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Posted by Jost on September 2, 2006, at 5:40:44
Had a dream about being in a house by myself at night.
At the beginning, people came and said that I had ordered an expensive trip to an island ( think) which they were delivering. I was supposed to pay extra for the delivery. I didn't want the trip, but felt that Ihad to pay to prove I was okay, but it wasn't fair, esp. the extra charge, when I didn't want the tickets.
Then I was alone in the house, and worried about my SigO being angry that I'd ordered expensive tichets that I didnt' want. As usual Iwould be disppointing--getting SO interested, then losing interest, plus money--
SO came home and I mentioned payment. I had somewhat agreed topay, then changed by mind. The people had left, but I was worried about what to do. SO was annoyed, but took bill. We were downstairs and the back door was open. I could hear wolves calling out somewhere outside. I was afraid they would come through the door and find me. I kept saying, let's close the door, but for some reason, SO wasn't worried. but dismissed danger offhandedly. I went upstairs, which was safer, although entirley safe. SO was downstairs. I kept hoping the door would be closed, but we would always be keeping that door open. I knew that the wolves would come and felt that I wouldn't be able to proect myself from them.
My mother was in the house, visiting. She and I had unfriendly encounter. Something about packages, or my not handling something.
Also there was a large library room, or possibly part of hospital. A science professor or MD came out and was explaining to my SO that sometimes when people were losing it, they started talking about alien planets, or visiting alient planets. She seemed to be referring to SO's mother. I started to laugh, which seemed inappropriate, because they were very serious. But I said, your mother never talks about that! And SO said yes she did. And I said, When? He said she had the last time he saw her. Just briefly. I made some sort of comment to lessen the weirdness of her comment. The doctor seemed to look at me very suspciously, due to my inappropriate loudness and conversational tone. I felt terribly uncomfortable, as if I had said and done the wrong thing.
Then I left. I kept looking downstairs, afraid that wolves were in the house and would come up.
Eventually, my SO came up and said he was going to to down and close the door, because I wanted him to. But I knew it would aways be open a lot. He thought it was no big deal. Plus the wolves would always be there.
He said my sister was just like my mother, and was sleeping upstairs too, and making a lot of sounds, and never coming out of her room. I was relieved that I'm nothing like my sister, and I wouldn't do that.
I kept thinking about how easy it would be at any time for the wolves to break into out house. And how afraid I was to do what needed to be done--like closing the door. I was afraid I would see a wolf, but also that closing the door once would only mean it would be open a lot and evnetually a wolf would find me; instead I wanted to get away from that house, and find another place to live.
I didn't feel as is if I had the right to do that.We sat with my mother, who was pointed out things I'd done wrong. And Debbie was going to ahve everything going for her, and I realized that Debbie had stolen a lot of money from my pocket. She wasn't afraid of wolves, either.
Mostly felt panic, where you feel paralyzed, or backed into a corner,
Jost
Posted by Tabitha on September 2, 2006, at 14:27:46
In reply to Dream 9/2/06 (long, not interesting), posted by Jost on September 2, 2006, at 5:40:44
I just had to open your post since you labelled it "long, not interesting". :-)
Sounds very creepy/scary, especially the wolves. Did you see any of them? Or were they just vague presences?
I have no idea what it all means. I have dreams about my house being porous, and having intruders, or else it's raining through the many holes in the roof, or else the whole house is just rickety and unsafe and about to fall apart. Never animal intruders though, always human.
Posted by happyflower on September 2, 2006, at 14:30:01
In reply to Dream 9/2/06 (long, not interesting), posted by Jost on September 2, 2006, at 5:40:44
Wow, that was one interesting dream. I don't know what it means, I am not good at that sort of thing. What do you think it means if anything?
Posted by Jost on September 2, 2006, at 19:44:19
In reply to Dream 9/2/06 (long, not interesting), posted by Jost on September 2, 2006, at 5:40:44
Parr of the dream I understand.
The wolves may have something to do with a fear lately that people are knowingly being dishonest about their motives, or commtiment. Right as I woke up, I thought aboout a particular relationship, that bothers me a lot.
I mean that people see when you're kind of susceptible to manipulation-- or are perhaps even kind of insecure about yourself, and feel that you have to be the one to give way, in situations where someone has to- And they can be pleasant, and act interested, and allow you to have this faith in their intentions, as long as it serves their self-interest.
But as soon as it doesn't, they can be very cold and unyielding, and this veil of friendliness drops away. Or it stays, but they just walk away.
