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Posted by pinkeye on April 29, 2005, at 16:00:50
I feel like telling my T all that I have grown in the past 3 months, how I have come to really understand what happened with him, how I understood what happened with my dad etc, and somehow want him to tell me, "well done kid.. good job" and give me a pat on my back, and tell me that he loves me unconditionally, that he always liked me, that I didn't have to hurt myself so much.
:-). No of course I am not going to write.. this is probably more transference. And it is not going to happen. Such a silly foolish desire.
Posted by pinkeye on April 29, 2005, at 16:51:50
In reply to Want to get a pat on my back from my ex T., posted by pinkeye on April 29, 2005, at 16:00:50
Actually I realized I don't want a pat on my back. I want a hug. No well done job recognition. What I need more is a simple, affectionate, warm hug - from a human to another.. not in recognition of a job well done, or not in recognition of my intelligence or capability. I have had lots of those. What I want is a hug you give to a child.. just a sweet and affectionate one. I don't want any more of "you're intelligent, you're smart, you're capable, you deserver it, you've earned it" etc. I have had only those all my life from my dad. What I want now is a bear hug with unconditional love - as it should be from a dad to a daughter. Not in recognition of her capacity, but in recognition of her person.
Just rambling.. don't listen to me.. I think I should get drunk now. Except I don't drink.
Posted by annierose on April 29, 2005, at 16:58:59
In reply to Re: Want to get a pat on my back from my ex T. » pinkeye, posted by pinkeye on April 29, 2005, at 16:51:50
I don't want to bring up any painful memories, but remind me why you terminated with him. I've drawn a blank. Did you move?
I'm sorry you are having a hard time right now. But it does sound like you are making progress with your new T.
Posted by pinkeye on April 29, 2005, at 17:42:41
In reply to Re: Want to get a pat on my back from my ex T. » pinkeye, posted by annierose on April 29, 2005, at 16:58:59
It is not about my T. It is about my dad. I am feeling so much angry with him.. He didn't do anything right with me. Whatever thinking capacity he gave me also, he gave me through terrorrizing me.. whatever he made me achieve, it was all through fear and terror. And he taught me how to be intelligent, but only because I was scared of him. All the time I was scared of him, and terrorized to live in my own home. I was always terrorized of him.. He loves me a lot, but just plainly used terror with me for everything he wanted me to do. Here is a man who absoultely didn't have any emotional maturity whatsoever. I feel bad to admit it, but that is how he was. Atleast in the past few years he is lot more better. But 10 years back, he was just totally incapable of any emotional maturity.
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