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Posted by muffled on February 2, 2006, at 22:25:45
I like my T. She's real nice. I been going for over a year.I told her all I can remember, even about what an idiot I am and all. And she hasn't rejected me. She continues with the unconditional positive regard. She says she cares about me. She told my sister that she thot I was nice.
This week, and lotsa weeks, but not all the time. Well anyways, its like I want to call her. I want her to tell me I'm OK. That I'm not bad. And I guess that she cares I suppose.
I'm in limbo.
Attached on some level.
Yet completely refusing attachment on another.
And this causes controversy and confusion.
I don't wanto get hurt.
I don't know what my problem is. T says relationships w/people don't usu. go on forever. People move etc.
She says I need to learn to cope in good ways that don't hurt me.
So I don't think I should get attached. But that means I got to ultimately keep my emotions carefully under wraps and never set them free.
But she's not family, I could drop dead. She proly wouldn't come to my funeral. She's never met my IRL kids.
How can she know who I am if she hasn't met my kids?
I send her faxes. I trying to tell her stuff. But I don't think she gets it. And proly neither do I.
This whole stupid writings of mine proly don't make sense.
Proly never do.
I dunno.
I just dunno...............
Muffled
Posted by happyflower on February 3, 2006, at 2:26:52
In reply to I'm confused and feel stupid...., posted by muffled on February 2, 2006, at 22:25:45
You are not stupid, just scared maybe. Your T sounds wonderful. :) I think I would want to get attached to her too.
I think you are nice too, your T is right. I am sure your T cares about you. I am sure she would be sobbing at your funeral too, if something happended to you. You are a special little Muffy and we all know it here at Babble, so I am sure your T really knows how cool you are. :) Just accept the love and caring from your T, you will be okay. :)
Posted by milly on February 3, 2006, at 7:01:10
In reply to I'm confused and feel stupid...., posted by muffled on February 2, 2006, at 22:25:45
Hi, My turn to say 'you are not stupid' (you told me on 1/27!!)
She does sound lovely and so do you :) and you do make sense, its scary thinking about being 'real' with them but it does help.
((((((((muffy))))))))
from milly
Posted by muffled on February 3, 2006, at 12:43:01
In reply to {{{{{{{{{{muffy}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}, posted by happyflower on February 3, 2006, at 2:26:52
Posted by muffled on February 3, 2006, at 12:44:01
In reply to Re: I'm confused and feel stupid...., posted by milly on February 3, 2006, at 7:01:10
Posted by fairywings on February 3, 2006, at 19:11:18
In reply to I'm confused and feel stupid...., posted by muffled on February 2, 2006, at 22:25:45
Hi muffy,
my T said that feeling listened to and respected makes you feel better. I don't know if they really need to meet your IRL kids in order to know you. If you feel heard and cared about does that help you feel better? Do you think at some point you'll tell her about your kids inside? Maybe that will help her "get it"?
I think that push and pull of wanting to be attached and fearing it must be pretty normal or it wouldn't happen to so many of us. I think a lot of times they know a lot more about us than they let us know, bec. it's kind of scary to know, and my pdoc said it's better to figure it out ourselves. I think he's right...to have some insight, instead of being told.
I hope you feel better.
fw
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