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Posted by crushedout on November 19, 2004, at 22:49:08
I'm having a relapse.
Posted by Susan47 on November 19, 2004, at 23:34:45
In reply to I need to get with my T or die, posted by crushedout on November 19, 2004, at 22:49:08
What's happening?
Posted by gardenergirl on November 19, 2004, at 23:40:38
In reply to I need to get with my T or die, posted by crushedout on November 19, 2004, at 22:49:08
That's to be expected. This was a very important relationship. Remember how much pain you've been through, and how hard it was to make your decision finally? Now remember how empowering that felt at first. Remember what you and your new T/transitional T have worked through already. You've been in pain about this before, but you've also gotten past it. It will pass again. And each time it will get a little bit easier. I promise.
You're not alone in this.
gg
Posted by crushedout on November 20, 2004, at 1:14:27
In reply to Re: I need to get with my T or die » crushedout, posted by Susan47 on November 19, 2004, at 23:34:45
I'm just obsessing about her and longing for her and it's really awful. I hate it. I want to hate her -- it would be so much easier.
Posted by crushedout on November 20, 2004, at 1:20:11
In reply to Re: I need to get with my T or die » crushedout, posted by gardenergirl on November 19, 2004, at 23:40:38
Thanks, gg. For your post, and your promise that it will get easier, and saying that I'm not alone.I'm not sure that I actually made a decision. Well, I decided to take the break, and then I decided not to see her this week, and I made it sound like I was firing her (thanking her and all that) but I didn't really clearly fire her. I thought I had, but I hadn't of course. Which is how she got the ball back in my court, darn her.
And now I'm stuck in indecisionland again to some extent.
But I did decide to take that break and that was a huge step. So was not seeing her this week. And you're right that I felt very empowered. Why can't I remember how it felt? I don't feel it anymore. I wish I did.
-co
Posted by Susan47 on November 20, 2004, at 13:14:44
In reply to Re: I need to get with my T or die » gardenergirl, posted by crushedout on November 20, 2004, at 1:20:11
I think GG said that it'll go up and down, and it will, and I don't think you should feel like she's at all trying to manipulate you, unless you have real evidence of that. I did that, I accused my therapist of manipulating me, and it really hurt the relationship, I'm sure of that. But that's how I really truly felt, and I guess that's one of the pitfalls of the therapeutic relationship?
Undoubtedly, your therapist is trying to help you be more whole and autonomous, and it's a process that really hurts for us, but I guarantee you that in the end, it's well worth it to go through the struggle. (((crushedout)))
Posted by fallsfall on November 20, 2004, at 18:39:11
In reply to I need to get with my T or die, posted by crushedout on November 19, 2004, at 22:49:08
I know it is hard. I really do know.
Even if you can just remember that it *did* feel empowering... Maybe that would give you enough strength to get past this current hump. And GG is right, there will be ups and downs for quite a while.
You won't die because you haven't seen her. Even though it feels that way.
Breathe, Breathe. Eat ice cream.
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