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Posted by slugdoo on August 10, 2007, at 21:25:37
dog gone it! Do I have to chance my name before you come back?
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on August 11, 2007, at 9:53:32
In reply to I need Llurpsie! Where are you?, posted by slugdoo on August 10, 2007, at 21:25:37
Oh, I'm around. Sorry I haven't been on your thread/s lately. I'm just worried about saying the wrong thing.
The meds have me feeling kind of bad lately. bad stomachache and drowsiness. I've been spending more time on the meds board to try to reassure myself that this is normal and that it will go away.
Plus, I don't feel like having a long post about myself because me and T talked about body image and sex last session, and it felt too personal to talk about.
T thinks we "meandered a lot" during the session. I disagree. The free association was pretty associated in my mind. basically I learned that God gave me long legs for a reason (and it's not to run) and that men like to look at women (and not just supermodels either).
Now what am I going to do. I don't want to be noticed, and certainly not for how I look. On the other hand, I'm on this diet and my tubbiness is going bye bye. So I have to get used to my new body :(
-Ll
Posted by slugdoo on August 11, 2007, at 13:21:03
In reply to I'm here... legs and all » slugdoo, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on August 11, 2007, at 9:53:32
Hey Llurpsie,
It is okay, I just miss you. I hope it is okay to say that.
You are right men (and women) look at people. I usually feel intimidated when men look at me, I hate it actually. Maybe that is why I am overweight, I don't have to deal with it as much as I did when I was in college at 120lbs. Maybe there is something to that.
Well I just wanted to say hi, and I feel bad you are not posting because you are afraid of my reactions. BUt I understand, sometimes I get defensive and it is hard situation.
Posted by muffled on August 11, 2007, at 23:15:28
In reply to I'm here... legs and all » slugdoo, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on August 11, 2007, at 9:53:32
> The meds have me feeling kind of bad lately.
*Sorry to hear this LL, hope it passes soon.
> Plus, I don't feel like having a long post about myself because me and T talked about body image and sex last session, and it felt too personal to talk about.
*GAAAACK! You got GUTS aplenty girl! I dunno if I could do that...
> basically I learned that God gave me long legs for a reason (and it's not to run) and that men like to look at women (and not just supermodels either).
*WTF??? That sounds kinda bad.....? Kinda freaks me...
> Now what am I going to do. I don't want to be noticed, and certainly not for how I look. On the other hand, I'm on this diet and my tubbiness is going bye bye. So I have to get used to my new body :(
*Sigh. I getting fatter and fatter :-(
Well, if its any consolation, I wear mostly sweats, cuz I try to hide myself. I never wear makeup, and have always acted like a tomboy. Also packed a knife 24/7 and knew how to use it. I used to wear big boots much of the time, I have only recently given them up, and proly only cuz I can't find replacements for my wore out ones on sale...
Baseball hat, mirror shades, jean jacket....
This is how I used to come to T.
My T says I was a walking KEEP AWAY!!!! billboard, or something along those lines.
So lemme know if you gain any amazing insights into this 'stuff'?
Take care, glad you seem to be doing a bit better.
(((LL)))
Muffled
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on August 12, 2007, at 8:18:32
In reply to Re: I'm here... legs and all » LlurpsieNoodle, posted by muffled on August 11, 2007, at 23:15:28
Muffeldy!!!
How special to be graced by your presence. I know the feeling of wearing clothes that say "eff you get away from me" or "don't notice me, I'm a mere lump upon this earth"I think everyone has clothes like that. Lately (summertime?) I've been daring to wear more revealing clothing. The other factor is that I no longer live in the big city, so I don't feel as vulnerable to snide comments on the bus/street about my appearance. That used to happen a lot in Chicago. Not in a bad way. Just in a way that made me feel kind of mildly objectified and slightly smutty.
I thought it was brave of me to bring it up too. Especially with male T. I think it was motivated by trying to "nip it in the bud". Try to get this body-image thing under control before I start to completely obsess about the stringiness of my arms and the protrudingness of my hip bones. (don't worry, I'm far from THAT!! lol.
A delicate balance between wanting to appear nicely dressed to make a good impression to others and to make my husband appreciate me | trying not to solicit ANY attention from men or women about the way I look.
T's right though. people look. There's no getting around that. I cannot ever prevent people from looking.
This is going to be an issue for the rest of my life. I'm just going off of my previous experience as a skinny girl (which lasted exactly 2 years in college) and I got a LOT of attention from peers and strangers alike about my weight loss and in-shape-ness. I felt so ashamed, like they thought I was a superficial stupid college girl. Actually it was probably a mixture of envy, jealousy, admiration, appreciation of my particular aesthetic etc.
Everyone's got their own body type preference. I cannot deny that. I don't know what my body type preference is, other than it includes some muscle tone and a flattish stomach. Fingernails that are neat and clean and not too many zits on my face. Is that so much to ask?
-Ll
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