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Posted by rubenstein on July 26, 2005, at 9:59:11
I was so sad yesterday in my session. Sometimes I try to protect my T, even though I know that isn't needed or waht he needs me to do. We were talking about why I was sad and why I felt like I was a bad person...he changed it to why I am a good person, and I just couldn't think of anything except that I am responsible. It made me so sad, and he asked me where all my saddness came from and I told him alot of it but not all. I don't know why I held out, it was just like the words couldn't come out. At the end of the session he asked me if I had told him all I was sad about, I said no, and we just looked at each other. I felt so bad, for disapointing him and for losing myself. When did I get so lost?
Sorry for the post
rubenstein
Posted by Shortelise on July 26, 2005, at 13:21:02
In reply to therapy troubles, posted by rubenstein on July 26, 2005, at 9:59:11
((rubenstein))
Can you let it come out little by little, and accept that's the way it needs to be for you?
Why does it have to be a failure instead of a success? You told LOTS, didn't you??? That's a success. That you didn't tell it all, well, you will in your own time. It's hard to put stuff out there. REally hard.
Will you talk to your T about the end of your session and that you felt you had disappointed him?
ShortE
Posted by Augustina on July 26, 2005, at 14:34:02
In reply to therapy troubles, posted by rubenstein on July 26, 2005, at 9:59:11
Rubenstein,
at my last session last week I was also having a hard time expressing myself and putting into words what I was feeling to my T. It frustrated me especially b/c the questions he was asking me seemed "simple" enough, yet I struggled with the answers. I sensed some frustration on his end too but then again, i'm probably projecting.
I think we all go through sessions where we feel like we didn't give it our "all"...but this is part of the process of therapy. Just don't be too hard on yourself, okay?
take care,
Augustina
Posted by Dinah on July 27, 2005, at 7:08:22
In reply to therapy troubles, posted by rubenstein on July 26, 2005, at 9:59:11
I know it's such an old truism. But I think it's because it's true. When I'm stuck in what I'm trying to say, I turn to process(?) is it? And start talking about having trouble saying what I'm trying to say.
Or I change the subject.
But talking about having trouble saying what I'm trying to say, frustration that I'm "wasting" my therapy sessions, or fears that he might be frustrated with me really help on a number of levels. Including occasionally dislodging the thought and getting it said.
Posted by rubenstein on July 27, 2005, at 10:15:45
In reply to Re: therapy troubles » rubenstein, posted by Dinah on July 27, 2005, at 7:08:22
Thanks all for your support and ideas. I feel a little better today, and just hope I can make until my next session in 12 days. Then he goes on vacation...ugh....sometimes I hate the summer
Rachel
Posted by Augustina on July 27, 2005, at 16:18:41
In reply to Re: therapy troubles » rubenstein, posted by Dinah on July 27, 2005, at 7:08:22
> I know it's such an old truism. But I think it's because it's true. When I'm stuck in what I'm trying to say, I turn to process(?) is it? And start talking about having trouble saying what I'm trying to say.
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> Or I change the subject.
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> But talking about having trouble saying what I'm trying to say, frustration that I'm "wasting" my therapy sessions, or fears that he might be frustrated with me really help on a number of levels. Including occasionally dislodging the thought and getting it said.Dinah,
I'm going to give this one a try at my next session...talking about how it's sometimes difficult to verbalize my feelings or whatever it is that's heavy on my mind. Do you find the less you think about your answer the better in terms of getting the idea out? whenever i start editing things in my head then i find myself slowing down, stumbling, becoming self conscious, then getting frustrated and freezing up.
My last session frustrated me b/c my T commented how "other people" had no problem answering the same type of question he was asking me...that made me feel even more inadequate. I'm definitely going to bring that one up to him also.
Posted by Dinah on July 27, 2005, at 16:25:52
In reply to Re: therapy troubles » Dinah, posted by Augustina on July 27, 2005, at 16:18:41
I'd bring that up, definitely.
I think I do think about things ahead of time, and that makes it easier for me to say. Or maybe I just think about those things in general, and that makes it easier. I really have trouble saying things I haven't thought of before.
My therapist helps me turn to that sort of discussion when I get stuck. Perhaps because he's learned that it helps to unstick me.
Posted by rubenstein on July 27, 2005, at 19:09:08
In reply to Re: therapy troubles » Dinah, posted by Augustina on July 27, 2005, at 16:18:41
I am such an editor too. It just comes natural to me. I think that is one of the big problems I ahve had in therapy lately. Too much editing!
rachel
> > I know it's such an old truism. But I think it's because it's true. When I'm stuck in what I'm trying to say, I turn to process(?) is it? And start talking about having trouble saying what I'm trying to say.
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> > Or I change the subject.
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> > But talking about having trouble saying what I'm trying to say, frustration that I'm "wasting" my therapy sessions, or fears that he might be frustrated with me really help on a number of levels. Including occasionally dislodging the thought and getting it said.
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> Dinah,
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> I'm going to give this one a try at my next session...talking about how it's sometimes difficult to verbalize my feelings or whatever it is that's heavy on my mind. Do you find the less you think about your answer the better in terms of getting the idea out? whenever i start editing things in my head then i find myself slowing down, stumbling, becoming self conscious, then getting frustrated and freezing up.
> My last session frustrated me b/c my T commented how "other people" had no problem answering the same type of question he was asking me...that made me feel even more inadequate. I'm definitely going to bring that one up to him also.
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