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Posted by B2chica on June 20, 2006, at 16:22:12
i told my new T about my SA's in high school yesterday. we planned a session just for that. it was exhausting and i even cried when i didnt' think i was going to. (thought i was past that). but it's done and at least she has 'some' idea of some issues.
the thing is i've made a couple of 'comments' about 'mother' before and now she wants to talk about her tomorrow.
i'm just not sure i'm ready to go into that right now.i know it's probably not right but i don't think i'll ever tell her what i told other T. about the weird stuff she did when i was really young. but maybe talk about 'psycho behavior when i was teen and such.
i also haven't told her about anything of my brother or neighbor. and to be honest...i'm not even sure i want to go there again.
i think just letting it out for the first time (and last) was enough, especially since that last T was someone i trusted inside and out. it's not that i don't trust this T but i hardly know her. and to be honest, i'm not sure revisiting all that right now is best.i'm not sure why i'm writing this. i guess i'm not reallly asking a question. but maybe see what other's thoughts are on this.
i mean i can still have a decent 'theraputic' relationiship with her right? even though she may never "KNOW ALL"?
and who knows...maybe in time i might...but i really feel strongly that now is just not the time to reopen all that.thanks for listening.
b2c
Posted by orchid on June 20, 2006, at 16:48:40
In reply to talking about past in sessions...*trigger*, posted by B2chica on June 20, 2006, at 16:22:12
> i told my new T about my SA's in high school yesterday. we planned a session just for that. it was exhausting and i even cried when i didnt' think i was going to. (thought i was past that). but it's done and at least she has 'some' idea of some issues.
> the thing is i've made a couple of 'comments' about 'mother' before and now she wants to talk about her tomorrow.
> i'm just not sure i'm ready to go into that right now.
>
> i know it's probably not right but i don't think i'll ever tell her what i told other T. about the weird stuff she did when i was really young. but maybe talk about 'psycho behavior when i was teen and such.
>
> i also haven't told her about anything of my brother or neighbor. and to be honest...i'm not even sure i want to go there again.
> i think just letting it out for the first time (and last) was enough, especially since that last T was someone i trusted inside and out. it's not that i don't trust this T but i hardly know her. and to be honest, i'm not sure revisiting all that right now is best.
>
> i'm not sure why i'm writing this. i guess i'm not reallly asking a question. but maybe see what other's thoughts are on this.
> i mean i can still have a decent 'theraputic' relationiship with her right? even though she may never "KNOW ALL"?
> and who knows...maybe in time i might...but i really feel strongly that now is just not the time to reopen all that.
>
> thanks for listening.
> b2c
>
>I feel it is better to not open up very difficult topic during pregnancy - it might make you very emotional, and I think your consciousness during pregnancy is quite important - try to keep yourself as happy as possible during this time. In fact, I would even advise you not to read too much about horror stories, or watch horror movies, or even post here in babble to suicidal or trigger posts etc.
It is very important to keep a happy and peaceful mind during pregnancy for the health of the child, and please take it easy. As easy as possible. Just do therapy to have some support, but don't go into deep issues.
My 2 cents.
Posted by sunnydays on June 20, 2006, at 19:56:03
In reply to talking about past in sessions...*trigger*, posted by B2chica on June 20, 2006, at 16:22:12
Hi B2chica,
I don't think you should tell your T anything you really don't feel comfort sharing with her. I know you've been in therapy before, and I think you would know the discomfort that comes with talking about painful things from the discomfort that means you aren't ready to talk about it with her...........yet. I don't think you should necessarily rule it out and say you will never tell her, but I think it's perfectly fine, normal, and understandable to decide that you aren't ready to tell her right now. Maybe in the future you will feel differently - you won't know until the future comes. But try to find it in you to let it wait. If you never decide to tell her, that can work just fine. But maybe don't completely rule it out. But I understand how totally painful it is to talk about all this stuff from the past. Hang in there.
sunnydays
Posted by happyflower on June 20, 2006, at 20:37:32
In reply to Re: talking about past in sessions...*trigger* » B2chica, posted by sunnydays on June 20, 2006, at 19:56:03
Hi B2,
How long did it take you to open up to your first T? I am thinking that this relationship just needs more time.
My T didn't know everything and still doesn't, but slowing I am trusting myself more and him to be able to tell him what I know. Take your time and just do what you are ready for. It seems odd to me that your T would want to discuss 2 major topics in a row like that. I know myself after i have a hard session, I usually have more I want to talk about that took place during that session.
But I know everyone is different, just don't let your T push you too much, a little is okay, but if you aren't ready, just say no. It is your therapy, you know. ;-)
Posted by B2chica on June 21, 2006, at 9:14:33
In reply to i am with you » B2chica, posted by orchid on June 20, 2006, at 16:48:40
i think this is kinda what i needed to hear. to just do what i can to keep 'happy' while pregnant. i guess i needed some reassurance that i was doing the right thing.
thank you very much orchid.
b2c
Posted by B2chica on June 21, 2006, at 9:15:05
In reply to Re: talking about past in sessions...*trigger* » B2chica, posted by sunnydays on June 20, 2006, at 19:56:03
Posted by B2chica on June 21, 2006, at 9:18:50
In reply to Re: talking about past in sessions...*trigger*, posted by happyflower on June 20, 2006, at 20:37:32
well, first my last T we clicked really quickly and i pretty much instantly felt comfortable with him, also i was seeing him 2x a week and later on at times even 3x a week so we got pretty close pretty quick. but it was still probably a couple of months before i told the really deep stuff.
ya i was kind of taken aback when she said she wanted to discuss 'mother'. but she said because of some off comments that i've made about her, she said it would help her to understand the 'relationship' between her and i better.
and maybe i'm not ready. i to be honest, there actually are a couple of things i'd like to revisit about monday's talk. so maybe we won't even have time to really go into things?
who knows.
well i see her at 4 today so...we'll see how it goes.
Thank you for your support HF.
Posted by Poet on June 21, 2006, at 9:22:48
In reply to talking about past in sessions...*trigger*, posted by B2chica on June 20, 2006, at 16:22:12
Hi B2chica,
I think you can still have a good theraputic relationship without disclosing everything. My T and I have have an agreement that unless I bring certain things up, she won't make any reference to it.
I'll be in therapy, with her, for four years in August so I trust her as much as I am able, but still can't see myself sharing certain things. Maybe because I want to deny them. Bury them. Hide them. Maybe? Who am I kidding? That's exactly what I want to do. In any case, I have many other things to talk about in therapy and one day I hopefully will be able to go back to those issues.
Take care.
Poet
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