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Posted by Joslynn on February 5, 2004, at 9:46:57
Me and my dopey phone calls to my pdoc. (He does therapy with me too, even though he is a pdoc--he is kind of old-school in that way, not just meds.)
Anyway, I called my pdoc's office line to let him know I had to cancel my next appt due to a work trip. The msg started out very normal and business like, and then, I don't know what got into me, but I said, "I hope we can reschedule soon...I will be so looong since our last appointment...I miss you!" in this little girl voice.
Good grief. Now it's immortalized on tape. I could never say that in person, it just came out of me during the msg. I feel like a dope. It was this needy, whiney voice. ack!
Now if he doesn't call back soon to reshedule I'll think it's because he is all scared that I said I missed him, which is silly, that wouldn't scare him. And I think I remember him saying he is on vacation this week anyway.
I swear, talking on the phone brings out the transference more than in person does. I think I get needier on the phone, or I express it more.
Please tell me I did not sound like a whiney baby on the phone.
Posted by Dinah on February 5, 2004, at 10:17:13
In reply to transference and the phone, posted by Joslynn on February 5, 2004, at 9:46:57
I don't know if this will help, but you probably sounded just like me both in person and on the phone with my therapist. I cringe afterwards and promise never to do it again, but I do. I've talked to my therapist about it though, and he swears he doesn't think less of me for it, and I'm sure your pdoc won't either.
> Me and my dopey phone calls to my pdoc. (He does therapy with me too, even though he is a pdoc--he is kind of old-school in that way, not just meds.)
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> Anyway, I called my pdoc's office line to let him know I had to cancel my next appt due to a work trip. The msg started out very normal and business like, and then, I don't know what got into me, but I said, "I hope we can reschedule soon...I will be so looong since our last appointment...I miss you!" in this little girl voice.
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> Good grief. Now it's immortalized on tape. I could never say that in person, it just came out of me during the msg. I feel like a dope. It was this needy, whiney voice. ack!
>
> Now if he doesn't call back soon to reshedule I'll think it's because he is all scared that I said I missed him, which is silly, that wouldn't scare him. And I think I remember him saying he is on vacation this week anyway.
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> I swear, talking on the phone brings out the transference more than in person does. I think I get needier on the phone, or I express it more.
>
> Please tell me I did not sound like a whiney baby on the phone.
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>
Posted by antigua on February 5, 2004, at 18:47:33
In reply to transference and the phone, posted by Joslynn on February 5, 2004, at 9:46:57
You did not sound like a whiney baby on the phone. How's that? Feel better? Believe in yourself. You did what you needed to do and it helps him (it is a him?) to help you.
antigua
Posted by Joslynn on February 6, 2004, at 16:03:59
In reply to Re: transference and the phone, posted by antigua on February 5, 2004, at 18:47:33
Well I finally talked to my pdoc on the phone (not via voicemail) to change the time of my nex appt. On the phone he sounded completely friendly and fine. He didn't reference my previous whiney phone call or say, "let's talk about your whineyness" or "I played your needy pouty message to the other shrinks and we all had a good laugh." (I know that wouldn't really happen, just exagerating my own feelings of insecurity.)
This time, I was not needy on the phone. Just polite and businesslike, probably because I happen to be wearing a business suit at work.
So it all worked out ok. Thanks for the responses.
Posted by antigua on February 6, 2004, at 18:22:58
In reply to update, posted by Joslynn on February 6, 2004, at 16:03:59
Posted by Dinah on February 7, 2004, at 11:23:13
In reply to update, posted by Joslynn on February 6, 2004, at 16:03:59
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