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Posted by happyflower on March 21, 2006, at 12:42:09
I think I really like him as a person. He is smart, funny, goofy, and has a bit of wildness to him, enough to make him interesting. LOL
Plus he is sensitive, caring, giving, unselfish, and just a really neat person. I think I am attacted to people like this, I know I am physically attracted to him, he is cute, but I think that is all there is to that.
I enjoy spending time with him, talking to him, laughing with him, I like who I am when I am with him.
When therapy is over, I will miss him like crazy, but I won't be sorry for working with him. I will be okay.
Posted by happyflower on March 21, 2006, at 17:42:32
In reply to I think my feeling are becoming more clear about T, posted by happyflower on March 21, 2006, at 12:42:09
So I think I love him as a person, but I am not sure if I am in love with him. Does that make sense? I think you can be phsically attracted to someone and not be in love with them, right?
Posted by Dinah on March 21, 2006, at 18:03:05
In reply to Re: I think my feeling are becoming more clear about T, posted by happyflower on March 21, 2006, at 17:42:32
Yep, happens all the time.
It's natural to admire attractiveness, and it's natural to notice and admire a person's better qualities. I've had male friends who were attractive in many senses of the word that I wasn't a bit in love with. It might have given the friendship a bit of energy that it might not otherwise have had, but that's it.
It sounds as if you're coming to a very good place with him, and I admire all the hard work you're doing.
Don't be too upset if you feel other things from time to time, though. Progress is rarely strictly linear, and when you're feeling particularly vulnerable those feelings might pop up again. But maybe now you can view them with some perspective from another place.
You're doing great, Happyflower.
Posted by rubenstein on March 21, 2006, at 19:41:21
In reply to I think my feeling are becoming more clear about T, posted by happyflower on March 21, 2006, at 12:42:09
> I love your posts. They make me glad that I am in therapy. Thanks for reminding me about the blessings of therapy.
RachelI think I really like him as a person. He is smart, funny, goofy, and has a bit of wildness to him, enough to make him interesting. LOL
> Plus he is sensitive, caring, giving, unselfish, and just a really neat person. I think I am attacted to people like this, I know I am physically attracted to him, he is cute, but I think that is all there is to that.
> I enjoy spending time with him, talking to him, laughing with him, I like who I am when I am with him.
> When therapy is over, I will miss him like crazy, but I won't be sorry for working with him. I will be okay.
Posted by fairywings on March 21, 2006, at 19:57:37
In reply to Re: I think my feeling are becoming more clear about T, posted by happyflower on March 21, 2006, at 17:42:32
Makes perfect sense to me, sounds like a really good way to love someone.
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Posted by milly on March 22, 2006, at 7:58:26
In reply to I think my feeling are becoming more clear about T, posted by happyflower on March 21, 2006, at 12:42:09
you're sounding so positive and as if things are falling into place, i know so acutely what you mean.
I only have 2 sessions left and although the pain is dreadful and rising I would rather cope with this than never have known him at all.
milly
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