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Posted by Poet on January 28, 2004, at 11:33:52
Hi,
How do I tell my new boss that I need to leave an hour early on Thursdays? Or if Thursdays are bad days at work, what other days can I come in late, take a long lunch or leave early?
Do I email her this week so she can check the department meeting/deadline schedules? Wait until next Tuesday and talk to her in person?
I won't tell her where I go, just that I have a standing appointment and let her think what she wants. I'm really getting anxiety over this and my therapist is of no help. Her evening appointments are booked, and even if they weren't I knew from the start they're for clients who are insured or pay her full rate. I'm okay with this and understand it from the economical point of view. So later appointments are not an option.
Scheduling therapy sessions should not trigger anxiety, but it sure did for me.
Poet
Posted by lookdownfish on January 28, 2004, at 11:43:19
In reply to Telling new boss I need time off for Therapy, posted by Poet on January 28, 2004, at 11:33:52
Hmm. That's difficult. I would prefer to do it in person rather than email. Pity your boss is not a man, because they are less likely to ask questions. If she asks what is for you can say it's a regular medical appointment. Could you offer to go in to work early on the Thursday to make up the time? I have never asked my boss. I just leave early on a Tuesday. No-one ever questions it. They probably think its something to do with my childcare arrangements. But I have been in my job for a while, so its a bit different.
Posted by DaisyM on January 28, 2004, at 16:17:50
In reply to Re: Telling new boss I need time off for Therapy » Poet, posted by lookdownfish on January 28, 2004, at 11:43:19
As the boss, I would really appreciate someone coming in and saying, I need to leave early for a standing appointment on... I can come in early or I will work at home to make up the time.
I know that working 1 hour at home = 3 at work! I would respect however much the person wanted to tell me and leave it at that. Really good people are hard to find so we need to be flexible for them. I'm sure it will be fine! But i would do it in person.
Posted by Poet on January 29, 2004, at 15:07:32
In reply to Re: Telling new boss I need time off for Therapy » Poet, posted by lookdownfish on January 28, 2004, at 11:43:19
I'm going to talk to her in person on Tuesday. She might say no problem and all this anxiety is over nothing. Why do I do this to myself, worrying over things that haven't happened yet? Hmm, that's why I have to leave early on Thursdays, isn't it?
Poet
Posted by Poet on January 29, 2004, at 15:17:26
In reply to Re: Telling new boss I need time off for Therapy » lookdownfish, posted by DaisyM on January 28, 2004, at 16:17:50
Thanks for giving me a boss's perspective.
I agree that I need to do this in person, so Tuesday when I'm alone with her, I'll bring it up. If Thursdays work for her and the department, I'll work though my lunch hour or come in early or whatever she suggests is best.
Anxiety go away, and don't come back on Tuesday.
Poet
Posted by DaisyM on January 29, 2004, at 18:23:56
In reply to Re: Telling new boss I need time off for Therapy » DaisyM, posted by Poet on January 29, 2004, at 15:17:26
Poet,
While I can't make the anxiety go away I can tell you that I get special requests all the time. I have a staff of 32, mostly women and they lead complicated lives with unbelievable schedules. My philosophy has always been if I let them do what they need to, they will appreciate it and work harder the time they are here. Women juggle so much anyway - so take a breath and expect the best!
Posted by gardenergirl on January 29, 2004, at 22:33:12
In reply to It will be OK! » Poet, posted by DaisyM on January 29, 2004, at 18:23:56
Daisy,
You sound like a great boss!
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on January 29, 2004, at 22:33:46
In reply to Re: Telling new boss I need time off for Therapy » DaisyM, posted by Poet on January 29, 2004, at 15:17:26
Poet,
I hope it goes well. I'll be thinking about you.
gg
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