Posted by fairywings on February 3, 2006, at 19:11:18
In reply to I'm confused and feel stupid...., posted by muffled on February 2, 2006, at 22:25:45
Hi muffy,
my T said that feeling listened to and respected makes you feel better. I don't know if they really need to meet your IRL kids in order to know you. If you feel heard and cared about does that help you feel better? Do you think at some point you'll tell her about your kids inside? Maybe that will help her "get it"?
I think that push and pull of wanting to be attached and fearing it must be pretty normal or it wouldn't happen to so many of us. I think a lot of times they know a lot more about us than they let us know, bec. it's kind of scary to know, and my pdoc said it's better to figure it out ourselves. I think he's right...to have some insight, instead of being told.
I hope you feel better.
fw
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