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Posted by Joslynn on April 20, 2005, at 16:27:16
T is undergoing an operation soon. She told me this because that is why she had to cancel some sessions.
It's not anything serious like a bypass, but it's not exactly an eye tuck either. I guess it's something hospitals do every day, but I'm still a bit nervous about it. It does require anesthesia.
I am trying not to imagine that she will never wake up!
<worry, worry>
Posted by Dinah on April 20, 2005, at 18:08:28
In reply to worrying about T's operation, posted by Joslynn on April 20, 2005, at 16:27:16
Naturally you're worried! While I'm sure it'll be fine, it's natural to worry when someone you know and like has surgery.
And, my therapist thinks this is schizotypal of me, I'm convinced of the preventive power of worry. The fates like to catch us when we aren't paying attention.
Is the surgery soon? I'll send good wishes her way as well.
(I also sort of get upset with any reminder of my therapist's mortality.)
Posted by messadivoce on April 20, 2005, at 18:28:32
In reply to worrying about T's operation, posted by Joslynn on April 20, 2005, at 16:27:16
I can understand your being worried. I think when we are attuned to a T's state, it becomes very stressful when they have health issues. I think we can be very sensitive to those things that wouldn't cause worry in anyone else.
Can you get her a card, some magazines to read in the hospital, something of yours that she can take?
Posted by Joslynn on April 21, 2005, at 8:26:05
In reply to Re: worrying about T's operation » Joslynn, posted by messadivoce on April 20, 2005, at 18:28:32
I think the op is today, actually. Then recovery time at home I guess.
Sending a card is a good idea, but I don't know her home address or where the hospital is. I guess I could send a card to her office address at least. Hmmm. Or I could try to find her address, but I don't want to intrude. Or I can just pray.
I do worry about everyone I know who has to go under anesthesia/get surgery, because I knew a couple people who worked in the OR. The stories they told!
Posted by Dinah on April 21, 2005, at 11:07:11
In reply to Re: worrying about T's operation, posted by Joslynn on April 21, 2005, at 8:26:05
The office address sounds like your best bet. That way there won't be the possibility of grist for the mill in the form of finding out her home address.
I know there are always horror stories of unusual outcomes. But that's why they tell those stories. The other ones are common enough to be unmemorable. Does she work at an office with a receptionist or anything? If so, you could maybe call late today and see of she's ok. People used to do that with my daddy.
Posted by shrinking violet on April 22, 2005, at 10:20:43
In reply to worrying about T's operation, posted by Joslynn on April 20, 2005, at 16:27:16
I'm sorry your T has to have an operation....I understand your concern for her. It's natural to be concerned for those we work so closely with and care for. I'm sure she'll be all right. Perhaps send her a get-well card (or make one!). That way it'll keep you busy during this time, and she'll know you were thinking of her.
I worry about my T a lot too. One week, I knew she was home from work b/c she wasn't feeling well, and I was wondering if she had anyone to go run errands for her if she needed juice or anything...I drove myself crazy feeling helpless and sad for her.
Take care of yourself too.
SV
Posted by Dinah on April 22, 2005, at 19:32:18
In reply to Re: worrying about T's operation, posted by shrinking violet on April 22, 2005, at 10:20:43
Oh lordy. This is embarassing.
With me it was his move. It must have been mid intense relationship moment, because I wondered if he had enough people to help him move.
Then I recoiled as if I had been bit by a snake by the realization that the last thing I would want to do was help him move.
It made me feel sort of bad, and made the one sided nature of the therapeutic relationship very clear. But it also made me feel sort of good that I'd never have to find out the sort of things you find out when you help someone move.
I also worry when someone in his family is sick, or when he is sick.
Posted by thewrite1 on April 23, 2005, at 14:20:18
In reply to worrying about T's operation, posted by Joslynn on April 20, 2005, at 16:27:16
I've been through that. It was a minor operation, but I had a sense of panic about it. I called her voicemail on the day she was to have it and left a message telling her I hoped it went okay and that she recovered quickly. I felt better after that, though I'm not sure why. I guess I just needed to voice my concerns.
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