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Posted by B2chica on January 17, 2006, at 12:21:29
...before my T leaves. i have so much anxiety. i really feel that our souls connected. we have so much in common. he would be someone i would love to have as a friend, better yet, work along side of.
i know i'll probably never see him again and it aches to think of that. so for now, all i can think of is i see him tomorrow.
i've agreed to see a colleague of his (female) so it will be interesting.
the thing is, i don't want her to know my history. if she knows...i feel like everyone there will know. i even told T not to share childhood stuff with her. i don't trust her yet.
don't even know if i will.
right now i feel like when i go to her (our first session together) i will put on my headphones and not even talk to her. i feel like my inner child is having a tantrum.thanks for listening.
b2c.
Posted by daisym on January 17, 2006, at 15:15:39
In reply to three more sessions left..., posted by B2chica on January 17, 2006, at 12:21:29
I think your inner child deserves to have a tantrum and more. I know you went into this knowing it was short term but that doesn't make it any easier. You've done an incredible amount of work in such a short time. It has taken me 2 1/2 years to do as much...
Is there anyway you can either see the new therapist with your old therapist, or see her before he leaves so you can talk to him about how hard it is? Just a thought.
I wouldn't want my history shared either. I would want to decide if I could work with this person before I told all the details. But I will say that when my therapist talk to the pdoc for me, it was much easier to get to the nitty gritty of what I needed. I didn't nice him to death or pretend to be OK or strong. He knew I was a mess, I knew he knew and so we went from there. And it has been mostly OK.
I hope the next three sessions give you closure. Your therapist is very special. You will carry him in your heart I'm sure.
Hugs from me,
Daisy
Posted by madeline on January 17, 2006, at 18:33:41
In reply to three more sessions left..., posted by B2chica on January 17, 2006, at 12:21:29
My heart goes out for you and I understand how you feel. I've had to see a therapist only for short term treatment and I still miss him to this day.
I'm glad you have agreed to at least meet with this other therapist, and I think it will send a very clear message to her - that you really do have something to talk about - if you go with headphones on and don't speak.
I have been soooooo tempted to do that myself :)
It helps me if I just talk to my therapist about how I'm feeling though, I hope you can talk to your current one before he leaves.
I'm so sorry for your impending loss.
We'll be here if and when you need us.
Maddy
Posted by Poet on January 17, 2006, at 18:54:47
In reply to three more sessions left..., posted by B2chica on January 17, 2006, at 12:21:29
Hi B2chica,
You and your T have done a tremendous amount of work in a short time. It will be hard to lose that connection.
I am very slow to trust, so I understand why you will need to build up trust before your new therapist learns about your childhood.
New T should understand that you need time to know her before she can know you.
Let your inner child do what she needs to do. Try sitting with your arms and legs tightly crossed- that's how I protect myself and inner children in therapy.
Safe cyber hugs.
Poet
Posted by fairywings on January 17, 2006, at 23:08:37
In reply to three more sessions left..., posted by B2chica on January 17, 2006, at 12:21:29
I really feel for you B2, you sound so strong. I would feel the same way. It is so hard to trust and open up, I wouldn't want my history shared either. I hope you like the other T. I hope he's sending you to her bec. he knows it will be a good relationship.I would guess they both know how difficult his leaving will be, and your transitioning to her. Be good to yourself.
fw
Posted by B2chica on January 18, 2006, at 9:01:02
In reply to Re: three more sessions left... » B2chica, posted by fairywings on January 17, 2006, at 23:08:37
my T told me that it is very hard for him to leave because of the work he's doing...that made me feel better. you know, so it's not all one sided.
he's referred this lady cuz he thinks she's pretty good and straight forward, her office is right next to his so it's familiar which for me is good. but the more i think about it the more i want to cancel our first appt together.
i don't know.
thank you ALL so much for the support. i will certainly be needing you more with him gone. hope you won't mind my rantings.b2c.
Posted by annierose on January 18, 2006, at 9:43:28
In reply to Re: three more sessions left..., posted by B2chica on January 18, 2006, at 9:01:02
As hard as it is, please make yourself go to your first appointment. It will take time to build a relationship with her, to trust her with your stuff. Plus, you'll need time to grieve the loss of your current T.
I know how hard (and scary) walking into a new situation can be. It is hard. But I do think you will feel better for doing so. Plus, your T likes this T. That says something.
I'm glad your T shared that it is difficult for him too. T's do have feelings, it's nice when we get to see them.
Annie
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