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Posted by pegasus on July 23, 2004, at 22:41:48
Today I had a therapy appointment, just like every Friday. I also had a special type of massage lined up. Then around noon I got a call about a type of emergency and I had to go to the hospital from noon until about 6:00. I called my T to cancel and try to reschedule, and she called back and made another appt for Monday, and tried to be helpful but I couldn't get good reception on my phone so it was not a good call. I am soooooooooo upset! I really needed to talk to her *today*. And the emergency only made it worse. And I missed my massage, too, and couldn't even call to tell the masseuse that I wouldn't make it.
I feel like such a *loser* because it's all my fault, and I should have planned things better, and now I don't get to see my T for *days*. I should have known that this emergency could happen today, and I shouldn't have made appointments.
I really want to call my T, but her voicemail says she only checks from 8 to 5 on weekdays. And we've never talked about calling before. So, I don't know if it would be kosher.
I came home and hunkered down on the couch for hours, with my husband fluttering helplessly around me, and I just didn't have the energy to reassure him that I'd be ok, or tell him what happened.
So Waaaaaaaa Waaaaaaaaaaa. What a bad day. And then I just caught up on this board, and it's a war zone here. So, thanks to anyone who even reads this. And lots of hugs and love to everyone who is trying so hard to figure out what to do.
pegasus
Posted by Dinah on July 23, 2004, at 23:04:24
In reply to Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by pegasus on July 23, 2004, at 22:41:48
That really stinks. :( I'd have been upset too. (Especially since my therapist would have made me pay. grin.)
Ok, we'll help you count down the days. And you'll see her on Monday. If you hadn't missed seeing her today you wouldn't be seeing her that soon! (See how I twist things around to make therapy absences seem shorter?)
Posted by AuntieMel on July 23, 2004, at 23:13:51
In reply to Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by pegasus on July 23, 2004, at 22:41:48
How awful. It looks like everyone is having a bad week.
At least one part of the war zone has been patched up. (happy face)
Posted by NVDeb on July 23, 2004, at 23:17:55
In reply to Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by pegasus on July 23, 2004, at 22:41:48
I don't see mine until Thursday :( I missed this last Thursday because I had an ear operation on Wednesday. I miss her. Sigh. There's two types of days... T-Day, and T-Day-Minus-#-of-Days ;) :)
Posted by Klokka on July 23, 2004, at 23:29:13
In reply to Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by pegasus on July 23, 2004, at 22:41:48
So sorry to hear your day went like that! :( Sounds like a nightmarish situation, to not only miss therapy but to miss it because of a stressful situation. At least you get to see her on Monday, though I can just imagine how time might drag on in this situation. Hope you can find some things to do to help you feel better and pass the time. Maybe watching some favourite movies would work for you? I always find that to be a good distraction.
Posted by Poet on July 23, 2004, at 23:35:33
In reply to Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by pegasus on July 23, 2004, at 22:41:48
Pegasus,
You can't plan an emergency, don't blame yourself. Call the massage therapist and apologize and reschedule. My husband is a massage therapist, he understands emergencies, and so will yours. I can't say about calling your T, mine doesn't mind at all if I call her.
I hope this weekend flies by for you and Monday doesn't seem so far away.
Poet
Posted by lucy stone on July 24, 2004, at 7:45:29
In reply to Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by pegasus on July 23, 2004, at 22:41:48
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Missing therapy when you really need to see your T is not good. I'm going to play my husband and try and fix the problem, even though I know that can be very anoying. You say that she only checks her voice mail on weekdays, but does the message on her machine give alternatives for urgent situations? My T gives a pager number on his message so he can be reached out of office hours. If she gives any way for you to reach her you could go ahead and call her. You say that you have never talked about calls but maybe you have a sense of how she would react. Do you think she would be OK with it? Maybe just a 5 minute call to touch base would make you feel better.
Lucy
Posted by gardenergirl on July 24, 2004, at 12:04:05
In reply to Re: Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by lucy stone on July 24, 2004, at 7:45:29
Pegasus,
I'm so sorry about your day yesterday. My T is getting ready to go on vacation, so I am keeping my fingers crossed that nothing goes wrong on Thursday so I won't miss my last before he leaves session.I'm sorry, too, that it is a bit confusing about calls. I wonder, like Lucy Stone said, if there is a way to contact for emergencies. Given the difficulty you had on the phone, I think a follow up call is appropriate.
