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Posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 21, 2005, at 20:03:06
Elephant in the room? and Icky? ( something icky)
I really want to understand what i am reading but i doubt these would be in the dictionary. Forgive me but i am new to therapy and need to learn the lingo.
Thanks all.
Posted by alexandra_k on August 21, 2005, at 20:08:30
In reply to please translate two sayings, posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 21, 2005, at 20:03:06
I shall have a go and hopefully others can add stuff...
> Elephant in the room
If there is an 'elephant in the room' then there is something big or important that is fairly conspicuous but the client or t or both just pretend like it isn't there and attempt to ignore it.
> Icky?
icky yucky thats a hard one...
bit like 'feeling bad'
kind of a general unpleasantness i guess
Posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 21, 2005, at 20:37:35
In reply to Re: please translate two sayings » FlyingKangaroo, posted by alexandra_k on August 21, 2005, at 20:08:30
Thanks Alex, I guess then my therapy is like one big icky elephant.
Transferance=Icky
Elephant in the room= My T ignores my transferance issues.
Posted by alexandra_k on August 21, 2005, at 22:11:44
In reply to Re: please translate two sayings » alexandra_k, posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 21, 2005, at 20:37:35
> Thanks Alex, I guess then my therapy is like one big icky elephant.
> Transferance=Icky
> Elephant in the room= My T ignores my transferance issues.er yeah, i think you are getting the hang of it :--)
Posted by alexandra_k on August 21, 2005, at 22:19:24
In reply to Re: please translate two sayings, posted by alexandra_k on August 21, 2005, at 22:11:44
actually... how do you mean 'ignores'? do you start trying to talk about it and then your t changes the subject? or is it just too icky to even begin to talk about it?
i managed to talk about transference today by talking in general terms rather than about the particular situation that was worrying me (the particular situation with me and my t).
in fact... that works as a pretty good strategy for me in general.
this might be a different transference than the kind you are talking about... but here goes.
i said that i was worried that sometimes i don't seem to be able to feel anything. and i worry that my heart is cold.
and i didn't mention that thats how i feel about her.
and she said that maybe that happens to me because i get scaired and then go numb.
and that makes sense to me.
and now i feel a lot better :-)
and not so numb anymore :-)i also talked a bit...
about how sometimes i feel like i can only fall in love with an ideal. and that i worry about that...which might contradict what i said before that, but too bad ;-)
i can't remember what she said...
but i feel better.
sigh.
sorry.do you think you might be able to talk about it in general terms?
maybe your t will figure you are talking about them, maybe not...
Posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 21, 2005, at 22:34:55
In reply to Re: please translate two sayings, posted by alexandra_k on August 21, 2005, at 22:19:24
I talked with my T about the "Icky" transferance issue ( Ya' know thinkin I'm in love with him and stuff) And he said it was normal and i would get over it. Well I'm kinda consumed with it and he gives me the feeling that he doesnt want help me work through it. ( gets a cranky look on his face when i bring it up). He knows damn well that it's a problem for me and now "I aint talkin 'bout nothin else until this is addressed properly" ( spoken like a 6 year old brat).
Actually, i just sent him an email last night to which he has not responded yet and told him that this issue is too much to deal with on my own and i am aware that I'm not supposed to deal with it on my own (thanks to babblers).
I guess i"ll see what happens on tues. night and if if he doesnt wanna talk about it I will move on to a new T. Yes i will tell him that too.
Posted by alexandra_k on August 21, 2005, at 23:00:38
In reply to Re: please translate two sayings » alexandra_k, posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 21, 2005, at 22:34:55
LOL!!!
Yeah, you go :-)
I think t's can find this one quite hard...
But then so can clients...
:-)
I hope he finds the courage.
Posted by Dinah on August 22, 2005, at 9:58:55
In reply to please translate two sayings, posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 21, 2005, at 20:03:06
I use icky very specifically to mean something icky in a sexual way. Something made disgusting and... well, "icky" by sexualizing it.
I don't have better words for it.
Posted by cricket on August 22, 2005, at 12:37:29
In reply to Re: please translate two sayings, posted by alexandra_k on August 21, 2005, at 22:19:24
> i said that i was worried that sometimes i don't seem to be able to feel anything. and i worry that my heart is cold.
>
> and i didn't mention that thats how i feel about her.
>
> and she said that maybe that happens to me because i get scaired and then go numb.
>
> and that makes sense to me.
> and now i feel a lot better :-)
> and not so numb anymore :-)
>
Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. Glad it made you feel better :-)
Posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 22, 2005, at 16:51:22
In reply to Re: please translate two sayings » FlyingKangaroo, posted by Dinah on August 22, 2005, at 9:58:55
Thanks Dinah, I guess its a bit like gross
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