Posted by deborah anne lott on August 5, 2005, at 20:56:32
In reply to Lott: advice for future therapists?, posted by gardenergirl on August 3, 2005, at 22:28:40
Wow, that is a big question. I guess that's why I wrote the book. Main things I guess: 1)Don't be arrogant. 2) Don't let your own ego-needs get in the way of the client's therapy. 3) Seek consultation with someone more senior whenever you feel a nagging suspicion that something is not going well. 4) Don't presume/offer to heal all your client's wounds. 5) Don't presume to provide everything a parent failed to provide. 6) Pay attention to the transference. 7) Pay attention to the transference. 8) Pay attention to the transference. 9) Boundaries always have symbolic importance. 10) Nothing is ever as simple as you think. 11) Don't wait for the client to bring something up if you think it needs to be addressed in the therapy -- be pro-active. 12) Assume that there will be negative feelings in the room as well as positive ones. Don't run away from the feelings --whether your own or your client's.
> Hi Ms. Lott,
> I am training to be a therapist, and I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your book. I've been working my way through it (you should see the stack of books on my nightstand). I am struck by how much is in there that was not taught in my classes. So much of the relationship aspect of therapy is so hard to "teach" to someone. Your explanations and examples have been very instructive for me.
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> If you were to sort of sum up or highlight what you think is the most crucial message for therapists, based on your research, what would you say? Sorry if that's a big question. :)
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> Thanks,
> gg
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