Doncha hate cell phone connections? Mine stinks in my neighborhood because there are not enough towers around, and my old house is all plaster. Dropping calls is becoming an Olympic event for me.
Take care, and post here if it helps. I think we can keep this thread peaceful! :)
gg
Posted by pegasus on July 24, 2004, at 16:05:54
In reply to ((((Pegasus)))), posted by Dinah on July 23, 2004, at 23:04:24
Dinah, you are an angel. Thanks so much for your quick reply last night. I got it just before I went to bed, and it made me feel much better. You're right that now it'll only be 2 more days until I see her. And, while she said she wouldn't make me pay because it was an emergency, I think I'm going to pay her anyway, because I shouldn't have scheduled an appt. yesterday anyway. It was the type of emergency that I knew would happen then if it happened at all. I just really wanted my therapy session at the normal time, so I scheduled it anyway. :(
pegasus
Posted by pegasus on July 24, 2004, at 16:08:10
In reply to Re: Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today! » pegasus, posted by AuntieMel on July 23, 2004, at 23:13:51
Hi AuntieMel,
Yes, it does seem like a bad week for a lot of folks. Fortunately there are wonderful people like you ready to give support wherever it's needed. I'm so glad that things were patched up between you and Dinah, that was quite confusing. And things with fires seem to be calming down a bit too.
So, here's wishing for a pleasant and peacefull next week for babble!
pegasus
Posted by pegasus on July 24, 2004, at 16:10:04
In reply to Re: Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by NVDeb on July 23, 2004, at 23:17:55
Hi NVDeb,
Oh! You had to miss therapy and have an operation on the same day! That's even worse. I hope your ear is doing ok.
We'll help you count down too, if you want. So . . . let's see . . . today is T Day minus 4 for you (I'm not counting today, to make it seem easier). I hope you have a really good session on Thursday, to make up for it.
pegasus
Posted by pegasus on July 24, 2004, at 16:13:57
In reply to Re: Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today! » pegasus, posted by Klokka on July 23, 2004, at 23:29:13
Thanks, Klokka. It *was* really hard. But I'm doing better now. I was pretty non functional last night. Just functional enough to post to babble. I'm still really spacy, and having a hard time dealing with some of the stuff that went on yesterday, but you're right that at least I get to talk it over on Monday in therapy.
And until then, I like the favorite movies idea! I think it's time to dig out that tape of Jurrasic Park (not quite ready for anything more intellectually challenging).
pegasus
Posted by pegasus on July 24, 2004, at 16:18:39
In reply to Re: Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today! » pegasus, posted by Poet on July 23, 2004, at 23:35:33
Thanks, Poet. This was actually a type of emergency that I should have planned for. See, I work on a rape crisis hotline, and I was on call yesterday, but I totally forgot that I was. So I made all these appointments.
And then, the hotline called me and I had to go to the hospital for a case, and I was there for *hours*. I remembered my T's phone #, but I forgot my masseuse's, so I couldn't even call.
So, it was my fault, because it's terrible to forget my hotline shift. I also rescheduled my therapy appointment right over my Pilates class on Monday (too bad for Pilates, because I'm taking that session!). I think I need to pay attention to my disombobulation and forgetfulness, and figure out what's going on for me that I'm so out of it lately.
Sigh. I really appreciate your encouragement.
pegasus
Posted by pegasus on July 24, 2004, at 16:22:02
In reply to Re: Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by lucy stone on July 24, 2004, at 7:45:29
Hi lucy,
I love your name by the way. Lucy Stone is one of my heroes.
Well, her voicemail says that she only checks from 8 to 5 on weekdays. Then the emergency instructions are to call 911 or go to the emergency room. But to be fair with her, her disclosure statement did explain that she doesn't take clients who are frequently in crisis or frequently hospitalized. I imagine that if she had someone who became suicidal, she might check more often. But I doubt she'll check this weekend. I might call anyway, just to leave her a message and apologize again, and let her know that I'm pretty whacked out this weekend.
Thanks for your help. I'm definitely gonna talk to her about calls on Monday, for future reference.
pegasus
Posted by pegasus on July 24, 2004, at 16:24:30
In reply to Re: Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by gardenergirl on July 24, 2004, at 12:04:05
Thanks GG!
