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Posted by happyflower on October 12, 2007, at 9:36:02
Seeing him was a nice bonus at the gym, now it isn't as nice to go, so I don't. I am sitting here drinking coffee, sleeping in late.
Gotta stop this! Feeling kinda down this morning, had a rough night in rehearsal last night. I want to quit brass choir and lessons. I just don't know if playing is worth the aggriavation I feel sometimes. It seems like my focus should be more on something else than my music. blah blah blah
Posted by rskontos on October 12, 2007, at 12:00:17
In reply to I think oldT keep me physically fit, posted by happyflower on October 12, 2007, at 9:36:02
Happyflower, don't quit. I wish I had something to focus on and maybe I wouldn't be so blah. It is just your illness speaking not you and maybe without your music you would feel worse, have you thought about that. Sometimes for me music is the only way I feel better and I can't create it like you can. That must be awesome. A rough night in rehearsal leaves room for an awesome performance. I use to dance and our dance master loved it if we had a rough rehearsal as he said that meant we had a chance to do it better in the actual performance. So all is not over. You will play better. Remember you can just do some calming exercises before you play or try visual imagery or maybe audio. Whatever it takes I know you can do this. Creating music is a gift. You will be ok. rk
Posted by Dory on October 12, 2007, at 20:17:14
In reply to I think oldT keep me physically fit, posted by happyflower on October 12, 2007, at 9:36:02
your old T doesn't go anymore either does he? that's got to be hard. what you do on any one day doesn't matter so much, it's what you do overall... so you can sleep in today, just not everyday. so get going girl!
Posted by RealMe on October 12, 2007, at 21:09:41
In reply to I think oldT keep me physically fit, posted by happyflower on October 12, 2007, at 9:36:02
I hope you don't make any rash decisions, okay? See how you feel in a month, and if you still want to quit brass choir, etc. then it is worth considering.
RealMe
Posted by Phillipa on October 13, 2007, at 21:53:55
In reply to I think oldT keep me physically fit, posted by happyflower on October 12, 2007, at 9:36:02
Happyflower I do remember when you each saw each other in the gym. And that is reason to keep you motivated. So your old therapist doesn't go any more either? What a bummer. Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on October 14, 2007, at 13:27:50
In reply to I think oldT keep me physically fit, posted by happyflower on October 12, 2007, at 9:36:02
I sometimes find it difficult to go to a place I associate with someone I care about, if that person isn't going to be there, or if things have changed.
Eventually I get over it, but it takes will to overcome my reluctance.
I'll bet the gym doesn't seem the same with his absence filling up all the space there.
Posted by happyflower on October 14, 2007, at 15:04:52
In reply to Re: I think oldT keep me physically fit » happyflower, posted by Dinah on October 14, 2007, at 13:27:50
Yes, my T has stopped going to the gym after our last appointment. Sometimes it was the encouragement I needed to get up and go there if there was a chance to see him. But now my motivation isn't as strong.
But yes, I look around and I do have a lot of memories of us there and it is kinda sad not to see him there anymore. The bikes aren't moved out of the running path anymore, ones that he had to always move. I still miss him and it will take time I guess for that feeling to disapate. I am glad their are other people I look forward to seeing there. I keep expecting him to walk through the door, but it never happens. He could be working out at our univesity gym, he sometimes goes their, but I normally don't go even though I am paying for it. Maybe I should check out the gym at school! lol I know his wife works out there, so that feels kinda icky
Posted by RealMe on October 14, 2007, at 15:16:13
In reply to To everyone, posted by happyflower on October 14, 2007, at 15:04:52
I realize you miss him, and sometimes I miss my old T, but I think it is probably best that neither of us sees our old T's anymore. Once I called my old T's voice mail, and I decided that was stupid. I miss him less and less, and funny thing is that if I drive to my therapist I have now since May, I have to drive right past old T's office. So, it did seem weird the other day to be near his office. I don't go on Wednesdays to new T anymore, go Tu and Friday, and so there is no chance at all of running into old T at his office in that town. He is only there on Wednesdays.
In general, I think both of us are better off with our still rather new therapists.
RealMe
Posted by happyflower on October 14, 2007, at 15:43:43
In reply to Re: To everyone » happyflower, posted by RealMe on October 14, 2007, at 15:16:13
I go past my old T's office too, on the way to my new one. I guess I am still wanting to see him, so I am not at the point you are yet. I miss him in my life.
Posted by Phillipa on October 14, 2007, at 20:30:34
In reply to Re: To everyone » RealMe, posted by happyflower on October 14, 2007, at 15:43:43
Happyflower sometimes our brains play tricks on us. How would you feel if you did work out at the University he was there and also his wife? Think it would be easier to let go? Just a thought as we're all different for me it would. Phillipa
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