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Posted by mmcconathy on March 20, 2005, at 14:52:29
Lately i have been having probelems with really find who i am.
I have borrowed images of people, and projected them to have feeling an "image" in a sitation.
This has blocked me from find who i am really am, i have avoided to project myself becuase i feel im not "sophisticated", or just not really "the person" i want to be.
I never have had an "incorperated" identity, which has lead to isolation, and dispair.
When i chat with people, i always see myself as someone else that is sophistated, or just someone i want to be. I put on frounts, fake egos, faces, personality.
I do have a person in my mind, that helps me try to get things together, but i realized it really doesnt work, i lean on them, who are not real, catasphophe.
I think we all have "intrests" that draw people, to eachother, forms friends...bla, i dont really have any common intrests, when i was a kid, i was more intrested in trying to get in my grandma's attic.
Well, i've been reading this novel by Dr. Robert Anthony "Total-Self Confidence" which has been pretty helpful in finding awareness. but anyway..
Does anyone know what im talking about
Posted by Tamar on March 20, 2005, at 19:12:49
In reply to feelings of grandosity to comphensate for depressi, posted by mmcconathy on March 20, 2005, at 14:52:29
> This has blocked me from find who i am really am, i have avoided to project myself becuase i feel im not "sophisticated", or just not really "the person" i want to be.I'd like to be the person I want to be too. But somehow I have to discover the person I am, and that isn't necessarily the person I want to be. I hope to learn to live with the person I am (if that makes sense)!
> When i chat with people, i always see myself as someone else that is sophistated, or just someone i want to be. I put on frounts, fake egos, faces, personality.I put on make up! But I know what you mean. It's nice to pretend to be somebody better, nicer, more popular... But at the end of the night the make up has to come off and I'm back to being me.
> I do have a person in my mind, that helps me try to get things together, but i realized it really doesnt work, i lean on them, who are not real, catasphophe.
Yeah. It's easier not to try to be someone else. You can only be who you are.
> I think we all have "intrests" that draw people, to eachother, forms friends...bla, i dont really have any common intrests, when i was a kid, i was more intrested in trying to get in my grandma's attic.
Maybe when you were a kid you didn't find you had common interests with other kids... although I'm sure there were plenty other kids who wanted to get in their grandma's attic. But now you're not a kid anymore, what are you interested in? Are you interested in things that other people are interested in?
> Well, i've been reading this novel by Dr. Robert Anthony "Total-Self Confidence" which has been pretty helpful in finding awareness. but anyway..
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So you're interested in reading novels. Lots of people are interested in reading novels. I haven't read the book you mention, but I recently read 'What I Loved' by Siri Hustvedt.Do you find that reading gives you a sense of being yourself?
Tamar
Posted by gardenergirl on March 20, 2005, at 23:27:34
In reply to Re: feelings of grandosity to comphensate for depressi » mmcconathy, posted by Tamar on March 20, 2005, at 19:12:49
Hi Matt, it's good to see you back. I think you are at an age when figuring out who you are takes up a good part of your energy. It is like that for everyone, but perhaps it's been harder for you given your experiences.
You've asked in other posts whether you should follow one path or another. What I have observed is that you seem to jump from one idea to another very quickly.
My advice would be to give one idea a good solid try, say of six to eight weeks or more. That may seem like a very long time, but it's really not that long. And as far as putting on a personality or identity, the same thing goes. We all learn to adapt ourselves to situations, but we need to have an idea of what our core self is like to be able to do this well. I think sticking with one sense of self that you "try on" for a period of time might be helpful. Think of it as an experiment. Try one identity and watch and feel how it is like. Observe how it works or doesn't work in certain situations. Then tweak it. It's the same with medications. Start with one plan, see how it works for a period of time (six to eight weeks), observe what works and doesn't, then tweak it.
Does this make sense?
If you keep changing too much too quickly, you will never get a solid idea of what is working and what is not. And then of course you will feel all jumbled and out of control.
Hang in there, Matt.
gg
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