I appreciate your thoughts on this. I think I will make a follow up call, although I won't expect her to call back this weekend. But it might make me feel better just to speak to her voicemail. And then I think I'd better have that conversation about calling on Monday.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you on Thursday too! Missing a session stinks!
pegasus
Posted by daisym on July 24, 2004, at 20:32:03
In reply to Re: Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by pegasus on July 24, 2004, at 16:10:04
Peg,
I find that I am spacey and forgetful when I'm overwhelmed and/or "more" depressed. It is especially bad when I'm not sleeping. I cling to my date book. It is the best grounder I have.
I'm glad she could move you from Fri to Monday...it sounds like you need her. I think you might need a more soothing movie than Jurassic Park, however. But to each his own! :)
Post often if it helps. I'm around this weekend, tied to the desk to get ready for next week. I could use the distraction.
Posted by pegasus on July 24, 2004, at 22:56:18
In reply to Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by pegasus on July 23, 2004, at 22:41:48
Posted by Raindancer on July 25, 2004, at 6:53:44
In reply to Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by pegasus on July 23, 2004, at 22:41:48
Posted by pegasus on July 26, 2004, at 17:41:30
In reply to Waaaaaaa! Missed therapy today!, posted by pegasus on July 23, 2004, at 22:41:48
I got my therapy session finally today. And while she said I didn't have to pay for the missed session, I did anyway, because I really felt that it was my responsibility that I botched up my scheduling on Friday so badly.
We had a great session, especially talking about what happened on Friday. She is just so kind and caring! She was almost crying again at the worst part.
And she managed to tie my feelings about what happened in to another theme that I've been needing to talk about, and it makes the whole experience, especially my reactions, make more sense. We came up with a list of things involved in that tangle that need working on. I'm really feeling optimistic. And I already totally love this therapist. In a professional sense, of course. ;)
pegasus
Posted by Dinah on July 26, 2004, at 18:09:16
In reply to Update, posted by pegasus on July 26, 2004, at 17:41:30
Glad you got a good therapist there.
Posted by gardenergirl on July 26, 2004, at 18:25:45
In reply to Update, posted by pegasus on July 26, 2004, at 17:41:30
> >
> And she managed to tie my feelings about what happened in to another theme that I've been needing to talk about, and it makes the whole experience, especially my reactions, make more sense.I'm always in awe when my T does this with events that to me seem totally unrelated. But when he puts it together in such a way that I can understand it in my bones as well as my brain, it's just such an amazing thing. It also tells me he is really listening.
Although sometimes I call him evil because he is so good at this. These are usually the times when I am caught up in ranting about external things, and then he brings it altogether back to me, and I am just floored.
But evil in a good way! :D
Take care and I'm glad your session went well.
gg
Posted by Klokka on July 26, 2004, at 21:02:18
In reply to Update, posted by pegasus on July 26, 2004, at 17:41:30
Posted by daisym on July 27, 2004, at 1:35:31
In reply to Re: Update, posted by gardenergirl on July 26, 2004, at 18:25:45
Peg, I'm glad your session was worth waiting for. Did you use art to get into the center of this? I'm finding more and more that using my writing helps me get to the core of the issue. I'm so interested in whether art (no words) does the same thing.
Please share if you are oomfortable.
Posted by pegasus on July 27, 2004, at 16:16:08
In reply to Re: Update, posted by daisym on July 27, 2004, at 1:35:31
No, actually, this was the only session I've had with her so far where I didn't use any art. I think I had a lot of stuff right at the top, ready to be talked about. And I didn't want to be distracted by the art. But we agreed that in my next session (on Friday already!) there are some things that I might want to try to work on with clay or painting.
It was interesting that even when I wasn't actually making any art, her language was very visual. When she'd ask me to describe things, she'd want to know about what colors and textures they had for me. So that was interesting. At one point, when talking about my confusion on an issue, I visualized this big wall of chaos, with lots of colors and things moving around and hands and feet sticking out. So I think I'm going to work with that a bit in the future.
pegasus
Posted by pegasus on July 27, 2004, at 16:16:34
In reply to Update, posted by pegasus on July 26, 2004, at 17:41:30
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