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Posted by LadyBug on January 22, 2006, at 12:18:03
I just want to say THANKS to everyone here at babble. I read the posts several times a day and it has helped me a lot. I don't reply very often, not that I don't care. I do care. I don't start a post hardly ever but think about it often. I don't know what keeps me from it. Am I insecure about what I think and how I feel and don't want to share anything because someone might think I'm not good with words? Something for me to think about.
Soooo, just in case anyone wonders if I'm ever around.....I AM!!!! EVERYDAY AND NIGHT!!
THANKS with all my heart to you all for sharing your experiences and wisdom with me. I really appreciate this board more than any other that I read. THERAPY is soooo important to me!! It helps me funtion better. And I love my T. just as much as anyone around here does. She's awesome.I'm even having a struggle with her right now and can't seem to figure out what to tell her. She knows I'm thinking about it. It all has to do with a cruise she is going on in 2 weeks. I wo'nt get to see her that week which makes me sad. So I decided to find a reason not to see her this week. I told her I needed to get my hair done so I can't come. So she tells me I devalue her????? OK???
She says she's importatnt to her and then in an odd way I devalue her and want to go get my hair done instead of see her? So I'm trying to process that and not get to nasty with her. It's ok for her to cancel our weekly meeting, but I can't? The person that does my hair only comes in town once a week and she will only be here on Thurs. this week and I have to go after work. That's the time I have schedlued for my T. appointment. I left her a message and told her I could cancel my appointment and get my hair done. I have it done every 4 weeks on the dot and this is my 4 weeks. I can't stand to let it go, it's so important to me. My hair is one of the things I'm really particular about. So what do ya think? Should I be mad at her? For telling me I devalue her? Make her less important?? But she can go on vacation and I'm supposed to not care??????? I'm a bit stuck. She said, I'm sure you'll research this, laughing, cuz she knows I really will.
She also said I devalue her because a few weeks ago when I was choosing my insurance plan I picked the one that My Dr.s are on and she wasn't. She is pre-existing anyway and I won't have coverage for her until Sept. this year anyway. By then open enrollment will come around and I can change to the one she is on. I told her that even if I did choose the one she is on, they won't pay, because it IS pre-exsisting!!! I'm sure she felt bad, she mentioned it a few times. And I felt terrible for making my choice.
THANKS EVERYONE!! YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME!!!LadyBug
Posted by LadyBug on January 22, 2006, at 12:21:47
In reply to I LOVE YOU GUYS~THANKS!, posted by LadyBug on January 22, 2006, at 12:18:03
I feel dumb now because I revised my post a bit and made some corrections and hit the confirm your post and instead of submit your revised post, it posted my original one? Is this proof of my fear of feeling dumb?
LadyBug
Posted by LegWarmers on January 22, 2006, at 14:44:38
In reply to Re: I LOVE YOU GUYS~THANKS!, posted by LadyBug on January 22, 2006, at 12:21:47
Dont feel dumb! Your message was sweet.
Posted by Poet on January 22, 2006, at 18:40:26
In reply to I LOVE YOU GUYS~THANKS!, posted by LadyBug on January 22, 2006, at 12:18:03
Hi LadyBug,
I have a standing hair appointment every six weeks and my T knows it and automatically schedules me for another time. My hairdresser only works one evening a week, so I would cancel therapy to get an appointment if I had to.
I'd be mad at my T if she said I devalue her. Honestly, isn't caring about your appearance a sign of positive mental health? When I'm depressed I don't wash my hair, change my clothes or care what I look like. Decent looking hair equals decent feeling Poet.
Thanks for loving us.
Poet
Posted by fairywings on January 23, 2006, at 16:07:26
In reply to I LOVE YOU GUYS~THANKS!, posted by LadyBug on January 22, 2006, at 12:18:03
hi LB,
you ARE good w/words!
it doesn't seem very sensitive for your T to suggest you devalue her, it sounds kind of petty to me, esp. if she knows the situation with your stylist, and how you feel about your hair.
Have you told her how you feel about her vacation?
Maybe print out this part of your post and take it to her:
>> She says she's importatnt to her and then in an odd way I devalue her and want to go get my hair done instead of see her? So I'm trying to process that and not get to nasty with her. It's ok for her to cancel our weekly meeting, but I can't? The person that does my hair only comes in town once a week and she will only be here on Thurs. this week and I have to go after work. That's the time I have schedlued for my T. appointment. I left her a message and told her I could cancel my appointment and get my hair done. I have it done every 4 weeks on the dot and this is my 4 weeks. I can't stand to let it go, it's so important to me. My hair is one of the things I'm really particular about.<<What does she mean that you devalue her by your choice of ins.? It sounds kind of inappropriate that she would talk about how she feels about something like that unless you were leaving her bec. of a choice to change ins. plans, or unless you asked her opinion.
fw
Posted by LadyBug on January 23, 2006, at 16:43:13
In reply to Re: I LOVE YOU GUYS~THANKS!, posted by fairywings on January 23, 2006, at 16:07:26
Good points to talk to her about FW. I feel the same way, it's ok for her to go on vacation, but because I want to get my hair done I devalue her?? And did I devalue her for choosing the insurance plan she's not on? I didn't do this on purpose. I had to make my choice in a matter of 24 hours and I thought I did ok on it. Geez, then she makes me feel like a dummy for my choice. I thought about it, and later told her I didn't think I made a bad choice. I did fine considering my therapy is pre-existing any way. She gives me a break in her fee since I haven't had insurnance coverage for the past severl months. She would get more money if I had insurance, but I'm the one paying, not my insurance!! I'm pretty upset that she would tell me I devalue her and that I also devalue myself too???? I have a lot to think about. I called and left her a voice mail this morning, I'll see if she calls me back today or tonight sometime. She's busy with her schedule on Mon. so it might be later if she calls. If she doesn't call me back, I'll be upset, I will call to see why?? I can see a can of worms opening up!!!
LadyBug
Posted by fallsfall on January 23, 2006, at 16:57:10
In reply to I LOVE YOU GUYS~THANKS!, posted by LadyBug on January 22, 2006, at 12:18:03
>So I decided to find a reason not to see her this week
This sounds to me like your motivation for making the hair appointment has more to do with therapy than it does with your hair...
It sounds to me like you are angry about her vacation. I think you should tell her that. These things are important to talk about.
Posted by LadyBug on January 23, 2006, at 18:46:09
In reply to Re: I LOVE YOU GUYS~THANKS! » LadyBug, posted by fallsfall on January 23, 2006, at 16:57:10
You're right on falls!! I also struggle when she goes on vacation and I told her laughingly that I needed to make a hair appoinment and should do it so I would have an excuse not to come.
I did schedule my hair appointment for AFTER my therapy session. Can't play too many games with her. I have a lot to figure out!!!
LadyBug
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