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Posted by Asya on January 26, 2004, at 14:50:39
I am having some issues regarding my relationship with my T, but she likely has no idea. (Or maybe she does and she's not saying). I am becomg super attached to her, I think about her all the time, imagine conversations, think incessantly about what I should say next week. I know I will have to leave in a few months due to insurance issues. Thing is, I am betting she views me as an easy case -- I am an MBA student, and seemingly have my head on straight, so perhaps she doesn't give it a second thought that I could be becoming dependent on her. I need to stop thinking about therapy because it is interferring with my regular life. HELP!
Posted by gardenergirl on January 26, 2004, at 15:12:00
In reply to Thinking too much about therapy.., posted by Asya on January 26, 2004, at 14:50:39
Asya,
I am also a grad student, and it would seem like we are high functioning, easy clients. In many cases, I think we could be. But I am coming to the realization that I have developed a maternal (or perhaps paternal, I'll try to find out next session) transference. I am a psychology trainee, and going into therapy, I thought "that won't happen to me" as if it was a bad thing. But I did not want to feel vulnerable or dependent. I wanted to view my therapy as something that I was doing for myself as self-improvement. Which it is, but I am finding it to be a necessary thing right now. Over Christmas break I became more depressed, which may be related to not having sessions.Anyway, I do similar things. I never come with an agenda, but for tomorrow's session, I feel like I have a million things to say, and I had to write them down, even in the order I wanted to address them. (He'll be lucky to get a word in.) I wanted to call him to tell him about accomplishing a major thing, but freaked out because it seemed so like a daughter. I made myself wait until tomorrow, but I feel ready to talk about it.
I feel for you. I don't have to worry about insurance issues as my therapy is through campus. Perhaps your school offers therapy if you want to continue someday? But the attachment is normal. It likely feels scary because it's different from what we are used to and because you know it will end in the near future.
Good luck to you. I bet if she isn't aware, she at least will be fine with it. I would recommend talking to her about it. I know I am going to brave this tomorrow. I'll let you know how it goes.
gg
Posted by terrics on January 26, 2004, at 15:25:37
In reply to Thinking too much about therapy.., posted by Asya on January 26, 2004, at 14:50:39
Hi, I hope what is happening to you is normal because it has happened to me and continues to happen...Same thing...thinking about her between sessions, talking to her in my head, and whatever else you said. I am not stupid either. I am an RN. You would think I could be less dependent. ps It may be because of my dx. terrics
Posted by lookdownfish on January 27, 2004, at 4:40:57
In reply to Thinking too much about therapy.., posted by Asya on January 26, 2004, at 14:50:39
Asya
This happened to me when I first started therapy. And on this board I've read so much about very dependent attachments and obsessions with therapists, that I consider it to be a completely normal reaction to therapy. I am about 10 months into therapy now, and it has settled down somewhat. I still think about my T a lot, and still imagine conversations with her, but it is no longer interfering with my everyday life. It's more of a refuge in my mind that I go to when I need to. So in my experience, it does get better. It's a shame you will have to finish seeing her so soon, because it might take a while for these feelings to settle down to a point where you are comfortable. Don't torture yourself about it. Tell her that it's getting you down, then you can work it out together.
Posted by Crooked Heart on January 29, 2004, at 2:46:36
In reply to Thinking too much about therapy.., posted by Asya on January 26, 2004, at 14:50:39
> I need to stop thinking about therapy because it is interferring with my regular life. HELP!
Hi Asya
I don't want to repeat another post, in the Re: Update on my transference thread, but especially if your time in therapy is likely to be limited, as you mentioned previously, I'd bring this up soon with your therapist. You might refer her to "In Session" if you need to make the point that it isn't 'just you', but maybe she will be well aware anyway.
I hope things go well for you.
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 29, 2004, at 17:45:05
In reply to Re: Thinking too much about therapy.. » Asya, posted by Crooked Heart on January 29, 2004, at 2:46:36
> You might refer her to "In Session"...
I'd just like to plug the double double quotes feature at this site:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#amazon
The first time anyone refers to a book without using this option, I post this to try to make sure he or she at least knows about it. It's just an option, though, and doesn't *have* to be used. If people *choose* not to use it, I'd be interested why not, but I'd like that redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020918/msgs/7717.html
Thanks!
Bob
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