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Posted by SatinDoll on November 8, 2006, at 6:26:01
I keep thinking about the "debate" that transpired this week in therapy. In one way it is so funny, it felt comfortable, like "fighting" with an old friend. Feeling comfortable with talking "no holds bard" A friendly debate. It was refreshing.
But in a way I think it kinda lit a fire under me, and felt kinda sexy, I think it kinda turned me on.
Now don't get all crazy on this, he wasn't trying to seduce me or anything, nothing inappropiate happened.But it was kinda of he got me so frusterated because he was as relentless as me trying to "win" the debate on who was right, that it was gee, I hate you , gee I love you kinda of feeling for me.
I must admit he was good because he didn't resort to dirty tactics like me who said "bite me, or you must have fell on your head. I just don't know.This has never happened before with us (it has been almost 2 years). I still held my ground on what I thought and he couldn't convince me otherwise, but I am sure he still thinks he was right. It just seems kinda of sexy to me. Have I lost my mind? Any thoughts?
Posted by Dinah on November 8, 2006, at 12:43:12
In reply to erotic therapy?, posted by SatinDoll on November 8, 2006, at 6:26:01
It's intimate, and intimate can be sexy, depending on your feelings about any given person, or your characteristic ways of responding.
It's not weird to find it sexy.
I don't think he did it on purpose. It might not have occurred to him that he was increasing intimacy or that you would see it as sexy. My therapist and I might do that sort of thing, but it wouldn't have any sexual overtones. It would have parent/child overtones.
Posted by SatinDoll on November 8, 2006, at 13:23:14
In reply to Re: erotic therapy? » SatinDoll, posted by Dinah on November 8, 2006, at 12:43:12
Dinah,
I agree he didn't do any of this on purpose and I don't think he knew how I was taking it because I didn't realize till after it was over.Maybe it had something to do with the fact mentioned our relationship is fake ( I know I said that just because I am mad about the boundries). I think he might of taken it that I think he is fake in relating to me, so now he is trying to be more real? Who knows?
It was just surprising to feel sort of turned on by the bantering and debating afterwards. I am thinking about asking him next session how he felt about our last session. In a way it felt good, it was funny, challenging, and I found out that my T can be as stuborn headed as me. LOL
We have disagreed before but it never got into a long debate. But I LOVE intellegical conversations, always have, and I love to debate controversaial topics, and I just haven't had anyone who was a match for me. ( I know that sound concited) but it is true. Not everyone likes to debate, they tend to get too upset. Now our dabate remained friendly the whole time, even when I said "bite me", he knew me enough that I was kidding because I said it with a huge grin on my face. He once stopped what he was going to say, and I said, go ahead, bring it on! Then he said well okay! It was fun, I got some of my aggression out, even though he gave me some differet aggression. And it took my mind off my depression about my concert, but Dinah, after chating with you, I am so on to him! LOL ;-)
Posted by Karolina on November 8, 2006, at 22:00:31
In reply to erotic therapy?, posted by SatinDoll on November 8, 2006, at 6:26:01
I can see myself getting turned on in the same situation. My T will say something that I'll disagree on and we'll go back and forth about it in a kind of playful-type argument too. Not that they are crossing boundaries or being inappropriate at all, but it does feel like a form of flirting (but I like it!)
I don't think you're crazy at all for feeling that way. It's fun to have those kind of friendly, yet sexy debates with them. =)
-Karolina-
Posted by SatinDoll on November 9, 2006, at 6:57:44
In reply to Re: erotic therapy?, posted by Karolina on November 8, 2006, at 22:00:31
Thanks Karolina !!!
I was beginning to feel like such a freak and an idiot for my posting about this. I was like I must be weird for nobody else has or would experience this. ;-)
I am glad you get it, the way you discribed it, was exactly how it was. Thanks again. Whew!
Posted by Karolina on November 9, 2006, at 18:40:08
In reply to Re: erotic therapy? » Karolina, posted by SatinDoll on November 9, 2006, at 6:57:44
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