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Posted by Asya on February 20, 2004, at 13:19:14
First, thanks Karen, elle, jai, and everyone on soial for responding to my post yesterday. You guys make me smile when nothing else can. I had my regular session with my T today and I feel more alone and depressed -- what's hard is that sometimes she is SO GREAT (like two weeks ago she was awesome and I just left feeling so secure and cared for and loved)--and today she was kind of being more businesslike than I would have liked. does anyone know what I mean? I left almost feeling like I am being a total brat about my problems and that I am privileged and don't have any problems. She never explicitly SAID anything about that, just sort of hinted that I need to do some stuff to change things, when in reality, I don't feel like my problems are my fault at all. :(
Posted by Dinah on February 20, 2004, at 14:53:45
In reply to Not a great session..., posted by Asya on February 20, 2004, at 13:19:14
Yeah, they do have their off days. I don't even *remember* my session Tuesday, and I'm not sure I'll remember today's. Sometimes he seems distant. Sometimes he's great.
But he tells me, and I tend to believe him, that I often read too much into his reactions. That it's the relationship as a whole that matters.
Does your therapist usually give you this impression? If it was just today, I think you can assume that she might just have had something on her mind.
As for changing things. I expect we all have a few things we can change to help us cope better with whatever life throws our way. It doesn't mean she thinks you're at fault. It just means she wants you to feel better, and there are things she thinks you can do to feel better.
Posted by Karen_kay on February 20, 2004, at 15:20:47
In reply to Not a great session..., posted by Asya on February 20, 2004, at 13:19:14
I'm sorry the session you had today left you feeling worse. That seems to be going around here. Just remember that not all sessions go well. We have to have bad ones, I guess?? Or at least ones that challenge us. And if you feel her challenging was too much, or off track, speak up. I often point things out to my therapist that he's doing "wrong." But, if you question her, then at least she'll know that you are thinking about things, you know.....
As for your home situation, do you want to come and live with me hun? I wish I had some advice for that, but I really think you need to get out of that environment. It's not helping you.
Posted by Karen_kay on February 20, 2004, at 15:23:19
In reply to Re: Not a great session... » Asya, posted by Dinah on February 20, 2004, at 14:53:45
Have you ever watched "The Horse Whisperer" You are like the therapist whisperer. Did you read a particular book to be able to decipher sessions and the meaning of them? Please, share your knowledge. I'd sometimes like to know what's going on in my therapist's head,.....
Posted by All Done on February 20, 2004, at 17:12:25
In reply to Not a great session..., posted by Asya on February 20, 2004, at 13:19:14
> I left almost feeling like I am being a total brat about my problems and that I am privileged and don't have any problems. She never explicitly SAID anything about that, just sort of hinted that I need to do some stuff to change things, when in reality, I don't feel like my problems are my fault at all. :(
Asya,
I'm sorry you had a tough session.
Correct me if I'm way off base, here, but it sounds like you think your therapist was telling you to take responsibility for all of your problems when perhaps she was suggesting that you take responsibility of your feelings and actions in regards to those problems. I'm just now starting to realize that while there are a lot of things I can't control, I can control how I react to those things. Maybe she just wants to help you learn the skills necessary for coping with the bad stuff.
Just my thoughts. I hope your week turns around and that you can work through this in your next session.
(((Asya)))
Take care of yourself,
All Done
Posted by Dinah on February 20, 2004, at 17:36:43
In reply to Re: Dinah, I figured you out.. » Dinah, posted by Karen_kay on February 20, 2004, at 15:23:19
Oh Heavens. That sounds as if I'm insufferable. Do I really come across as a know it all? I think I'd better work on changing my sentence structure. :)
Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps...
Maybe...
Could it be....
In my experience it has been....
Posted by terrics on February 22, 2004, at 9:21:31
In reply to Re: Not a great session... » Asya, posted by Dinah on February 20, 2004, at 14:53:45
I think Diana is right. They all have there off days. I also think all of us read to much into what they say. I think we have to piick and chose the stuff we need. terrics
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