The image of the wolf came, I think, from this tv show that I had recorded and was watching. It had this vicious-looking black wolf that appeared out of nowhere and was staring through a door in one of the scenes. I was watching it before I went to sleep.
Yesterday, I wanted to be very clear and unconfused about a decision I made. Someone wants me to do something that really isn't fair to me. It's something they haven't earned, and yet they want me simply to give them what they want, despite their having acting completely in their own interest, often even just their convenience, despite a commitment to me, which was broken, and which was important to me.
Now they want me to go out of my way for them, and are not only demanding it, but claiming that I agreed to do it, which I didn't. It's kind of like they just are betting that I don't have the guts to say no, and basically daring me-- pretty sure, and waiting for me to back down.
Before they were here, I was clear-- but as soon as they came, my resolve crumbled, and this need to make them "happy," got stronger and more irresistible. It was incredibly demoralizing, esp. afterward, realizing how unable I was, despite the obviousness of their disregard for my project and their promise, to hold onto my own okayness, if I said no.
I'm pretty sure the first part of the dream with the wolves was about that.
Jost
Posted by Dinah on September 2, 2006, at 22:25:35
In reply to Dream 9/2/06 (long, not interesting), posted by Jost on September 2, 2006, at 5:40:44
I'm terrible at dream interpretation, but wolves at the door sounds like a classic metaphor for feeling unsafe.
And isn't there another shade of meaning to it as well? I can't put my finger on it. Money maybe?
Although in the end, my therapist says everyone's best at interpreting their own dreams, and it sounds as if you have a pretty good association for the wolf image.
Posted by llrrrpp on September 3, 2006, at 9:41:45
In reply to Re: Dream 9/2/06 (long, not interesting) » Jost, posted by Dinah on September 2, 2006, at 22:25:35
The part I thought was interesting was that the library was in a hospital, or some kind of institution. Do you feel like your life takes place within these confines?
Basically, mothers in law, or SO mothers or best freind's mothers, whatever, are all very scary beasts. They test you. You are guilty until proven innocent. And the longer I live at a geographc and psychological distance from my own mother, the more I get that feeling from her too.
Island. You wanna get away. You wanna eat seafood and smell the surf. You don't care how much it costs. And you won't want to be alone there either. You just want to take SO.
Wolf is definitely your "colleague" or whatever you want to call her.
I think you should pack your bags, and go to your island. I hope it's not too desolate and hot, because your chocolate supply might not hold out.
I've got at least 6 BIG bars in my fridge drawer right now. one of them is 300 grams. That's about as much as I can reasonably lift, at the moment.
You could have some fun with this dream in therapy, if you feel like you need an ice breaker.
do you ever have the feeling, during the day that you cannot remember ANYTHING from your dreams the night before, but then, when you lie down in bed and it's dark, you get an instant synopsis:
"in case you weren't tuned in last night, llrrrpp dreamed that she was walking up a set of grimy concrete stairs in a parking garage with her dumb college friends, and that she was drunk, and stumbling. But she didn't want to get in the car with a drunk driver. Stay tuned for the next episode as we find out whether llrrrpp is going to get in the car, fall down the stairs, or be transported to ancient Mesopotamia"
wierd.
-ll
Posted by Jost on September 4, 2006, at 0:59:20
In reply to Dream 9/2/06 (long, not interesting), posted by Jost on September 2, 2006, at 5:40:44
The part about the scientist was strange. I have no idea what it was about.
Or what island it was.
Maybe the island is everything in the world that looks so enticing and full of life and color and possiblity, but when it comes to the experience, it's out of control, and overstimulating, and takes the life out of you.
My Sig O's mother and I aren't very close, but there'a sort of warmth or acceptance there. We're very different kinds of people. For a long time, she was absolutely intent on our getting married, but I've got this thing about marriage. I couldn't do it. She gave that idea up ages ago, and I think has accepted me as part of the family now--although I'm not really family-- she wouldn't choose me to inherit things, for example, that are supposed to stay in the family. She wouldn't see me as the proper repository for that. She'd give it to someone else's child or something.
My mother-- it's weird, but I think I wrote something about my mother in an email recently-- and maybe that's why she's in the dream.
But the science Professor or MD? I'm not sure--- The room wasn't exactly a library with wooden desks and walls, and carpet-- it modern, everything was metal or synthetic-- kind of impersonal, with white or gray walls, and floor. I can't quite say what type of room it was, or where I;ve been in one. I don't remember books, but it wasn't quite a lab. I can't connect to it right now.
I wish I understood what that's doing in my dream. Doesn't remind me of anything.
Jost
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