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Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 22, 2007, at 15:59:17
Said that I look good. well-rested. (mumbled something about geodon sedating the heck out of me)
Said that maybe moving would give me a fresh start and that some of my issues may be resolved.
[neurotic llurpsie says- he's just looking for an excuse to not see me 2x a week]
but---
says I'm a very appealing patient (or did he say client?) I said it's 'cause I don't want anybody to dump me, much less a therapist, because that kind of dumping had much more consequence than a friend dumping me
caught himself "not that I want to minimize anything that you've struggled with in the past"
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WTF? Do I need to come up with some symptoms to show him that I am a mess? Why shouldn't my history convince him? Uh Oh. messy-Llurpsie is already plotting another melt-down. I only have 2 appts with him in July though, so I better time the meltdowns with pinpoint precision...
sick sick sick
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 22, 2007, at 17:28:39
In reply to quieT uh oh, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 22, 2007, at 15:59:17
I changed my mind.
not sick.
be strong llurpsie. W-style. keep homeland security strong (minus the illegal wiretapping and other stalking behaviors) at the expense of forin relations.
brave not sick.
Posted by Honore on June 22, 2007, at 17:45:52
In reply to quieT uh oh, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 22, 2007, at 15:59:17
Well, maybe he just was telling you great things about yourself, and realized it might sound as if he didn't realize all you'd gone through.
So he wanted to say that he did realize it, but realized that that sounded stilted-- or something-- or overcompensating-- so it ended up coming out awkwardly.
Maybe you don't need to have a meltdown, but foreign relations will be okay anyway. ?
Honore
Posted by Fallsfall on June 22, 2007, at 17:56:40
In reply to quieT uh oh, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 22, 2007, at 15:59:17
Well, at the beginning of therapy therapists think they have all the answers. But they are frequently wrong. My first therapist expected to see me 6 times - not 8 1/2 years. My second therapist expected me to go back to work in 3 months (still not back at work 4 years later). So they don't always know at the beginning. Fortunately, my therapists didn't hold me to their predictions.
Give it time.
Posted by DAisym on June 22, 2007, at 17:59:14
In reply to quieT uh oh, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 22, 2007, at 15:59:17
I've wanted to start a thread on this for awhile, but don't want to hi-jack yours so will start below: What does it mean to your therapy when your symptoms diminish?
I'm sure he was trying to notice your strengths and be reassuring. I've had that feeling before too, like, "what? you don't think I need you?"
Try to resist the need to show him. It is self-destructive to do that. It is OK to let things be quiet and stable for awhile. Eventually your issues will present themselves in a natural way for you both to work with. You have a lot of other things to pay attention to right now. And that is OK.
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 22, 2007, at 19:05:15
In reply to Re: quieT uh oh, posted by Honore on June 22, 2007, at 17:45:52
I guess it's reassuring to hear that "therapeutists usually don't feel right about dumping their clients". From his mouth, after I used those words to voice my fear of rejection.
Then we talked about how my one friend left from school has been giving me the cold shoulder for 3 months. How her rejection has hurt me.
I'm really good at blabbering away all session. except at the end I was just really mumbling and quiet. "right" "okay" staring at the floor.
Foreign relations are complicated right now. New allies (quieT), severing contact with newT, who is now my old T :( About which I can hardly bear to think, much less entrust this stranger with my emotional doo-doo. The husband- that's a mess right now. Right about the time he got used to having to do everything FOR me, I'm asserting my independence again. (except for laundry and dishes. happy to be dependent :)
thanks for your thoughts. I ramble. not as organized as your thinking.
-Ll
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 22, 2007, at 19:08:52
In reply to Re: quieT uh oh » LlurpsieNoodle, posted by Fallsfall on June 22, 2007, at 17:56:40
> Well, at the beginning of therapy therapists think they have all the answers. But they are frequently wrong. My first therapist expected to see me 6 times - not 8 1/2 years. My second therapist expected me to go back to work in 3 months (still not back at work 4 years later). So they don't always know at the beginning. Fortunately, my therapists didn't hold me to their predictions.
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> Give it time.You're right. I always want to get things over with. like ripping off a bandaid, calling myself HEALED. time? I *guess* I can give it time. no need to have any meltdowns or any messy flashbacks for the time being.
-Ll
p.s. thanks for visiting my thread. miss you :)
Posted by Phillipa on June 22, 2007, at 22:14:33
In reply to Re: quieT uh oh » Honore, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 22, 2007, at 19:05:15
Lurpsie he's just getting to know you I too have a new therapist and each time I see her she prodes a bit more. Just give it time. Love Phillipa
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 22, 2007, at 22:39:53
In reply to Re: quieT uh oh » LlurpsieNoodle, posted by DAisym on June 22, 2007, at 17:59:14
> I've wanted to start a thread on this for awhile, but don't want to hi-jack yours so will start below: What does it mean to your therapy when your symptoms diminish?
or, in my case, never actualized? Like I promise him "I've got these symptoms" but he hasn't had the pleasure of watching me dig some horror out of my memory with white knuckles and trip to lala land.
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> I'm sure he was trying to notice your strengths and be reassuring. I've had that feeling before too, like, "what? you don't think I need you?"
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> Try to resist the need to show him. It is self-destructive to do that. It is OK to let things be quiet and stable for awhile. Eventually your issues will present themselves in a natural way for you both to work with. You have a lot of other things to pay attention to right now. And that is OK.Yeah you're right. Self-destructive is not so good for me. Supposed to be taking good care of myself. I can't believe I missed a dose of my medicine. Haven't done that in about 4 months. It's like there's a saboteurre upstairs. Trying to rock the boat. see if anything repugnant falls out.
my posts have been kind of nonsensical and vague today too. and the dizzies. this is not on [conscious] purpose. really? I haven't even convinced myself that I didn't conveniently forget to take that pill this am. Knowing what the consequences were. Forgot to take only the pill with the short half-life. (asst. self-curses = the caramels in the chocolate box that I always find and never enjoy]
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you have supportive intentions. sorry if I'm a weirdo tonight. I'm sure I'll regret this post if I ever have the courage to read it again.more muttering curses
-Ll
Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 22, 2007, at 22:41:02
In reply to Re: quieT uh oh » LlurpsieNoodle, posted by Phillipa on June 22, 2007, at 22:14:33
> Lurpsie he's just getting to know you I too have a new therapist and each time I see her she prodes a bit more. Just give it time. Love Phillipa
TIME. seems like the vote is unanimous...
Posted by Phillipa on June 22, 2007, at 22:51:46
In reply to Re: quieT uh oh » Phillipa, posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 22, 2007, at 22:41:02
Lurpsie and believe when I say it flies. Love Phillipa ps I always say on in just a day or an hour x will happen and it does like will the sun rise each day? Will tomorrow ever come tomorrow comes and then runs remember that one probably not you're so young lucky you.
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