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Posted by youngaddict on February 12, 2007, at 17:36:01
my shrink basically rejected me today by telling me she doesn't think its good to keep seeing her because i can't be emotionally available to her and i am being counter productive in therapy. i mean its a lot more complicated than that but i feel as if i was rejected by the one person who is supposed to be there for me. i mean, i PAY her. WTF?
Posted by happykat on February 12, 2007, at 18:10:24
In reply to REJECTION (trigger), posted by youngaddict on February 12, 2007, at 17:36:01
Do you think she could possibly be trying to push you? Mine did the same thing a week and a half ago. I'll find out tomorrow for sure what's going on. But she pushed, I reacted, and she seemed pleased by the reaction. At least I think. That's what her voice message indicated. I hope the hell that's the case.Were you able to share with her what's been going on with you. What you've been writing about and going through? Oh, (((((((((young addict)))))))))))) What happened today? If you don't want to post it, babblemail me. Thinking about you. Hoping you're o.k.
Regards,
Kat
Posted by caraher on February 12, 2007, at 19:47:32
In reply to REJECTION (trigger), posted by youngaddict on February 12, 2007, at 17:36:01
When she said you can't be emotionally available to her, is she simply saying that you're not opening up enough for therapy to work (in her opinion, of course)?
You pay her, in part, for her expertise. If that expertise says your sessions aren't working out, that's not a rejection of YOU. And it's a responsible thing on her part to point you in another direction.
Maybe I'm missing something here... I apologize if I should know something from previous posts that this ignores. But I hope you don't take it personally - I doubt she meant it that way!
Posted by muffled on February 12, 2007, at 22:48:44
In reply to REJECTION (trigger), posted by youngaddict on February 12, 2007, at 17:36:01
> my shrink basically rejected me today by telling me she doesn't think its good to keep seeing her because i can't be emotionally available to her and i am being counter productive in therapy. i mean its a lot more complicated than that but i feel as if i was rejected by the one person who is supposed to be there for me. i mean, i PAY her. WTF?
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Sorry YA :(
Sucks.
I think Caraher and HK both had good things to say.
My T has said to me 'are we progessing', or something like that, in other words she wanted to be sure she was helping and not hindering, or not accomplishing anything. She said it is her responsibility to not work with me if we are not getting anywhere.
Hmmmm, mebbe this IS a T thing they do?? Who knows.
So I guess what I would be inclined to think is that she is trying to be responsible, and mebbe hoping you will rise to the challenge.
Have you been able to stay clean for any length of time again?
I think its hard to do good therapy while using/abusing substances. I was high at T once, not that high, but my T still noticed. So I guess its an issue. Cuz if you high, you are hiding, and thats not what therapy is about.
I hope you can resolve some of this 'stuff'.
:-(
Its so hard I know. Life has lotsa hurts. But we goto motor on and do the best we can.
You would never beleive where I once was in my addiction.....and now I am a Mom and stuff...I have my troubles, but I also got alot of JOY! Though sometimes I forget.
Take care YA,
Sorry you got hurt,
But you just show her up!
Clean up and do some good T !
Giv'er sh*t if need be. Clears the air.
Best of luck to you,
Muffled
Posted by raisinb on February 13, 2007, at 9:53:12
In reply to REJECTION (trigger), posted by youngaddict on February 12, 2007, at 17:36:01
YA, that must have felt really awful--I'm sorry.
From your post, I can't tell if she actually wants to terminate your therapy, and perhaps she is just trying to push you a bit.
But if she is trying to direct you elsewhere, in my opinion, it's something you might be grateful for down the road. In the long run, it is her responsibility to refer you elsewhere if she's not helping you. She's taking care of your needs by telling you so, even though it may not feel that way.
To tell you the truth, I often wish my T would say what yours said. I don't know if I'm getting anywhere, and it's incredibly painful, and all she does is passionately insist that we're doing the right thing by continuing, while not offering me any support at all, as far as I can tell.
Sorry to hijack a little, my opinions are pretty strong on this issue right now :(
Hang in there.
Posted by Dinah on February 13, 2007, at 19:46:52
In reply to REJECTION (trigger), posted by youngaddict on February 12, 2007, at 17:36:01
Without nonverbal messages it's hard to understand if she meant to prod you, or if she really wants to refer you out or come back later.
Either way, I know it hurts, and I'm sorry you have to feel that way.
Posted by youngaddict on February 14, 2007, at 17:13:15
In reply to Re: REJECTION (trigger), posted by Dinah on February 13, 2007, at 19:46:52
i called my t today and told her voicemail that i thought we should terminate for the time being until i got over this thing i am dealing with. meaning drugs or what not. but in reailty it might be that for her, but for me its still a rejection. i think she saw also that i was really reliant on having her save me or help me since i wasn't there to help myself. who knows>?
whatever my reasoning i basically just terminated this relationship.and it couldn't come at a worse time.
have any of you ever seen a drug therapist? maybe that would be better than psychoanalysis.
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