Posted by alexandra_k on January 29, 2005, at 19:21:08
In reply to What I believe right now, Love for Therapists, posted by Susan47 on January 29, 2005, at 15:29:47
> It's real, it's a real love, as real as any there ever is.
Well... It all depends on what you mean by love. I agree that phenomenologically it really can seem the same. Indistinguishable.
>But all unrequited love has to change.
Yes.
>So a client's love for his or her therapist has to change if the client is to survive it.
Yes. But you can still remember the good feelings. And the good things you liked about him, the reasons why you liked him so much. There will be others Susan. But maybe he has given you hope that there are some nice guys in the world. He did care about you. Maybe he didn't get the phenomenology of love for you, but then again maybe he did. He isn't really supposed to say... But there are nice guys in the world Susan. And you are capable of falling in love. And there is lots about you that could lead to someone who is in the position to feeling that way in return.
>The love. Surviving the love. So bloody sad.
Yes. But better to have (phenomenologically) loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
Can't remember who said that...
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