry it! i LOVE my grampas farm. i love the warm summer smells.
uh oh.i've got to go for now.im out way too much today.
see you soon. i think of you at 5:00.
love you rk. and rk's littlegirl too. she makes me smile too. that song for you too. i know it.
Posted by Bodhisattva on December 14, 2007, at 15:49:57
In reply to Re: hi again, posted by B2chica on December 14, 2007, at 14:13:57
B2chica,
Let the little one know that the bad things that happened, they happened because some people have things wrong with them they cannot fix. They shouldn't do the things they do, they even know they shouldn't.
It sounds to me like you are pretty smart still. I think you have alot to teach us. I think you have alot to teach the big you too. Help her play more.
Ya know, somebody is missing. There was a very angry teen that talked to me a couple days ago. Is she hiding? little one, maybe you can help me find her? It'd be nice to have everybody here. It helps me to feel not so alone.
I'd give you lots of hugs too, not because you need them but because you deserve them.
Posted by muffled on December 14, 2007, at 16:16:05
In reply to Re: hi again, posted by B2chica on December 14, 2007, at 14:13:57
No can talk.
Seriously freaked bout having one out at T.
Now noboddy. We keeping quiet.
Good that you let the little one out.
I am happy for that.
M
Posted by sunnydays on December 14, 2007, at 16:45:25
In reply to hi again, posted by B2chica on December 14, 2007, at 12:27:47
You're soooo not gross. Your mom shouldn't watch you go to the bathroom. That's not what mom's are supposed to do. You deserve all the hugs and love in the world, as much as you want. (((((littleone)))))
I know it's scary to tell people things. Is camie big you's T? If she is, I promise you that it's ok to tell her and she will be nice to you. She won't think you're gross. No one here thinks you are. You're not dumb either. You're just fine.
sunnydays
Posted by llurpsienoodle on December 14, 2007, at 17:33:22
In reply to Re: hi again » B2chica, posted by sunnydays on December 14, 2007, at 16:45:25
hugs b2's littleone
I hope you have a good night's sleep.
zzzZZZzzzbye :)
(((((((((((((((((Biichica)))))))))))))))
Posted by Phillipa on December 16, 2007, at 13:11:53
In reply to Re: hi again » B2chica, posted by sunnydays on December 14, 2007, at 16:45:25
Really? My Mom gave me enemas if I couldn't go and sat on the bathtub and watched to may sure I went. You mean that not normal seriously? Phillipa finding things out I seriously didn't know. Does that mean I didn't kill her also since she carried me up two flights of stairs when I was a baby she said it made her sick and that sickness killed her when I was l7.
Posted by sunnydays on December 16, 2007, at 14:30:00
In reply to Re: hi again » sunnydays, posted by Phillipa on December 16, 2007, at 13:11:53
> Really? My Mom gave me enemas if I couldn't go and sat on the bathtub and watched to may sure I went. You mean that not normal seriously?
**** No, that's seriously not normal. It's not how parents are supposed to be. That is incredibly invasive. Parents are supposed to respect the boundaries of their children, and give them privacy so they can learn what appropriate boundaries are.
Phillipa finding things out I seriously didn't know. Does that mean I didn't kill her also since she carried me up two flights of stairs when I was a baby she said it made her sick and that sickness killed her when I was l7.
**** No, carrying a baby doesn't make someone sick. And even if it did, it was her choice to carry you. If she thought it would hurt her she should have gotten someone else to do it. But no, you didn't kill her, especially not 17 years later.
sunnydays
Posted by Phillipa on December 16, 2007, at 18:35:43
In reply to Re: hi again **abuse trigger***, posted by sunnydays on December 16, 2007, at 14:30:00
Seriously always thought this was normal behavior. Also her tantrums and foaming at the mouth and saying I was going to burst a blood vessel in her brain and she would die. One day let a bird into the house by mistake she pitched a fit with the screaming and yelling . I didn't know birds in the house were evil. So much more. Phillipa
Posted by rskontos on December 16, 2007, at 19:17:23
In reply to Re: hi again **abuse trigger*** » sunnydays, posted by Phillipa on December 16, 2007, at 18:35:43
Sounds psychotic to me. Very much like my own mother. very scary.
