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Posted by SixSecrets on April 13, 2006, at 16:21:55
if it is appropriate to tpost how I am feeling on this board. My soul is screaming and the hurt goews thru me like waves. for the past 2 days I have done little but cry...I have nothing...nothing...The human capacity for soul pain goes somewhere beyond infinity...and I just cannot take it anymore. I have no one to lean on, or to give me comfort and nobody will miss me really. I have thrown out all kinds of stuff...I have done my best to put everything in order...I just cannot handle it anymore...I have been taking sleeping pills to knock me out so that I won't do the unmentionable...I have to get off this ride. Life is just not fair. Just not fair. I am sorry of this post upsets anyone, I didn't know where else to post this...I am old, used and very sad. So terribly sad.
Posted by sunnydays on April 13, 2006, at 16:50:02
In reply to I Don't Know, posted by SixSecrets on April 13, 2006, at 16:21:55
I'm so sorry you're feeling so sad. Can you remember even one time that you didn't feel quite so hopeless? A time when you noticed that the sun was shining, or there was a pretty flower? There will be more days when the sun shines and the flowers are pretty. I have felt what you are feeling, I think (although I would never presume to know what you are thinking). I know that it can sometimes help to know you're not alone in the world. Someone is thinking about you right now and hoping you will find the strength inside you to hang another minute, and another, and another. The feeling will pass eventually. But I know it takes a lot of strength to keep holding on when you can't see an end in sight. Hold on, SixSecrets. Someone's thinking of you. If it's okay, I'll give you some hugs. (((((SixSecrets))))
sunnydays
Posted by madeline on April 13, 2006, at 17:51:28
In reply to I Don't Know, posted by SixSecrets on April 13, 2006, at 16:21:55
The soul's capacity for suffering is tremendous. No doubt about it. I'm no stranger to the pain you describe right now and your post truly touched me.
Thank-you so much for sharing that with us. I bet you would be surprised at the number of people that sit and nod their heads at reading your post.
But, you know what I am beginning to learn? It's just a fledgling thought really, but I think it's true. The soul's capacity for hope is also tremendous. Potentially even bigger than it's capacity for pain. Tap into that resevoir.
Continue to reach out. There is only one you and if you leave, it's gone.
If the pain is too much, call 911 and get help. Reach out for that hope. It's there.
We're here to help you hang on until you can grab it.
Keep posting.
Posted by orchid on April 13, 2006, at 18:14:37
In reply to I Don't Know, posted by SixSecrets on April 13, 2006, at 16:21:55
Hi SixSecrets,
It is perfectly ok to post in this board. That is what we are here for. And I am glad you posted.
Personally, I care very much about each of the babblers here. I don't know why, but there is something that just melts our heart, when people tell their innermost stories and fears to you. Your post did the same. My heart really goes out to you, and if there is any way, I could make you feel better, I would.
Please do hang in there, and call 911 if things take a turn for the worse. Or if you have a pastor or a counsellor or close friend or a relative, please call them immediately. Or atleast go over to a public place, and hang out in a cafe shop or deli till this feeling passes over.
When we get old, many times, we enter into this stage, where we feel we are used. Every old person I know has complained of this at some time or the other. I don't know how old you are, but take heart in the fact, that this issue is common to many old people, and also that, most of them pass through this phase of thinking and emerge out to be decently happy and start feeling good about themselves.
I know I have been through this phase myself - when I have felt used, or cheated in life, or just plain worthless, even though I am not that aged. But they are like passing seasons - there are rainy days, there are days when there are severe snowstorms, and days where there is bright sunshine.
It is told that God created the seasons, just to teach us about the passing phase of the feelings. You might be feeling very painful these days, but I am sure there will be days when you feel better. If you have a favourite person, or a cartoon character, or someone who you liked in the past, think of them. Sometimes I do that when I am feeling very down - I think of someone or the other who had been very nice to me in the past, and that helps me.
And I don't know if you believe in God. But the belief that God loves me in spite of how unworthy I am, helped me through my worst of the times. That espeically helped me whenever I felt used or cheated, because God would never use me or cheat me. I am not going to make a religious sermon, but if you believe in God, it is time to go to church or a group meeting, or just go and pray, and I think it will help you feel better immediately.
Please let us know how you are doing, and post as much as you want.
Take Care, and lot of warm and big bear hugs to you.
Orchid.
Posted by canadagirl on April 13, 2006, at 18:53:36
In reply to I Don't Know, posted by SixSecrets on April 13, 2006, at 16:21:55
Hang in there, please, I care about you and I don't even know you. I hope you can feel somewhat better knowing that someone out here in cyberspace cares. I want you to write more so we can all hear from you and see how you are doing. Keep writing. Hang in there.
Posted by sunnydays on April 13, 2006, at 22:24:27
In reply to I Don't Know, posted by SixSecrets on April 13, 2006, at 16:21:55
We're thinking about you. Please let us know how you're doing if you feel up to it.
Posted by B2chica on April 14, 2006, at 9:02:28
In reply to I Don't Know, posted by SixSecrets on April 13, 2006, at 16:21:55
this is definately the right place to post. i do want to ask you first if you are in between medications? do you have a pdoc?
i really think some combo of meds could really help you.
it must seem hopeless right now, but i promise you it's not. please hang in there. the others are right, in that if it gets too tough, call for help. 911 or just go into the emergency room.
what types of things do you use for coping skills?my doctor is big on natural stuff to, eating three times a day with 3 or 4 snacks to keep motabilism up (dips in that can feel like depression), and excercize-it effects the brain like some medications.
now it sounds to me like this alone will not be enough to help you right now but i wanted to at least say it.it may not be much help right now but i wanted to let you know i care and we're here to talk.
cares
b2c.
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