Posted by alexandra_k on August 21, 2005, at 22:19:24
In reply to Re: please translate two sayings, posted by alexandra_k on August 21, 2005, at 22:11:44
actually... how do you mean 'ignores'? do you start trying to talk about it and then your t changes the subject? or is it just too icky to even begin to talk about it?
i managed to talk about transference today by talking in general terms rather than about the particular situation that was worrying me (the particular situation with me and my t).
in fact... that works as a pretty good strategy for me in general.
this might be a different transference than the kind you are talking about... but here goes.
i said that i was worried that sometimes i don't seem to be able to feel anything. and i worry that my heart is cold.
and i didn't mention that thats how i feel about her.
and she said that maybe that happens to me because i get scaired and then go numb.
and that makes sense to me.
and now i feel a lot better :-)
and not so numb anymore :-)i also talked a bit...
about how sometimes i feel like i can only fall in love with an ideal. and that i worry about that...which might contradict what i said before that, but too bad ;-)
i can't remember what she said...
but i feel better.
sigh.
sorry.do you think you might be able to talk about it in general terms?
maybe your t will figure you are talking about them, maybe not...
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