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Posted by Barna on January 5, 2007, at 6:34:57
Two weeks ago I had my last individual therapy session after two years and a half. I decided to terminate because I had made much progress and I felt I could continue by myself. My T agreed and she was very happy that I made this decision. I was (and still am) very attached to my T and I felt sad for losing this special relationship and I knew it would be hard afterwards.
The final session was very intense and I will never forget it. I was kind of sad and happy at the same time. My T told me that she would never forget our first session when she took my hands, something that she rarely does on a first session, and she said how important and healing had contact been for me during all this time. Then I gave her something I had written about the whole process and she read it aloud. Then we sit on the floor in front of each other and she asked me to stare at each other's eyes during some time. This was very hard for me and tears started to flow from my eyes, and also from hers. After a while I took her hands, I thanked her for everything and I told her I loved her very much, then we hugged. It's very difficult to put in words all my feelings in that moment, like a pure love essence.
It was a nice therapy farewell. She gave me a present, a book called "Untouched: the Need for Genuine Affection in an Impersonal World", which I'm almost finishing and which I strongly recommend to people interested in this subject, and to everyone in general.
It's comforting to know that she will always be there if I need to talk to her anytime.
From my experience, therapy has been hard and it hurt very much, but it also helped me to heal some injuries and to be aware of many important things. It made me stronger to face life from another point of view. I still have a lot to learn, but this first step has been crucial.
I just wanted to share this, and I wish that all of you that have been hurt sometime somehow can soon recover and reach welfare and love.
Thanks for reading.
Posted by Dinah on January 5, 2007, at 10:19:51
In reply to Final session... my experience, posted by Barna on January 5, 2007, at 6:34:57
Thank you for sharing that. It sounds like a beautiful experience.
Posted by TherapyGirl on January 5, 2007, at 18:02:50
In reply to Re: Final session... my experience » Barna, posted by Dinah on January 5, 2007, at 10:19:51
Yes, thanks for sharing this. It sounds like you worked hard, you had a good T and both of you hung in there when the going got tough. And both of you handled the last session extremely well.
Congratulations!
Posted by Rigby on January 5, 2007, at 21:19:15
In reply to Final session... my experience, posted by Barna on January 5, 2007, at 6:34:57
Hi Barna,
That sounds *so* great. You really seem to have a wonderful perspective on things, too.
I ended therapy in late November. I am finding that, as that book, "When To Say Goodbye To Your Therapist" said, that I am making some more big personal leaps--not easy ones but ones I've needed to. The book says that a lot of people do major stuff after therapy so ending therapy is just as important as beginning it.
Good luck to you--though it doesn't sound like you'll need it. :)
Rigby
Posted by Poet on January 6, 2007, at 11:12:44
In reply to Final session... my experience, posted by Barna on January 5, 2007, at 6:34:57
Hi Barna,
Thanks for sharing, I am no where ready to end therapy, but I appreciate knowing that your last session left you feeling positive and cared about.
Poet
Posted by happykat on January 6, 2007, at 18:30:39
In reply to Final session... my experience, posted by Barna on January 5, 2007, at 6:34:57
Barna,
I hope when I'm finally done and have my final session it is as beautiful and meaningful as yours. Lovely post!
Regards,
happykat :)
Posted by Scentedgarden on January 7, 2007, at 19:22:22
In reply to Final session... my experience, posted by Barna on January 5, 2007, at 6:34:57
I told her I loved her very much, then we hugged. It's very difficult to put in words all my feelings in that moment, like a pure love essence.
>
> It was a nice therapy farewell. She gave me a present, a book called "Untouched: the Need for Genuine Affection in an Impersonal World", which I'm almost finishing and which I strongly recommend to people interested in this subject, and to everyone in general.
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> It's comforting to know that she will always be there if I need to talk to her anytime.
>
> From my experience, therapy has been hard and it hurt very much, but it also helped me to heal some injuries and to be aware of many important things. It made me stronger to face life from another point of view. I still have a lot to learn, but this first step has been crucial.
>
> I just wanted to share this, and I wish that all of you that have been hurt sometime somehow can soon recover and reach welfare and love.
>
> Thanks for reading.HI....THANKS FOR SHARING..!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by muffled on January 7, 2007, at 22:01:25
In reply to Final session... my experience, posted by Barna on January 5, 2007, at 6:34:57
Posted by Barna on January 8, 2007, at 4:28:17
In reply to Final session... my experience, posted by Barna on January 5, 2007, at 6:34:57
Thanks for your answers :)
I have to say that this site has also been very helpful, specially when I found that I was not the only one falling in love with my T and feeling strongly attached to her, among other things.
I'll keep reading. All the best!
Posted by LlurpsieBlossom on January 8, 2007, at 18:10:18
In reply to Re: Final session... my experience, posted by Barna on January 8, 2007, at 4:28:17
I think that you are so lucky to have a physical reminder (book), a visual reminder (looking into her eyes) a tactile reminder (holding hands) and an emotional reminder (tears) of how much you've learned while working with your T.
Happy graduation :)
hope the road ahead is rich and rewarding :)
-Ll
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