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Posted by Susan47 on January 29, 2005, at 15:29:47
It's real, it's a real love, as real as any there ever is. But all unrequited love has to change, so a client's love for his or her therapist has to change if the client is to survive it. The love. Surviving the love.
So bloody sad.
Posted by alexandra_k on January 29, 2005, at 19:21:08
In reply to What I believe right now, Love for Therapists, posted by Susan47 on January 29, 2005, at 15:29:47
> It's real, it's a real love, as real as any there ever is.
Well... It all depends on what you mean by love. I agree that phenomenologically it really can seem the same. Indistinguishable.
>But all unrequited love has to change.
Yes.
>So a client's love for his or her therapist has to change if the client is to survive it.
Yes. But you can still remember the good feelings. And the good things you liked about him, the reasons why you liked him so much. There will be others Susan. But maybe he has given you hope that there are some nice guys in the world. He did care about you. Maybe he didn't get the phenomenology of love for you, but then again maybe he did. He isn't really supposed to say... But there are nice guys in the world Susan. And you are capable of falling in love. And there is lots about you that could lead to someone who is in the position to feeling that way in return.
>The love. Surviving the love. So bloody sad.
Yes. But better to have (phenomenologically) loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
Can't remember who said that...
Posted by Susan47 on January 29, 2005, at 19:35:20
In reply to Re: What I believe right now, Love for Therapists » Susan47, posted by alexandra_k on January 29, 2005, at 19:21:08
Somewhere inside me is the little girl I was born to be. She's dancing around in there, I can feel little bits of her this morning and suddenly I know she didn't die a long time ago. She almost did die, but she isn't dead yet. My new therapy is going to help me catch her, forever. It has to, it just has to, because I know love isn't sad.
It's okay, nobody has to understand what I just said, I'm the only one who needs to know. And I'm learning to know.
Posted by alexandra_k on January 29, 2005, at 19:58:41
In reply to Re: What I believe right now, Love for Therapists » alexandra_k, posted by Susan47 on January 29, 2005, at 19:35:20
Of course she didn't die Susan. You bear the pain so that she doesn't have to - right? You looked after her and cared for her and protected her. Thats why she is so happy. You did a good job :-)
> Somewhere inside me is the little girl I was born to be. She's dancing around in there, I can feel little bits of her this morning and suddenly I know she didn't die a long time ago. She almost did die, but she isn't dead yet. My new therapy is going to help me catch her, forever.
Posted by antigua on January 31, 2005, at 20:38:31
In reply to Re: What I believe right now, Love for Therapists » alexandra_k, posted by Susan47 on January 29, 2005, at 19:35:20
I understand perfectly what you said. I'm doing the same thing--trying to catch that little girl and have her grow up the way she should have w/o all the pain, so that we can share the good times together once we are well. I firmly believe in this; it keeps me going.
antigua
Posted by Susan47 on January 31, 2005, at 23:48:13
In reply to Re: What I believe right now, Love for Therapists » Susan47, posted by antigua on January 31, 2005, at 20:38:31
Please post about this some more as it happens for you...
Posted by antigua on February 1, 2005, at 12:48:38
In reply to Re: What I believe right now, Love for Therapists » antigua, posted by Susan47 on January 31, 2005, at 23:48:13
This is the end of the thread.
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