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Posted by Michael83 on June 1, 2006, at 0:17:02
I would imagine they are like teachers. Some really want to help, others are just trying to pay the bills.
I've never had one, but I want to be prepared to have one should my experiences go back to unbearable levels (I'm atleast stable right now and can survive).
Is it hard to find someone who really wants to help?
I understand that this is their job, and they will not adopt you as family, and it's just a professional relationship, but in order to be a good therapist you absolutely have to atleast truly care about the person you're working with.
BTW, I'm relatively new to the boards, and I assume "T" means therapist.
Posted by B2chica on June 1, 2006, at 9:34:59
In reply to How easy/hard is it to find a T who really cares?, posted by Michael83 on June 1, 2006, at 0:17:02
yes T means therapist, pdoc is psychiatrist.
they say on the average it takes 2-3 before you find a right fit. it's a little more for me. but i'm really picky.
but i have been lucky and found a great T. he's since moved.
but i did just go see a potential new T yesterday...and...i may actually kinda like her. so i'm going again.sometimes i look at degrees, sometimes specialties, sometimes experience, sometimes just their reactions to my history. and sometimes it's just a gut feeling (which honestly is mostly what i go by).
good luck to you.
b2c.
Posted by Michael83 on June 2, 2006, at 1:23:23
In reply to Re: How easy/hard is it to find a T who really car, posted by B2chica on June 1, 2006, at 9:34:59
Yes thank you!
It seems therapists have to assume that most of the people they meet with for the first time will not become long term clients, so I guess they can often at first feel disconnected with the potential patient.
I looked in the phonebook, and frankly, I didn't see a whole lot of therapists relative to the size of the city I live in (about one million). One thing is for sure, we need more therapists!
Posted by annierose on June 2, 2006, at 5:09:27
In reply to How easy/hard is it to find a T who really cares?, posted by Michael83 on June 1, 2006, at 0:17:02
Besides the phone book, ask people you feel comfortable enough for referrals.
If you are not comfortable, look on-line at Psychology Today's web site-You'll be happy nmber of therapists they list, with full profiles and lots of questions answered about their individual practice --- costs, their speciality, their theraputic orientation, their philosophy, etc. etc. I didn't find my T that way, but she is on that site and everything she said about herself is true.
(I went to insert a sentence above and my keyboard started eating my words, deleting what I already wrote. I forgot how to undo that, sorry)
Anyway, what I wanted to insert, just google, Psychology Today and look for the header, "Find a therapist in your area".
Posted by B2chica on June 2, 2006, at 13:29:49
In reply to Re: How easy/hard is it to find a T who really car » B2chica, posted by Michael83 on June 2, 2006, at 1:23:23
>>...One thing is for sure, we need more therapists!
Absolutely!!!!!
come on happy flower, gg, we need you out there.
b2c.
Posted by fallsfall on June 2, 2006, at 18:04:38
In reply to How easy/hard is it to find a T who really cares?, posted by Michael83 on June 1, 2006, at 0:17:02
This might help... Good luck!
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20031213/msgs/290414.html
Posted by fairywings on June 5, 2006, at 0:31:03
In reply to How easy/hard is it to find a T who really cares?, posted by Michael83 on June 1, 2006, at 0:17:02
Hi Michael,
Welcome to babble. ; ) You're right some are wonderful, others aren't. Sometimes you won't hit paydirt on the first or 2nd one, but there's got to be someone out there take you on as a client, and you'll both learn to care. My last T cut my appts. short (they were usually 30 - 40 min!), took phone calls during my appts., said mean things - but I still like him - it just wasn't a good fit. My current T is wonderful. Very kind, accepting, shares with me, is okay when I do something stupid.....and I like him.
I think you're smart to be prepared. Does your insurance co. have physician referal page? That's another place to check.
About the caring thing...my T told me he tries to be fully present with each client at each appt. He feels he owes us that, but it's a tough job, I guess being fully present every time would be hard. If you find someone you like who wants to be fully present, I'd say that's a good sign.
Good luck finding a Therapist!
fw
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