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Posted by nutsandmore on October 24, 2006, at 9:28:15
I am new here, and i don't have any friends that understand, I have cried for 4 days straight now, i cant get anything done and i cant stop. I dont know whats wrong with me. I have been like this for 3/4 years. My therapist will not help, the dr. laughed me out of the office when i refused the remeron medication because i was having bad side effects from it, he treated me like i was lying and really put his hands behind his head and laughed in my face, and said that if i couldnt take that then he couldnt help me. I NEED HELP REALLY BAD, PLEASE SOMEONE!!!! i set up for a new dr, but i cant get in till dec. God what am i going to do till then. My husband wants to commit me, I am upseting my children, and that upsets me worse, they dont want mommy to cry, so i try to hide it from them but its hard, someone please, i have no where left to turn.
Posted by sunnydays on October 24, 2006, at 9:35:44
In reply to SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME, posted by nutsandmore on October 24, 2006, at 9:28:15
(((((((((((nam)))))))))))
I can't give you in real life help, but I can say I know how hard life can be sometimes. Best wishes with trying to figure out a way to cope. Sometimes going to the hospital is a good way to get a break if you really are finding it impossible to cope with life.
sunnydays
Posted by nutsandmore on October 24, 2006, at 9:52:22
In reply to Re: SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME » nutsandmore, posted by sunnydays on October 24, 2006, at 9:35:44
Thanks for the answer, i just have faked happy and pretended to be ok for so long, i cant anymore, i just cant take it i want to stop crying, i have already took two blue xanax, curtousy of a friend and its not helping. Why do you think the dr wont help me? Why, i need it so bad.
Posted by Daisym on October 24, 2006, at 10:34:18
In reply to Re: SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME, posted by nutsandmore on October 24, 2006, at 9:52:22
I suggest you go to the emergency room and tell someone there how bad you feel. If your husband is that worried, and you are afraid to be around your children, you must be persistant in trying to get help for yourself.
Call up the Dr. you have an appointment with in Dec and tell him it has turned into an emergency. Don't whitewash it -- lay it out. Sometimes we are so polite and so willing to pretend we can wait, others really, really don't see how huge everything has become.
I hope you find some relief soon.
Posted by Racer on October 24, 2006, at 12:44:08
In reply to SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME, posted by nutsandmore on October 24, 2006, at 9:28:15
Daisy's got a very good point -- probably on accounta she's a very smart cookie ;-) -- and I'm going to echo some of her advice.
First thing I'd tell you to do, is to call that doctor rightthisverysecond and say it's an emergency, and that if there's no way to squeeze you in sooner, you'd like to be put on a list to be called if there are any cancellations. Often, that can get you in a heckova lot sooner. And if they know it's an emergency, they will sometimes even shoehorn you in without a cancellation. I find it frightening to do that, myself, so I'll tell you this in hopes it makes it easier: they get calls like that all the time, and all you have to say is that you are in a world of hurt, will they call you if they have any cancellations. You don't have to convince them that it's an emergency, you don't have to convince them that there's a rational reason for you to be in crisis, or that you're justified in feeling this bad, or anything else. All you have to say is that you feel you need to be seen as soon as it can be arranged, and please call if there's a cancellation and they can see you sooner.
The doctor you saw sounds -- never mind. I don't want to violate the civility guidelines of this site. I just want to tell you that I think you've made the right decision in changing doctors.
I don't know if you've explored the boards on this site, but the plain vanilla Psycho Babble board is about medications, and is a good place to discuss what happened with the Remeron. It's very possible that what you experienced is something that your doctor could either have treated, or learned from. (Sometimes the specific reaction you get to a medication can hint at what other medications might work better for you.) There's a lot of good advice there, from a lot of people with a lot of knowledge about medications and side effects. Take it all with a grain of salt, since your mileage may vary. And since a lot of the people on that board have Treatment Resistant Depression, which can be a whole 'nother animal.
This board here is about psychotherapy, and might be a good place to explore what you mean when you say your therapist won't help? Is there a problem with the connection between you? Or is this the "talk/meds divide?" Or might you T be trying to help, and either not know how, or not be able to communicate that to you effectively? What is your T not doing, that you think could help? And what does your T say is the reason he/she is taking this tack?
Eh, beyond all that, I'm very sorry that you're going through this. Believe me, I've had some very bad experiences with drugs, pdocs, therapists, etc, so I can feel for you. Welcome to Babble, and I hope you stick around and get as much benefit from it as I have over the years.
Good luck, and I hope things improve for you very soon.
Posted by wishingstar on October 24, 2006, at 14:24:39
In reply to SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME, posted by nutsandmore on October 24, 2006, at 9:28:15
Hi nutsandmore.. I can relate to everything youre saying. It sounds like you're really in a lot of pain right now, and nothing you try feels like its helping. Like Racer said, I'm glad you got rid of that dr. He does NOT sound helpful to you.
