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Posted by gardenergirl on August 3, 2005, at 22:28:40
Hi Ms. Lott,
I am training to be a therapist, and I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your book. I've been working my way through it (you should see the stack of books on my nightstand). I am struck by how much is in there that was not taught in my classes. So much of the relationship aspect of therapy is so hard to "teach" to someone. Your explanations and examples have been very instructive for me.If you were to sort of sum up or highlight what you think is the most crucial message for therapists, based on your research, what would you say? Sorry if that's a big question. :)
Thanks,
gg
Posted by deborah anne lott on August 5, 2005, at 20:56:32
In reply to Lott: advice for future therapists?, posted by gardenergirl on August 3, 2005, at 22:28:40
Wow, that is a big question. I guess that's why I wrote the book. Main things I guess: 1)Don't be arrogant. 2) Don't let your own ego-needs get in the way of the client's therapy. 3) Seek consultation with someone more senior whenever you feel a nagging suspicion that something is not going well. 4) Don't presume/offer to heal all your client's wounds. 5) Don't presume to provide everything a parent failed to provide. 6) Pay attention to the transference. 7) Pay attention to the transference. 8) Pay attention to the transference. 9) Boundaries always have symbolic importance. 10) Nothing is ever as simple as you think. 11) Don't wait for the client to bring something up if you think it needs to be addressed in the therapy -- be pro-active. 12) Assume that there will be negative feelings in the room as well as positive ones. Don't run away from the feelings --whether your own or your client's.
> Hi Ms. Lott,
> I am training to be a therapist, and I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your book. I've been working my way through it (you should see the stack of books on my nightstand). I am struck by how much is in there that was not taught in my classes. So much of the relationship aspect of therapy is so hard to "teach" to someone. Your explanations and examples have been very instructive for me.
>
> If you were to sort of sum up or highlight what you think is the most crucial message for therapists, based on your research, what would you say? Sorry if that's a big question. :)
>
> Thanks,
> gg
Posted by crushedout on August 6, 2005, at 9:14:35
In reply to Re: Lott: advice for future therapists?, posted by deborah anne lott on August 5, 2005, at 20:56:32
Posted by gardenergirl on August 6, 2005, at 15:25:58
In reply to wow, that's a great list. (nm) » deborah anne lott, posted by crushedout on August 6, 2005, at 9:14:35
Thanks for your reply. So it seems I should pay attention to the transference, eh? I agree, and I think this might be one of the more difficult aspects of therapy. I find I can see it in my own therapy, but for some reason it's harder to see in many of my clients. I assume that's due to some block on my part versus my clients, but it's hard to say.
What a great list. I think I may need to print it out and keep it in my desk.
Thanks again for your sharing your insights, Ms. Lott.
gg
Posted by Susan47 on September 3, 2005, at 18:15:03
In reply to Re: Lott: advice for future therapists?, posted by deborah anne lott on August 5, 2005, at 20:56:32
Very late coming to this, but I wish I had the nerve to send Ms. Lott's list to my ex-therapist!!!!
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