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Posted by muffled on October 18, 2007, at 21:47:34
Why is it that I can write stuff to T, but not SAY it?
Not hard to write.
Few repercussions.
She reads.
Sometimes she gets it.
Sometimes not.
Weird.
M
Posted by muffled on October 18, 2007, at 21:56:47
In reply to Interesrting question..., posted by muffled on October 18, 2007, at 21:47:34
I send her SO much stuff.
She say its all important.
But she don't even know where to begin.
And we touch only a little.
So much goes by untouched.
So she say for me to pick whats most important IMO to talk bout...I can never do it at the time, too freaked. But she say do it day B4. GOOD idea.
Its so hard.
Not enuf time.
So much to 'say'.
Dunno whats important, whats not....
Coupla times T has kinda ventured that i come in again in the same week. But I don't think mebbe she quite comfortable w/that. And now she only work Tues/Wed. I think she knows I already struggle w/what i spend on T...and she already giving me a cut rate.
I never done >1x/wk.
Is there any great merit to occasionally doing that?
What would be a good criteria in deciding if I were to come back 2nd time?
Would it cause even greater upset upon parting for the week?
Does it foster greater dependance.
Is it worth it? Emotionally? Financially?
Any thots would be useful.
Thanks.
M
Posted by rskontos on October 18, 2007, at 22:05:18
In reply to Also..., posted by muffled on October 18, 2007, at 21:56:47
Muffled, I can't answer the more T question. I am going once a week. Others who go more are better to answer that one. I have mixed emotions on that for me and for you. It seems you already have alot stirred up. T stirrs up alot for me. You have to process all that T brings up and if so much is going on then how do you process? So I don't know.
But why you write more easily that is easy. Because it is much easier to do something not face to face. Like here. How much hard would it be to talk like we do if we were all in a room together. Much much harder. Writing is a great way to vent. You can pick and choose your words. You control what and how you say something. Then you hand it off when you want to the person you want to. Control see. Anyway that is my take.
I would go for writing anyday. Because then you know you cover everything. I always forget what I am going to say. So I now make lists before T. You should take in your writings and use them as refreshers for what you want to talk about. To help you remember things you want to go over. Maybe that will help. It can help you stay straight on all you want to discuss. My lists help me. Just my 2 cents. rk
Posted by Phillipa on October 18, 2007, at 22:17:25
In reply to Re: Also..., posted by rskontos on October 18, 2007, at 22:05:18
I make lists for everything then forget them. Usually find when later reviewing them I've covered the most important material. I think once a week gives you time to calm down and process all the info. Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on October 18, 2007, at 23:40:22
In reply to Also..., posted by muffled on October 18, 2007, at 21:56:47
Once a week therapy and twice a week therapy were, for me, two such different enterprises that they ought to have had different names.
At one time a week, therapy was often a review of the events of the week, or the recitation of facts. Maybe with some exercises or homework to do. So much time was spent re-establishing our relationship.
Twice a week therapy was completely different. One session began where the other left off. I could go way deeper. And there was less wasted time at the beginning of each session.
Yes, I think the dependency does get stronger, at least for a while. But once you reach a certain point in trust, it gets much less. Or maybe you just feel it less. I'm not sure.
On the other hand, if she only sees clients on Tuesdays and Wednesdays, that's two days in a row. It still leaves a long time between sessions so that might diminish the value of having continuity. And I can't deny that finances are a concern.
There are pros and cons, I think.
But it is an entirely different experience.
Posted by pegasus on October 19, 2007, at 9:02:53
In reply to Re: Also... » muffled, posted by Dinah on October 18, 2007, at 23:40:22
. . . or sad on the outside, angry on the inside . . .
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on October 19, 2007, at 12:04:33
In reply to Re: Also... » Dinah, posted by pegasus on October 19, 2007, at 9:02:53
once a week is very different IMO than 2x a week.
more continuity, like dinah said, but also much more expensive. T will take up more space in your mind. you comfy with that? but also T will become less mysterious and more routine. less precious and more mundane. less fantasy and more real.
BUT it's really expensive, and I'm not sure that having back to back therapy is that useful...
hugs,
-LlLllllLLllLLll
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