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Posted by cricket on December 14, 2005, at 11:02:23
The message at the top of the Psychology board says, "This is a message board for mutual support and education."
I was thinking that some Babblers want all posts to them to weigh very heavily in favor of support. Whereas other Babblers welcome different perspectives, more challenges to their thoughts and feelings.
So maybe part of our job as caring fellow Babblers is to know as much as we can which camp any Babbler is in and respond accordingly.
My therapist was never the supportive type. So many times, particularly at the beginning of therapy, I would long for a kind word, a comforting tone. But then as I grew to accept the fact that he cared, I found I didn't need the support so much. In fact, it felt superfluous. I wanted to get at the meat of the issue, poke it, prod it, see where it gave way, where it was solid.
I guess I feel the same way about Babble now. Although I love the support, I know people care. So right now for me Babble is much more useful as a forum that enables me to see my thoughts, feelings, issues from another perspective.
So I hope that this current crisis doesn't make us shy away from that challenging/educational aspect of Babble.
Posted by LegWarmers on December 14, 2005, at 11:25:18
In reply to Support vs. Education/Analysis, posted by cricket on December 14, 2005, at 11:02:23
> The message at the top of the Psychology board says, "This is a message board for mutual support and education."
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> I was thinking that some Babblers want all posts to them to weigh very heavily in favor of support. Whereas other Babblers welcome different perspectives, more challenges to their thoughts and feelings.
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> So maybe part of our job as caring fellow Babblers is to know as much as we can which camp any Babbler is in and respond accordingly.
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> My therapist was never the supportive type. So many times, particularly at the beginning of therapy, I would long for a kind word, a comforting tone. But then as I grew to accept the fact that he cared, I found I didn't need the support so much. In fact, it felt superfluous. I wanted to get at the meat of the issue, poke it, prod it, see where it gave way, where it was solid.
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> I guess I feel the same way about Babble now. Although I love the support, I know people care. So right now for me Babble is much more useful as a forum that enables me to see my thoughts, feelings, issues from another perspective.
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> So I hope that this current crisis doesn't make us shy away from that challenging/educational aspect of Babble.I agree, it would be ashame. I enjoy hearing other peoples' perspective and find it so valuble and I appreciate the differnet views. How often can we throw out an idea and get numerous angles because of the so very different experiences we each share, and then sometimes even the evolving discussions regarding our issue help make a final decision or assist in understnading a difficult struggle.
LW
Posted by B2chica on December 14, 2005, at 12:08:50
In reply to Re: Support vs. Education/Analysis » cricket, posted by LegWarmers on December 14, 2005, at 11:25:18
> I agree, it would be ashame. I enjoy hearing other peoples' perspective and find it so valuble and I appreciate the differnet views. How often can we throw out an idea and get numerous angles because of the so very different experiences we each share, and then sometimes even the evolving discussions regarding our issue help make a final decision or assist in understnading a difficult struggle.
> LWyou are SO right lw.
b2c.
Posted by fairywings on December 14, 2005, at 19:23:50
In reply to Support vs. Education/Analysis, posted by cricket on December 14, 2005, at 11:02:23
i never thought of that cricket, you are so smart. now that you mention it, my t tries to get me to look at things differently, and i've been taking that defensively, even though he's even told me he's trying to get me to see things in another way. i thought he was being unsupportive, minimizing my feelings, and being simplistic. i thought i was unworthy, that my problems were too minor, and that i was wallowing in self pity. i never considered what to look at it from your pov.
thank you for shedding some much needed light on this.
fw
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