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Posted by Dory on October 10, 2007, at 1:01:39
those of you who chat know more about what's going on in my life right now, others know anyway. For those who don't know i apologize for being cryptic but i have to be very careful..
so for those who know, i need help, asap
when i get home wednesday night, i have to have decided what to say...
i got an email this time, instead of cornered on the phone... i'm uncertain of the mood in which they were sent, sentimental, or anrgy... no idea.
my gut tells me to be careful
but do i prevent something from festering by dealing with it quickly and directly?
or do i let things sit, maintain the relative calm (if it is indeed calm)?
i want to say something... now.. so that i don't pay later. But if i keep quiet now, well, my T will be back later.
it's so complicated
very nervous. my stomach crawled up between my ears when i saw what the email said. i started shaking again. :o(
i never know how to respond to this stuff...
and for those kind enough to answer, there *isn't* any right answer ok? No worries, you're not soley responsible for what i choose to do or not do. i just want objective opinions.
i wish i could explain better.
Posted by RealMe on October 10, 2007, at 1:23:12
In reply to NEED ANSWERS... little help?, posted by Dory on October 10, 2007, at 1:01:39
If it was friendly sounding, then maybe it would be okay to say something nice back without really committing to any position. And maybe indicate you can say more later without saying this is somehing you want to talk about first with T. I would certainly take a copy of the email along for T to see. Since I don't know for sure if there was a question asked, it is hard to say beyond saying something nice but staying sort of non-committal. I think that makes senese.
RealMe
Posted by B2chica on October 10, 2007, at 8:24:41
In reply to NEED ANSWERS... little help?, posted by Dory on October 10, 2007, at 1:01:39
just remember hon, it's an email. you DON"T have to respond.
i don't know what its about, and i dont feel i need to. don't worry bout not giving details.
its obviously giving you LOTS of anxiety and its hurt you.
i would just not respond and wait to talk with T. (or someone else IRL if they know what's going on).
LISTEN TO YOUR GUT.instead of letting it fester, write down what you are feeling, write one letter of what you WANT to say....swear words and all, and one more diplomatic.
also, print off email to bring to T, that may help.btw, when do you see T next?
sorry not much help. but i am BIG in just ignoring people.
if i get an email that upsets me i yell at them in my head and then just delete it.but if this is more serious you may want to keep it...for proof and stuff.
anyway, sorry not much help. but hang in there.
keep posting if you need to about it.
good luck.
b2c.
Posted by happyflower on October 10, 2007, at 10:14:08
In reply to NEED ANSWERS... little help?, posted by Dory on October 10, 2007, at 1:01:39
I am not sure of what you are saying. But you are right there is always options. I don't know what the email says, but I like the approach of just letting things calms down. Just do what I say not as I do, okay? lol
Take care of yourself.
Posted by Gee on October 10, 2007, at 19:27:26
In reply to NEED ANSWERS... little help?, posted by Dory on October 10, 2007, at 1:01:39
Could you say something like "I got the email, I'll reply later when I have more time". That buys you time until you figure out what to say. Unless you feel it would be better to get it over and done with. Then you wouldn't get cornered on the phone anymore. And maybe it would feel better to choose one side or the other? ((((Dory))))
Posted by Dory on October 10, 2007, at 19:52:52
In reply to NEED ANSWERS... little help?, posted by Dory on October 10, 2007, at 1:01:39
the problem is that i cannot ignore it, it's either play nice or stand firm. i want to stand firm but i cannot predict the results.
i am so sorry to be so cryptic.
thanks for trying to help anyway.
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