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Posted by B2chica on October 17, 2007, at 8:26:40
session went ok yesterday but it also sucked cuz i ended up talking about boss most of session.
although i did (once again) listen to my babble friends and copied off what teen was feeling about last week and since my head was so messed up i couldn't read it to her but she read it. (i'm suprised she could even read my handwriting).
we talked a little about it but didnt have a lot of time to talk. so hopefully if nothing ELSE happens maybe next week we can get back on track.
and i brought up old T again and was talking about having 2-3 sessions/week and she asked if i would like to see her more often.and i told her that part of me screams YES that i need to be able to do that that way i could spend one day on current events and one day on old stuff and we could Get Through this muck. BUT my situation just ...well everything just does not, its just not best right now.
before when i had it that often i was able to 'stay in the zone'' and get through the junk, but now with little one and other things i need to be able to come up for air in between sessions i think. not to mention not being able to afford it. but...well honestly even thats lower on the list.anyway. i feel like my boss now owes me my co-pay for my T appt since i ended up talking about Him instead of my Real stuff.
-and btw, i got to work right before he did this morning and when he saw me he just started chatting about some news story he thought was crazy....
...So, now that i realize all the signs of my mother and ex boyfriend...i'm starting to think he has some personality disorders also....
my official diagnosis...mostly narcissistic, a bit of histrionic, with a splash of borderline.
and is there another name for the 'head spin" effect. cuz he changes his mind more often than my teenage niece!ANYWAY.
i might not be as present on this board for a few days. just to make sure he's cooled down. (even though i DO use my break time for this)Thanks for all your support, so very very much
b2c
Posted by Poet on October 17, 2007, at 11:39:44
In reply to Update on Yesterday, posted by B2chica on October 17, 2007, at 8:26:40
Hi B2Chica,
I've spent many sessions venting about something that happened at work. My T doesn't even know their real names as I use nicknames that suit them: Grumpy. I don't think it's a wasted session because it's something I needed to talk about, especially if I get critisized. I do not take critisism well, I know I can dish it out, but can't take it.
I like the idea of them paying for the co-pay on the sessions where all I do is talk about work. My parents should pay for all sessions about CSA for that matter. Especially now that I've maxed out the insurance covered sessions and have to pay all out of pocket.
I hope your inner teen can come with you to your next session. It's good that your T read what she has to say so your T at least knows what is going on.
I post from work only when no one is around, so I understand if you have to lay low for awhile.
Take care.
Poet
Posted by Dory on October 17, 2007, at 17:14:20
In reply to Update on Yesterday, posted by B2chica on October 17, 2007, at 8:26:40
it's hard to decide what crisis to deal with in therapy.. the current every day ones, or the past stuff that is bursting upward like a volcano. How do we decide? flip a coin? My life has been a train wreck for a loooong time, my T and i half-joke about it... "how was your week?" "has there ever been a week where i just say that it was fine and nothing happened?" He always smiles and says that no, none spring to mind.
what i decided is that the deeper stuff takes precident generally because i think the other stuff tends to symptoms rather than causes.. But, i addressed the issue with my T. Sometimes something is so stressful i have to address it now..like your boss thing. i would recommend writing about the current crisis stuff as much as possible.. as an outlet.
maybe you can make a plan for therapy.. like a routine.
i'm grasping at straws to help :o(
it's so hard when you can't go as often as you need. Can you judge how often you could handle? Is it more than you do now? You have a hard task trying to balance your needs with that of a young family.
another straw.. maybe you can talk with your H and come up with a better working solution. Is he supportive? Any way he can help more with little one? or perhaps a sitter?
i don't know.. grasping. i can't imagine trying to take care of a child in this. i'm barely taking care of me.
(((((B2C)))))
Posted by B2chica on October 18, 2007, at 7:52:54
In reply to Re: Update on Yesterday » B2chica, posted by Dory on October 17, 2007, at 17:14:20
Dory, well put. i do agree with how you put it. that the current events are more symptoms and deep stuff more cause, but also the volcano analogy. i think that's why i get so worked up when i don't talk about old stuff, cuz it's just oozing out and i need to contain it and let it out in a controlled way.im just not sure how often, but we're so broke
right now that even if i wanted to i couldn't afford it. i guess there;s just too many reasons not to go more often.
DH is supportive (in his way) but he has his days. he actually watches little one about 1-2 days/week so that helps with daycare bills.and you just responding helps. i don't think there is a magic solution to this...just time.
and i think you brough this up in another thread but... i used to journal Everyday. but since i got pregnant and my mood went all happy happy i stopped. i wrote a little yesterday and realized that if i started journaling again i could destress about the 'everyday' stuff. i think that would help greatly and then i could focus more on the old cr@p with T.
so i'm gonna run out today and get a cheap-o notebook so i can start up again.but reading your comment about asking if i journal kinda really sunk it in and i MUST do this today.
so thanks so much Doryb2c
Posted by B2chica on October 18, 2007, at 7:54:27
In reply to Re: Update on Yesterday » B2chica, posted by Poet on October 17, 2007, at 11:39:44
i like the nicknames idea, but i just blurt out names, i figure she doesn't know them so what the heck...
...ya i agree with what you said about parents paying most of co-pays also!it is always so nice to hear from you Poet!
b2c
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