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Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 10, 2004, at 10:12:36
ok u to to therpy to get better right ?
well i went into therpy got better and discharged which most of u know that but now i am worse then what i was when i went in ummm??
why wasnt transfernce brong up and told about when i went into therpy ?
i walked in therpy thinking i was going to get better but i didnt i am havin several more panic attacks and my depression is horriable where i dont even want to wake up in the morning.
i fell in love with my ex-therapist and i found myself so miserable with out him i feel like i need him and cant go onwith out him ... i told my new therapist and all she says it will get better no advice from her ...isnt that bit strange ?
the lurking ? is y dont us women/men that fall in love with there therapist walk away before the pain gets to intense? is it true u r gettin ur heart professioallny broken ?
i read "in session" and that is where this ? comes from and i didnt really understand the book to begin with .
Posted by Crooked Heart on February 10, 2004, at 18:46:44
In reply to Heart Professionally Broken ??, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 10, 2004, at 10:12:36
Hi lilmsbubbles
You asked why weren't you told about transference when you started therapy. I've been thinking about starting a new thread on that one:
Before a doctor gives a treatment that might have powerful side-effects they're ethically obliged to warn you about the possible effects, right? Well therapy transference can have such HUGE effects on a person's life, more than many meds etc. And it seems to happen so often. So would it be a good idea if therapists had to warn clients about this possibility?
I think perhaps the reason why people don't walk away is maybe because it's those who most need their therapists (because of the biggest lack when they were small) who 'fall' hardest.
I feel sad and angry that your first therapy was so bad for you.
Would it help if you were to explain again to your new therapist that how you feel about your first t is getting in the way of doing anything about other issues? I don't know if that's a good idea, any suggestions, anyone?
Keep posting.
Posted by terrics on February 10, 2004, at 19:00:36
In reply to Re: Heart Professionally Broken ?? » lilmsbubbles07, posted by Crooked Heart on February 10, 2004, at 18:46:44
I am sorry this happened to you. It is scary that it can happen. Perhaps you can have a long discussion on transference and counter-transference with your new T. before you delve into therapy. Crookd heart has a good idea about starting a new thread on transference; And why not countertransference too? We all seem obsessed with our therapists,don't we? terrics
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 10, 2004, at 21:06:35
In reply to Re: Heart Professionally Broken ?? » lilmsbubbles07, posted by Crooked Heart on February 10, 2004, at 18:46:44
> Hi lilmsbubbles
>
> You asked why weren't you told about transference when you started therapy. I've been thinking about starting a new thread on that one:
>
I THINK THAT WOULD BE A GOOD IDEA!!> Before a doctor gives a treatment that might have powerful side-effects they're ethically obliged to warn you about the possible effects, right? I THOUGHT SO BUT I GUESS NOT
Well therapy transference can have such HUGE effects on a person's life, more than many meds etc. And it seems to happen so often. So would it be a good idea if therapists had to warn clients about this possibility?
>
> I think perhaps the reason why people don't walk away is maybe because it's those who most need their therapists (because of the biggest lack when they were small) who 'fall' hardest.
>
> I feel sad and angry that your first therapy was so bad for you.
> HAVE U READ MY STORY IF NOT I WILL EXPLAIN IT TO U !!
> Would it help if you were to explain again to your new therapist that how you feel about your first t is getting in the way of doing anything about other issues? I don't know if that's a good idea, any suggestions, anyone?
WELL I HAVE EXPLAINED IT TO HER AND SHE LAUGHS WHICH MAKES ME FEEL LIKE A A**!!! SHE TELLS MY FEELINGS ARENT REAL BUT THEY ARE REAL OR I WOULDNT FEL SO MUCH PAIN RIGHT ? MAYBE I AM JUST CRAZY BUT AT THIS POINT I WANT TO JUST DIG A HOLE LAY IN IT AND DIE
>
> Keep posting.
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 11, 2004, at 2:43:08
In reply to Heart Professionally Broken ??, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 10, 2004, at 10:12:36
> i read "in session" and that is where this ? comes from...
I'd just like to plug the double double quotes feature at this site:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#amazon
The first time anyone refers to a book without using this option, I post this to try to make sure he or she at least knows about it. It's just an option, though, and doesn't *have* to be used. If people *choose* not to use it, I'd be interested why not, but I'd like that redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020918/msgs/7717.html
Thanks!
Bob
Posted by Fallen4myT on February 11, 2004, at 10:38:17
In reply to Re: double double quotes » lilmsbubbles07, posted by Dr. Bob on February 11, 2004, at 2:43:08
I am so sorry I cannot imagine the pain and dread the day I get sent away from my T. I hurt for you
Posted by Crooked Heart on February 11, 2004, at 13:27:22
In reply to Re: Heart Professionally Broken ??, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 10, 2004, at 21:06:35
It is just terrible that your therapist should laugh at you. And just as bad to tell you that your feelings aren't real. Pardon me but there's only one person who knows how real your feelings are.
How can anyone say it's not not real, it's only transference when it might be the strongest most overwhelming way you've ever felt about another human being.
I don't know your story as I've only recently started posting to this board. What happened?
I'm sorry you're feeling so terrible.
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