Ive personally been struggling a lot with finding adequate help recently too. I want to encourage you to try the hospital as your husband suggests. I know how scary that sounds and there's probably a million reasons running through your head on why it's a bad idea/not for you/not necessary yet/etc. The reason I know that is because I was just in that place myself. I'll tell you what I did though in hopes that it helps you (Sorry if it doesnt). About a month ago, I finally did go to the ER. I'd tried and tried with many therapists, couldnt get a drs appt, etc. I was terrified of being admitted. But they didnt admit me. Rather, they referred me to the partial hospitalization program. I went there during the day (9-3) for 8 days and we had group therapy, workshops, etc. I was VERY hesitant to go and didnt really believe it'd help, but you know what? It did. And they let you see a psych dr while youre there so you can get started on meds. So if you were to go to the ER, even if nothing else was helpful about it (partial, being admitted, etc), you'd at least have medication. And it might just surprise you as to how much help it could be. If you look in the archives, you can find where I wrote about my experience in partial day by day.
Good luck and you're not alone.
Posted by muffled on October 24, 2006, at 15:47:37
In reply to SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME, posted by nutsandmore on October 24, 2006, at 9:28:15
> I am new here, and i don't have any friends that understand, I have cried for 4 days straight now, i cant get anything done and i cant stop. I dont know whats wrong with me. I have been like this for 3/4 years. My therapist will not help, the dr. laughed me out of the office when i refused the remeron medication because i was having bad side effects from it, he treated me like i was lying and really put his hands behind his head and laughed in my face, and said that if i couldnt take that then he couldnt help me. I NEED HELP REALLY BAD, PLEASE SOMEONE!!!! i set up for a new dr, but i cant get in till dec. God what am i going to do till then. My husband wants to commit me, I am upseting my children, and that upsets me worse, they dont want mommy to cry, so i try to hide it from them but its hard, someone please, i have no where left to turn.
***Its hard.
"the system" for mental health tends to suck.
You DO need help asap.
You don't have to feel this way. Help is possible.
Previous posters had good ideas.
Whats up with your T being no help?
Your Dr. sounds like an ahole. Glad your trying a diff. one.
Yeah, get help where you can.
It IS hard on your kids. They really do need their Mom.
So mommy needs to find help to get better.
Kids not so dumb eh.
Depending on their age, you could explain that your not feeling well, but that the doctor is going to give you medicine that will help, but it takes awhile to work. So don't worry bout Mom crying, Mom will be ok.
And increasing age, means increasing honest detail.
Try and remember emotions are just signals that something is going on inside. They shouldn't be in control, they just signals. And they like waves. They come, they go. Sometimes they overwhelm you like a big crashing wave, but then the wave receeds, and its calmer for awhile.
Wish I could say the right thing.
Kinda a little f*cked up myself right now.
But it will pass.
Take care,
muffled
Posted by SatinDoll on October 24, 2006, at 22:45:07
In reply to Re: SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME » nutsandmore, posted by muffled on October 24, 2006, at 15:47:37
I don't have any advice to give because you got the best of the best already. But I did want to say that I love your name. ;-)
Posted by nutsandmore on October 30, 2006, at 12:45:27
In reply to Re: SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME, posted by SatinDoll on October 24, 2006, at 22:45:07
to satin doll, thanks, my name is sharon but that is the only way to describe myself truely. I know that i am nuts, Ive been nuts for a long time, there just aint no name yet to describe the rest of it at not one for a KY dr.
Posted by nutsandmore on October 30, 2006, at 15:02:45
In reply to Re: SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME » nutsandmore, posted by muffled on October 24, 2006, at 15:47:37
Yeah thanks, it always passes but only for a few days, then its right back. My son is 5 so he is at school through the day, i stay in the bathroom if i can't control the crying because it really upsets him. I try to explain, and make up things, but it still upsets him and that upsets me more, vicious neverending cycle, my daughter is 17 months, and it affects her but as long as she doesn't see my face, its not so bad. My husband wigs out and wants to check me in, then when i go to get help, cause somethin aint right, the dr's make me feel stupid for even going. I know that where i am changing dr's they want my file from the place now, and i know they will give me the same dumb look. Its scary, i've been like this for so long, i'm afraid that i will never be able to enjoy all the good things in my life. Thats whats so crazy, my kids are perfect, my husband is perfect, needs a job, but treats me like a queen, great family, mom in laws. But then theres me, the nut in the middle that stands in the middle of all this joy and sobs like a baby. I just dont want to be like this anymore.
Posted by nutsandmore on October 30, 2006, at 15:08:20
In reply to Re: SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME, posted by wishingstar on October 24, 2006, at 14:24:39
I may need to do that, I cant go to the new doc till dec, thats 9 breakdowns away. It comes bout once a week for a few days, its there every day every second, i always have tears in my eyes, some days though i just cant hold them back. May be next time i will go, i am afraid that they would admit me, my husband is good and a good father but i couldnt leave him alone with the kids for days, he wouldn't know what to do. Where i live in the back hills,they would probably laugh me out of there, here they think it is funny when people act like i do, it just a big joke to them.
Posted by nutsandmore on October 30, 2006, at 15:19:29
In reply to Re: SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME, posted by Racer on October 24, 2006, at 12:44:08
thanks racer, nice to meet you, Im Sharon, Yeah the doc was a real.... maybe the new one will be better, i am on the list in case of cancellation. I plan to stay on the site, it has been the only place that i can find someone to talk to that understands, and i cant see that stupid look, like what the fuc. is your problem, and what do want from me, you know if youve ever had a bad dr.Yeah I am about as messed up as it gets, without having a real pycological problem, you know what i mean, so far i am self proclaimed fruitcake, no papers yet.
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