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Posted by Sebastian on August 26, 2004, at 18:58:31
Seems like I am talking to a wall every time I talk about deep personal feelings with a doctor.
Posted by partlycloudy on August 26, 2004, at 19:45:15
In reply to Talk therapy, does it realy work?, posted by Sebastian on August 26, 2004, at 18:58:31
I think you have to keep looking for the right doctor. People "click" naturally. I went through a few therapists where I felt like I was playing 20 questions and was actively getting worse and this idiot (to paraphrase the Canadian politician) wasn't hearing ANYTHING I said.
Some people get along. Most (for me, at least), do not. So now I have strict parameters for selecting my doctors. Bedside manner is Number 1. Where they ranked in their class is #2. How much their staff loves them is even more important than the other two because it shows they respect them.
And yes, Sebastian. For me, with meds and talk therapy, I am much better than I was. And it doesn't feel like mania, but like PEACE. It is a gift.
Posted by DaisyM on August 26, 2004, at 21:16:11
In reply to Re: Talk therapy, does it realy work? » Sebastian, posted by partlycloudy on August 26, 2004, at 19:45:15
I think it depends on who you are talking to and if they talk back. I can't imagine having someone who provided no feedback. I need my therapist to provide his opinions, to reframe things and yes, even to soothe me. His participation is vital to me getting better.
There are days like to today, where I do most of the talking. I had a huge chunk of memories triggered and he really wanted me to tell him about them. And he knows if he interrupts, I'll get derailed and stop. But he always takes the time to go back over stuff, reframe it and reassure me that telling is OK, he's not put off by it. He talks a lot at the end. And I feel better because I'm not alone with it anymore. Someone else knows about the pain and shares my grief.
So yes, talking about it does help. Otherwise there is no place to go with all the pain.
Posted by shortelise on August 27, 2004, at 13:32:33
In reply to Talk therapy, does it realy work?, posted by Sebastian on August 26, 2004, at 18:58:31
You could say to the doc what you have written here. A large part of talk therapy is our relationship to the doc.
ShortE
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on August 27, 2004, at 14:01:52
In reply to Talk therapy, does it realy work?, posted by Sebastian on August 26, 2004, at 18:58:31
Are you taling about medical doctors or psychiatrists?
Posted by shortelise on August 28, 2004, at 0:32:11
In reply to Re: Talk therapy, does it realy work? » Sebastian, posted by Miss Honeychurch on August 27, 2004, at 14:01:52
Good question.
Posted by terrics on August 28, 2004, at 18:02:08
In reply to Talk therapy, does it realy work?, posted by Sebastian on August 26, 2004, at 18:58:31
Yes it works, but there are alot of variables. For instance, you can like your therapist,but he/she may not be doing you any good. You may not like your therapist too much but, he/she may be excellent and after awhile you realize you are getting better and the world is looking better. It is alot of work to find a good and compatible therapist [with whom you do not fall in love]; And you have to work hard in therapy too. terrics
Posted by Sebastian on August 29, 2004, at 17:31:12
In reply to Re: Talk therapy, does it realy work? » Sebastian, posted by terrics on August 28, 2004, at 18:02:08
Lets see now. I've seen the guy for 7 years, he is the same sex, which does not work. Yes I have been a very good customer lately, in a mad attempt to get better. Changeing drugs every day just about. I've always had this sort of fear of going to the doctor, stirs up memories. Also reminds me I'm sick. The way I felt last time was like I should fear him. What ever the mesage, I think less often is better. We need time to think about it.
Posted by caraher on August 30, 2004, at 18:33:48
In reply to Re: Talk therapy, does it realy work?, posted by Sebastian on August 29, 2004, at 17:31:12
I don't think it can work in that kind of setting. You need someone you're comfortable with and it seems clear you're not comfortable. Just remember that he works for you and not the other way around, and if he's at all professional you won't hurt his feelings by going to someone else (and if it *does* hurt his feelings that's his problem and not yours).
Posted by Sebastian on August 30, 2004, at 19:07:13
In reply to change, posted by caraher on August 30, 2004, at 18:33:48
My undieing fear is that the next doctor won't give me the same meds.
My appointment was supposed to be Wed. My thought is that I will just stop talk therapy again. Last time I did talk therapy it was with a different doctor, a psychologist in the same practice. I stoped going to them because I thought it was stupid..., not working. I'm still going to the same psychiatrist as from then, '98. I started talking to the psychiatrist about psychology, and he decided to put me on as a dual purpose, for 1 hour sessions. It worked great for a while about 2 years. But in the last year or so I decided that this is not working again. I have special permision from insurance for the duel purpose doctor visits. And the last time it just real ticked me off.
So what do I do?
I keep thinking that I should be better by now, not sick, 9 years after the event that started this. But when I started to come off the meds, I had withdraw that was just unreal. I pleated with my doctor to give me more.
I fear coming off meds, because I think I will go insaine, and that is what I don't want. I realy hate my life by now. I don't enjoy anything anymore, I'm not happy, . I want to start life over but I lost so many years. I don't think I will ever get off the meds. This doctor is telling me meds for life. This is good but this is bad. I need help, I have a doctor and my life is just getting worse. [Except for my job.] Life sucks I keep telling the doctor, I have not goten anything that works. More pills or cheep advice. The only reason I go anymore is because I'm afraid that I won't be able to get any pills. Now I'm rambling and getting nowhere.
I do wonder, am I not getting better because he needs money?
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