Posted by Phillipa on December 16, 2007, at 19:49:13
In reply to Re: hi again **abuse trigger*** » Phillipa, posted by rskontos on December 16, 2007, at 19:17:23
But at my age 2 she developed psoriasis and covered her whole body and was one of the first to got to NYC and get cortisone shots. I figured the cortisone made her act this way as she then ended up with Addisons disease and in and out of the hospital. Phillipa
Posted by rskontos on December 16, 2007, at 20:09:53
In reply to Re: hi again **abuse trigger*** » rskontos, posted by Phillipa on December 16, 2007, at 19:49:13
Well i guess medical issues can make you feel bad but still to act that way i have know many people that feel bad that don't act that way. My mother had both medical issues, she was very sick medically but was mentally ill first.
Too many people with medical illness more serious than this never do that to their kids. I still think she had some mental illness with it.
My mother was raped at an early age, 7 and it continued until 15 by her grandfather and her family permitted it. Never protected her nor did she ever tell them but still how could they not know. Others in the family suspected grandfather has a thing for youn g children but my grandmother didn't believe it so she didn't shield her children from him. Personally I believe it was denial and she may have suffered from his hand herself. She had strange beliefs about sex herself. So my new belief about people is they have reasons for strange behavior and your mom's was strange and scary.
rk
Posted by B2chica on December 17, 2007, at 12:21:03
In reply to Re: hi again » B2chica, posted by sunnydays on December 14, 2007, at 16:45:25
it iss scary.
i get scared all the time but teen doesn't like it when i get scared. she gets mad at me. then at people.
mom does lots of wierd stuff.
things that make me feel strange. not hurt me like the boys do, but makes me feel funny inside, kinda the same.phillapa scares me...
Posted by sunnydays on December 17, 2007, at 13:01:58
In reply to Re: hi again » sunnydays, posted by B2chica on December 17, 2007, at 12:21:03
> it iss scary.
> i get scared all the time but teen doesn't like it when i get scared. she gets mad at me. then at people.**** I know teen doesn't like it, and I'm sorry she gets mad at you. It's ok to be scared. It's normal. You are very brave for coming out and letting people see you even though it feels safer to hide. You are doing a good job. You don't have to be scared now because big B2 can take care of you now. But it's ok to be scared. I get scared still too sometimes.
> mom does lots of wierd stuff.
> things that make me feel strange. not hurt me like the boys do, but makes me feel funny inside, kinda the same.*** I'm sorry your mom does all of that. Trust your instinct. What she does isn't right. I understand why you'd be scared. But it's ok to tell people now. I know it's scary, but it's safe now. You can tell T. And I'm sorry you got scared here. I want to build a big safe bubble for you and me and it will have lots of pillows and blankets and stuffed animals, and anything else you want that would make you feel safe.
(((((littleone))))
sunnydays
Posted by B2chica on December 17, 2007, at 13:05:33
In reply to Re: hi again » B2chica, posted by sunnydays on December 17, 2007, at 13:01:58
unicorns!
Posted by Bodhisattva on December 17, 2007, at 13:27:23
In reply to Re: hi again, posted by B2chica on December 17, 2007, at 13:05:33
Don't forget about your Garden Dwarves.
Posted by sunnydays on December 17, 2007, at 14:42:54
In reply to Re: hi again, posted by B2chica on December 17, 2007, at 13:05:33
Unicorns would be great! I hadn't thought of that. Can I bring my kitty too, or are you allergic? He's very nice.
sunnydays
Posted by rskontos on December 17, 2007, at 17:19:26
In reply to Re: hi again » B2chica, posted by sunnydays on December 17, 2007, at 14:42:54
littleone
I am so sorry you got scared if I played a part in that I am sorry. Forgive me. rsk
Posted by Phillipa on December 17, 2007, at 19:08:32
In reply to Re: hi again » sunnydays, posted by B2chica on December 17, 2007, at 12:21:03
B2chica so sorry didn't mean to scare you conversation just brought up some memories I'll be quiet now so you feel safe. Phillipa
Posted by muffled on December 17, 2007, at 20:27:04
In reply to Re: hi again » B2chica, posted by Phillipa on December 17, 2007, at 19:08:32
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhkJqsA_zJQ&feature=user
My FAV!!!!
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