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Posted by rubenstein on November 8, 2005, at 18:56:07
Do you ever have those days where you just can't find that connection with your T. I had one today. I think I am okay with it, which is a big sign of growth, but I just can't figure out why the connection wasn't there. Maybe I'll ask him if he felt that way too? Hmmm, any suggestions
Rachel
Posted by fairywings on November 8, 2005, at 21:44:58
In reply to Just didn't connect, posted by rubenstein on November 8, 2005, at 18:56:07
I had one of those days 2 weeks ago. It seemed to me that something was bothering him. Any possibility you T had something weighing on their mind?
fw
Posted by sleepygirl on November 8, 2005, at 22:14:58
In reply to Just didn't connect, posted by rubenstein on November 8, 2005, at 18:56:07
I just hate those days. I'd ask him about it. Let us know.
Posted by muffled on November 8, 2005, at 22:17:28
In reply to Just didn't connect, posted by rubenstein on November 8, 2005, at 18:56:07
> Do you ever have those days where you just can't find that connection with your T. I had one today. I think I am okay with it, which is a big sign of growth, but I just can't figure out why the connection wasn't there. Maybe I'll ask him if he felt that way too? Hmmm, any suggestions
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> RachelI get that way too. seems such a waste. I always figger maybe its the T thats got something on their mind. But maybe its me. I dunno. Lousy when it happens though. Good that you didn't obsess over it or anything.
Muffled
Posted by Dinah on November 9, 2005, at 8:04:36
In reply to Just didn't connect, posted by rubenstein on November 8, 2005, at 18:56:07
My only suggestion is to mention it when it happens. I sometimes find that just mentioning changes the dynamic in the room enough to dispell the feeling. Perhaps it drags him back into the room if he's distracted, or perhaps it causes a change in the course of the conversation to what I'm avoiding, if I am avoiding. But I nearly always find it useful.
Posted by Augustina on November 9, 2005, at 10:25:51
In reply to Just didn't connect, posted by rubenstein on November 8, 2005, at 18:56:07
I agree with letting your T know about how you felt at your next session. I've had sessions w/my T where I just felt like we weren't connecting or on the same wave length or that I was boring him. I hate those sessions. But, I've also found that when I talk to him the next time about the way I felt, there's even more growth and understanding of what actually may have been happening during that "disconnected" session. It can be very enlightening. I don't think even those disconnected sessions are wasted ones at all. I think we can actually learn from them! Anyways, hope I made some sense.
Posted by Shortelise on November 9, 2005, at 13:13:27
In reply to Just didn't connect, posted by rubenstein on November 8, 2005, at 18:56:07
Y'know, I've had that happen and I can't understand why I don't talk about it while it is happening!!
Posted by rubenstein on November 11, 2005, at 15:35:03
In reply to Just didn't connect, posted by rubenstein on November 8, 2005, at 18:56:07
Thanks y'all for your advice, I think I will talk to him about it on tuesday, Peace to all.
Rachel
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