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Posted by milly on April 8, 2006, at 7:54:21
Opinions needed,
i have told my T that I will be on the top of the Eifel Tower at the time of our normal session next week (1 week post termination week)I originally told him so that he would remembre me at that time but I now don't need that reassurance as after last week i KNOW i'm not forgotten.
What is the ettiquette of sending him a postcard?
milly
Posted by annierose on April 8, 2006, at 8:35:48
In reply to Do I or don't I send T a postcard from Paris?, posted by milly on April 8, 2006, at 7:54:21
I would send it. It will make you feel good knowing that he is thinking of you, and he will feel good knowing that you were thinking of him. Your last session was so special, he revealed a lot about his feelings. A postcard will make him smile.
After I quit therapy (years ago), I continued to send my T a note about once a year. She never responded, but I still sent them, knowing she was receiving them. I guess I didn't want her to forget me.
Posted by rubenstein on April 8, 2006, at 10:09:45
In reply to Do I or don't I send T a postcard from Paris?, posted by milly on April 8, 2006, at 7:54:21
I think it would be okay to send it. Just be prepared to talk about it in your session if he brings it up. Personally, I think it is a very sweet and awesome idea. Have a great time
rachel
Posted by LadyBug on April 8, 2006, at 11:52:05
In reply to Do I or don't I send T a postcard from Paris?, posted by milly on April 8, 2006, at 7:54:21
I would send it since you talked about it before your last session.
He probably won't resond, but you know he'll think about you.
LadyBug
Posted by pseudoname on April 8, 2006, at 12:49:24
In reply to Do I or don't I send T a postcard from Paris?, posted by milly on April 8, 2006, at 7:54:21
I teased my old T mercilessly about his vacations, so when I finally went on one, I sent him a postcard. It was very lighthearted, and I know he got a smile out of it.
Posted by madeline on April 8, 2006, at 13:42:36
In reply to Do I or don't I send T a postcard from Paris?, posted by milly on April 8, 2006, at 7:54:21
I would send it too. Maybe you could send him things all along to help you at least feel some connection with him.
Posted by pseudoname on April 8, 2006, at 13:50:38
In reply to Do I or don't I send T a postcard from Paris?, posted by milly on April 8, 2006, at 7:54:21
Posted by Dinah on April 8, 2006, at 20:14:12
In reply to Do I or don't I send T a postcard from Paris?, posted by milly on April 8, 2006, at 7:54:21
Sounds perfectly appropriate and friendly to me.
What a wonderful trip!! I hope you have a terrific time.
Posted by 10derHeart on April 8, 2006, at 21:00:40
In reply to Do I or don't I send T a postcard from Paris?, posted by milly on April 8, 2006, at 7:54:21
send me an authentic chocolate croissant, please!;-)
Parlez-vous francais, milly?
(I lived about 4 hours away, across the border in Germany for three years, but I only got to go a few times. It was glorius.)
Posted by milly on April 9, 2006, at 16:43:31
In reply to Yes, absolutely, and you can also » milly, posted by 10derHeart on April 8, 2006, at 21:00:40
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> send me an authentic chocolate croissant, please!** can't send it so i shall eat it for you!!! and enjoy it!
> ;-)
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> Parlez-vous francais, milly?** Just about get by but hoping my 16 yr old will use the practise before summer exams
> (I lived about 4 hours away, across the border in Germany for three years, but I only got to go a few times. It was glorius.)
Posted by milly on April 9, 2006, at 16:46:05
In reply to Re: Do I or don't I send T a postcard from Paris? » milly, posted by madeline on April 8, 2006, at 13:42:36
> I would send it too. Maybe you could send him things all along to help you at least feel some connection with him.
** thanks I will, I was wondering if I could send him the occasional update and also i had meant to leave the letter I wrote for our last session with him but brought it away with me, do you think it would be OK to send that at some point?
milly
Posted by madeline on April 9, 2006, at 17:17:31
In reply to Re: Do I or don't I send T a postcard from Paris? » madeline, posted by milly on April 9, 2006, at 16:46:05
Oh Absolutely youcan send it to him.
I know that therapist grieve as much as we do when patients are terminated or move on.
He will probably really appreciate hearing from you periodically.
This was a loss for him too, but as long as appropriate boundaries are maintained, you two can still communicate in a meaningful way.
At least, that's what my T promises me if I ever quit therapy (which is unlikely in the next decade).
Enjoy Paris.
Maddie.
Posted by happyflower on April 10, 2006, at 15:40:15
In reply to Do I or don't I send T a postcard from Paris?, posted by milly on April 8, 2006, at 7:54:21
Send it and have a wonderful time in Paris! ;-)
Posted by milly on April 10, 2006, at 15:49:57
In reply to Re: Do I or don't I send T a postcard from Paris?, posted by madeline on April 9, 2006, at 17:17:31
Thanks for your support over this, I will send him a postcard from Paris!
Must dash as I've got to pack and then we are catching the 6am train which means leaving here at 5:15am!!!! (only 8 hrs till the train leaves and I think I'm supposed to get some sleep!!)
Look after each other and I'll be back at the end of the week
milly
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